What do you wear to therapy?

Whether or not to show scars is always weird for me... sometimes I was told that I was being brave when I think I was actually being manipulative (doing something like you mentioned).

One time I just wore a t-shirt to my psychiatrist and I literally lived next door (at the time I never wore short sleeves). She said that I was doing it for attention... I told her no, it is just incredibly hot out and it is a mental health center so why should I hide?

Later I read on my chart, they quoted me as saying
If I cant show my true self here then where can I?

That is totally not something I would ever say! I said, its ****ing hot!

But my chart back then usually said that I appeared unkempt, vulnerable (sometimes attractive), young looking and stunned with clothes that were too big or whatever else... so I suppose this was still an improvement.

It's funny, my current one always asks to see and I've gotten used to it. She also told me I shouldn't feel the need to cover them all summer or I'll die of heat. Your pdoc sounds like an idiot.

My therapist has not asked to see my SH injuries, and I would certainly never offer to show them to her. As you said, I would see that as manipulative. I have old scars on my arms, but still wear short sleeves, as they really aren't that noticeable unless you are looking for them.

I was surprised when this one started asking, but she likes to make sure if they're deep I have them bandaged at least and no infection since I often don't care for them and generally don't get stitches. I'm horrible at self-care.

I agree about old scars, I don't think you need to cover them. I wear long sleeves all summer or cover my arms some other way if I have fresh ones.

That's how it was manipulative, for me... Asking for care because I felt vulnerable was way harder than getting care by showing that I was unable to care for myself. Not that it works that way for everyone... It was easier than saying "I hurt".

I wear business casual to trendy casual(sequins, rhinestones). Might as well be fancy...lol. I would like to do formal just to throw 'em off lol!

I wear whatever I happen to be wearing that day.

Pajamas. Usually t and i are on the phone around midnight, or else really early in the morning.
(We live in different countries, so its day for her/ night for me and vise versa)

I wear whatever I feel like wearing. Sometimes it's jeans and a nice top, or a funky top, sometimes it's a funky dress. My therapist often compliments me on my clothes, and one time, when I was wearing one of my funky dresses she told me with enthusiasm in her voice, a big friendly smile, and so much warmth in her eyes that I was her fashionista client. It made me feel good.

I agree. I like that she asks to see because I wouldn't ever offer.

I'm not sure if it's manipulative if it's a real physical need. I know there have been several times I hurt myself really badly, didn't get stitches, clean it, care for it, just let the cuts gape open under my pants or shirt. I think maybe being unable to care for things like that and wanting help is a sign of life, because it's a physical need you aren't able to meet for yourself because you don't feel worth it.

Business casual. Or nice clothes. Putting on my best front.

T is always in a suit so I feel like I'm slumming it if I turned up in shorts and a singlet

If there werent any advantages and reasons for them looking at scars, they wouldnt do it. The danger is that if we get our emotional needs met by not being able to physically care for ourselves, we can, unconsciously, stay stuck in the pattern of getting needs met in that way.

I had some professionals where it was really a destructive process and others where it was less so... But I am surprised at how few have been aware of the dangers of caretaking.

And one was a lesbian and I wonder if I was testing her in other ways...

Some of them are just curious and some are judgemental. I would never assume they do or don't do something because of it being an advantage or reason for the client. I would think if that was the case, they would give the client a reasonable explanation.

Spacesuit

whatever we happen to wake up in that day if she wants to have a morning session

I'm trying to look as beautiful as I can
Depends on day and mood.

I am a plus size woman and I like to wear plus size clothes like plus size pants, plus size jeans, jackets. Today in plus size clothing many of the clothes are coming which are trendy and elegant.

I always wear long pants usually jeans. For 2 reasons I SH on my legs and number 2 my legs are covered with tattoos. Probably have 100 plus.
So before I would wear button up shirt jeans and converse. I still wear converse but it is so hot in Florida I wear T-shirts now with jeans. Haven't been brave enough to wear shorts.

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Velvet hot pants

Bra and underwear, with clothes on top.

Smart casual, same as going anywhere else

Whatever I wear to work (I work in a sort of precision machine shop), so jeans and button shirt in the summer, or t-neck/sweater in winter. Whatever the shirt, it will be covering my fat ***, or at least half of it. Shoes are typically hiking shoes/boots like Keen or Doc Martins.

Anything, as long as it's black. :-)

Just kidding.