[Cinnamon_Stick]

Do you feel a connection to your T? How do you know its there?

I can feel a deep connection with my T. She has teared up listening to me talk about something painful, we say "I have love for you", her hugs make me feel loved and cared about, she "gets it".

I dont feel a connection with anyone.

[puzzclar]

When I am throwing balls at him we're connected but then I just wish he would just tell me what he is thinking. ... not what I want to hear.

Yes, I feel a deep connection with my t. Most of the time. Every now and again there have been times when I couldn't feel it.... like last week when I was kinda messed up. But as soon as we talk again it's back. I just feel like she "gets me" so well... it's hard to explain because I don't feel this depth of connection with anyone else not even my h.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Yes, I feel connected. She offers a lot of eye contact, which helps.

My t is one of the few people in the world i feel some small connection with. I have learned the hard way to not trust or get attached to people.
T and i, we say i love you a lot, we spend time doing fun things together, we make each other laugh which i think is a really good way for me to connect with someone.

[stopdog]

No, I do not.

[Crescent Moon]

Most of the time I do.

[Leah123]

When we share beautiful music.
When we talk about a shared loss in life.
When we hug.
When I know I can trust her to read my endless emails and reply.
When I can't stop crying and she stays with me til I do.
When we celebrate together.
When she comforts me.
When I give her my dreams.
When she holds my tears or fears.
When we problem solve together.
When we imagine my new life together.
When we build outlets for my creativity- healing visualizations.
Every time I think of her and *know* she is there.

[Daystrom]

I've always thought so, but lately I'm thinking that I only feel a connection because she's trained to make me think I do. And I remember what trusting people has usually gotten me.

[brillskep]

Yes, there is a deep connection between my therapist and I and we both recognize it. Things like how he knows when I'm going to ask for a hug, how once when I needed extra help with what we had discussed in session an was writing a text to him he called me before I could hit send to help with that, the moments when we laugh together or share moments and things, or just moments when he listens to me an empathizes (and the not so common moments when I listen to him and empathize), etc. We still have several areas where we don't quite connect, even after over 5 years, but overall we really care about each other and we both know it. This creates the kind ocf atmosphere I need in order to grow and develop.

I feel connected to her, but I figure it probably doesn't feel deep on her end. She has many patients after all, and I'm just one.

I used to feel it, but I know it's all in my head and completely non-reciprocal so I push any such notion away if it should arise. I don't feel connected to other people except sometimes for very brief moments - usually in work related contexts.

[divine1966]

There is a connection. We need one to be able to open up. but it's nothing deep and I don't really worry about that. I don't think about therapy and don't analyze it. I go there to share and get help with specific issues. Therapy all by itself isn't on my mind thAt much. It does help though

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[iheartjacques]

Sometimes I feel connected to him. If we are talking and listening well. I don't get that with a lot of people. Maybe about half that I come across.

Originally Posted by Daystrom

I've always thought so, but lately I'm thinking that I only feel a connection because she's trained to make me think I do. And I remember what trusting people has usually gotten me.

Exactly.

[atisketatasket]

A professional connection, sure, but like someone said, it's what they're trained to do as part of treatment. You need to get a client to trust you. But if you mean a more personal, human connection, as though we weren't in a therapeutic relationship? Occasionally, usually with a shared joke, but I don't regard that as a consistent, real connection.

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[Coco3]

Yes, I felt connected to my ex T. I still do actually.

It's something built up over the years. It's an internal feeling of trust and mutual respect

[gayleggg]

I feel connected to my T but not as connected as I was to my previous T. But I haven't been seeing him as long either and I think that makes a difference. Plus it different type of therapy. My previous T and I spent a lot of time on my previous history. The TV I see now mostly sticks with what is happening in the now.

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I thought I had a connection with my ex-therapist, but now I realize he was only pretending to care because I paid him. I will never fall for that again. Ever.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987

I thought I had a connection with my ex-therapist, but now I realize he was only pretending to care because I paid him. I will never fall for that again. Ever.

How do you know this?

[iheartjacques]

Sometimes I feel with my students the way T might feel. Some you can connect with, some you have to work at harder. But I don't just do it because I'm paid to. I actually care about these kids and look for the best in them and encourage them.

[stopdog]

For me, a therapist is not a teacher and I am most certainly not a child.

A student is not necessarily a child either. I tend to feel some kind of connection - built on mutual respect, not on any kind of hierarchy or adult-child relation - with my students (all of whom are over 20, and many over 30). It's a very beneficial thing I believe; I could not work as a teacher if I didn't get that, I think. I used to think that I had the same king of thing with my T, but I know better now. I'm sure he gets it with some of his other patients, though.