This may sound dumb and I am not really sure how to ask/phrase it but anyway. So I don't mean to feel this way but I am really grossed out/disgusted by my dad I feel bad about feeling like this but it just happens anyway I want to try and see if I can bring this up with my psychologist but I don't know if it is ok to talk about.....like would he think I am completely horrible if I told him.

[atisketatasket]

Why would he be? I bet he's heard worse.

[stopdog]

I can't imagine how telling a therapist how one feels about an unrelated 3rd party would be upsetting in any way.

[LonesomeTonight]

I'm sure your T has heard similar things from other patients and won't be shocked or horrified by it. If it's something you're feeling, better to share it.

[Gavinandnikki]

Don't worry about offending him. You don't need to worry about any of his feelings.

[BayBrony]

Don't worry. I told my T I didn't love either of my parents and wasn't going to my mom's funeral. She supported me

[amandalouise]

I cant say whether ....your ....treatment provider would think you are horrible for this because i am not you and am not your treatment provider...

that said i can tell you that if this was ...my....treatment provider no they would not think i was horrible.

i can also tell you in.... general.... treatment providers do not think their clients are horrible. they want to help their clients with what ever problems they may have regardless of whether the problem is about a relative or not.

but directly related to you only you and your treatment provider can answer your question.

my suggestion ask them if there was any situation that would make them feel you are a horrible person then they will tell you.

They hear so much stuff like this I assume they become somewhat numb to it. My opinion.

Ok i just feel weird talking about it i don't know why.

[SheHulk07]

I have shared similar feelings with my therapist about my father, and he wasn't disgusted about it or thought I was horrible. He just said it is what I feel, it's not necessarily good or bad.

[divine1966]

T wouldn't be upset or offended about your feelings

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ok then.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by AmyFed07

I have shared similar feelings with my therapist about my father, and he wasn't disgusted about it or thought I was horrible. He just said it is what I feel, it's not necessarily good or bad.

That sounds like what my marriage counselor says about feelings in general--that they just are, they're not good or bad or right or wrong. We can't control our feelings, just what we do about them. Hearing that from him has made me feel better about my feelings in general.

My mum always told me if my feelings were right or wrong.

It's pretty common for teens/adolescents to feel this way about a parent. I don't know if feelings about the parent's character/personality/actions get translated into feeling distaste for their whole being, or if it's part of the process of children separating their identities from their parents or exactly what.

No my mum thought I didn't know what my own emotions were when I actually did so she would tell me how I was meant to feel and if I didn't I was wrong.