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4 | 7.84% | |||
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Reasonably high |
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11 | 21.57% | |||
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Too high (I expect too much) |
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5 | 9.80% | |||
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High in an appropriate way |
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28 | 54.90% | |||
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Other |
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3 | 5.88% | |||
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However, I do trust that a therapist won't suddenly go away, because it's part of their professional role not to do that. So once again, I expect professionalism; I know some of them won't be professional but that doesn't mean I expect anything less. (I don't expect love or care or anything because that's not part of the professional package.) |
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If by "others," you mean some random guy on the street, then, yes, I do have higher expectations. If we're comparing my expectations to those I have for other trained professionals dealing with important stuff, then my expectations are the same.
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I'm not going to admit to expecting too much!
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I would expect that they are consistent in their behaviors/boundaries. Mine has not been.
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do you allow a change in your expectations if the relationship also changes for example if you get closer or if you have a rupture do the expectations you have of your therapist/psychologist change.
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I would not get closer to a therapist, but there are a good many areas I no longer try to address around the woman because she bungled things. She one time said, when fishing for compliments, that X was no longer an issue for me - I burst out laughing and informed her X was the same, I just no longer bothered telling her about it.
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You make a good point. Over time the patient grows (I hope!) and the relationship should grow too. If not, the patient leaves.
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It really goes the other way with me--I tend to think my therapist has high expectations of me (and I have them of myself) which catches me the worst when I walk through the door for another session. It helps I was actually discussing this with him today. I should have expectations from us both, but reasonable/appropriate expectations.
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I am surprised at the high of any sort - they are just people with a degree who are guessing and stabbing around.
I suppose this is the sort of thing the therapist meant when she told me other clients came to her with the expectation she could help. I just sort of thought she might have some info I could use. Turns out she either does not have it or will not give it. So now I use her for something else entirely.
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Maybe you need to find better ones
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I have very high (probably unrealistic) expectations for my T, and I am trying to come to terms with the fact she'll most likely never fill all of those expectations. And the ones she does fill, I appreciate them for a second, and them I'm immediately focused on the next level and whether she'll meet those higher expectations. The whole process is a mind *****, let's be honest. I just can't be satisfied, I always need more.
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Iam brand new to this forum, but thought I would take a shot and let go of some of my feelings...I was molested by my father from age 5 to age 13 in addition to much neglect and abuse to a degree that Iam still uncomfortable talking about it with anyone other than my therapist. So, to the issue of expecting too much from my therapist I definately know, after reading some of these posts, that I have too high of expectations on my therapist. Which makes me very sad because I really have wanted him to protect me all the time and be near me all the time and to fix me so I could be good enough for him. I have a hard time feeling good enough for anyone and I came to love my therapist for the person he is and how he cares, but I guess I do expect him to always be there for me no matter what else he is doing or even if he is home with his family. I get very upset when he doesn't get back to me soon enough or if he doesn't call me back when he is with his family on the weekends and then I see him again on Monday at my appointment and Iam so mad at him that I feel like I can't even talk to him anymore which then backfires because I have his whole attention right then but Iam so caught up in being mad at him that I can't find a way to talk to him...very confusing.
Anyway, Iam guilty of having too high expectations on my therapist and I feel terrible having come to that conclusion after reading these posts. |
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