Two sessions ago my therapist threatened to take me to court if I didn't agree and cooperate with my treatment plan. One of the things in that plan was telling my parents details of all the trauma and abuse I've been through. (!!!)
The day after, she'd spoken to my pdoc (he's very anti-involuntary stuff) and she backtracked, saying she'd only said it to make it clear to me that I have rights.
???
Now that last session she also asked me some questions about how I am doing etc. I didn't answer all her questions because I was afraid she'd use it against me before a judge. (I did tell her this)

I really don't know what to do anymore.

[musinglizzy]

OMG you've got to be kidding! I know you're not. WTF???? She can't do that!!

[stopdog]

Are you a minor?

No, I turned 18 in March.

[stopdog]

Then can you find a new one?

[CopperStar]

I think you need to get a new therapist. Yours sounds like she's off her rocker and using made-up intimidation tactics, to boot.

[WrkNPrgress]

Yes, I'd agree this trust is broken. It sounds like you need a new therapist. Are you able to find another one? You have options here. No one can force you to do anything.

[Perna]

Are you still living with your parents and under their health insurance? Where did you get this therapist? Is she court-appointed?

I would terminate with a therapist who threatened me like that.

[IndestructibleGirl]

What a tit.

Therapist has a MASSIVE ego to say this imo. Or else grandiose delusions. Or both.

Words fail me at how the bad eggs in this profession can jump through many hoops to get accredited, and slip through the net to wreak havoc with clients.

Damn that sucks. If it were me, I would sneak a hidden spy watch or necklace camera inside the therapy session to record her saying this so I could post it anonymously on the internet not for malice but for the sake of their other patients.

Nobody seeking help for a traumatic experience should have fear like that put into them, period. Therapists like this deserve to be barred from their practice.

[junkDNA]

i dont see how forcing you to tell your parents your trauma is going to help anything. that is bizarre and ridiculous. you cant force things like that, and if you do, it can cause more trauma

Thanks for all of your responses.

I think I'll wait to see how next session (tomorrow) goes. Maybe contact an old therapist (that works at the same agency as this one) and ask her if she thinks it was out of line, too.

Originally Posted by Perna

Are you still living with your parents and under their health insurance? Where did you get this therapist? Is she court-appointed?

I'm living with my parents, not under their health insurance but they do pay for it. I got this T through the agency I've been treated by since 2011 (this T since December 14). She was uniquely suited to my issues. My T isn't court appointed, I'm in therapy of my own free will.

[JaneTennison1]

I'm confused, why would she take you to court? What's her reasoning?

[Kat605]

This is crazy. Are you under 18? If so sadly I think there are things a therapist is legally mandated to tell parents things like if you say you're being abused or want to hurt yourself or something which I know really does suck. But if you're over 18 I totally don't understand at all. I think your psychiatrist is a good person to keep checking in with and just remember I doubt this will go b very far legally but you might want to consider finding a new therapist. I'm starting to not get surprised at anything anymore that these so called professionals come out with. Hugs.

[divine1966]

If you are 18 she cannot legally demand you tell your parents anything. Are they your guardians and are you incapacitated? I just don't get it

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[Lauliza]

What your T did was awful. Is seeing a new T an option for you? That's the best advice I can come up with. I can imagine you wouldn't feel comfortable with her or trust her anymore. It's shocking to me that she not only bullied you but used a lie to do it. Unless I'm missing some information, a T cannot take an adult to court for something like that.

[PinkFlamingo99]

Was this to have you involuntarily hospitalized? You would need to be either ACTIVELY suicidal (date, method, means) or completely psychotic. She would also need the signature of your pdoc and often the agreement of a second MD. It's VERY VERY VERY hard to have someone involuntarily hospitalized, I know because I had someone try to do it to me.

[mandehble]

That's an odd threat considering it doesn't sound like your T had any grounds for taking you to court for any reason... I'll be interested to hear how the next session goes!

[Twosacrowd]

You need someone that you trust, have confidence with, who doesn't manipulate and has 'your' best interests at heart. IMO that therapist has none of those qualities and you need to find a new one. I am sorry you had to suffer this.

[aetheorist]

Even if you're in mandated outpatient it still sounds bad to me...Personally I wouldn't be able to trust a therapist who did that and would try to find someone else.

Just disconnected the call to T (we had a phone session). She said what she wanted, I explained why I didn't want that. I found it generally useless. She voiced that she thought we'd had a good session.

There are some psycho therapists out there and I'm afraid you landed on one (like myself). I suggest to quietly get away from her by cancelling next appointment and never calling back to reschedule. I'm sorry your T is trying to manipulate you (mine tried too). You have a RIGHT to your privacy. T's like yours only get worse, not better. Do yourself a favor and find another therapist.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by Breadfish

She said what she wanted, I explained why I didn't want that.

That is a good session. That's the whole point, two people discussing a situation together. Now you know what she wants and why and she knows why you don't want that. Do you have an alternate idea? Something else to suggest (other than just being "against" something; what do you want now that you know what you do not want and why?) or another problem to work on for a bit to give this one a rest so you both can process it more?