[Daeva]

I had a T, her name was Angela, I had seen her for two years before they switched me over to a day program where I no longer could see my T but was given a new counselor I'd meet with for 15 mins once a month.

So I had a break down and had to go to the Psych Ward. I was in day program when this happened, so my current counselor, knowing how close I was with Angela, decides to let her make the final call about me going in patient at the Ward. So we go over there, and Angela and I fall right back into our old rhythm, everything is a lot more open, and honest between us, and you can tell there's a warm bond. It's not like that with my counselor, and I looked over to see her face, which was shocked at how I was. But when I looked again it was just plain jealousy.

I'm assuming it's cause I talk to Angela so freely and don't give much to my new counselor. She's a smart lady so I know she must know that I don't trust her yet, and there's no bond yet after only five months. Five months just can't beat two years.

I don't want her to feel jealous, I know it's more on her than me and her issue, but I feel guilty. Not that I'd ever take my time spent with Angela back or the fact that we are close. Just I feel like I should be taking my new counselors side, but the only side I see and can even think of considering being on is Angela's.

[Ruftin]

(((Daeva))) You're absolutely right when you say it's on your new T to be understanding of your bond with Angela. I don't think you should feel responsible for counseling your counselor. You've done nothing wrong.

[atisketatasket]

She's seen you for 15 minutes a month, for 5 months? 75 minutes total? How could she expect there to be a bond? (Unless it isn't jealousy of you so much as she thinks Angela is better at her job than she is.)

[Rive.]

I am confused. How can a certain look be interpreted as one of jealousy. That seems quite a leap of assumption, as you don’t know with any degree of certainty what she was really thinking - and much less what she was feeling. Might simply have been wonder at how you interacted so differently with old T.

Seems a bit strange for this new person to be that emotionally enmeshed as to feel something so strong as jealousy for a client... Especially seeing she’s seen you for such a short time.

I wouldn’t be so quick to jump to conclusions and 'condemn' her for what seems like mere mind-reading. Give her a chance or at least talk it out to be sure (i.e. confirmation coming from the horse’s mouth).

[JaneTennison1]

Well you are interpreting a look as jealousy when it might not be at all. Maybe confused? Maybe excited for you? Who knows. I wouldn't worry about sides or perceived jealousy.

[eeyorestail]

I can usually tell if someone is sad, happy, or angry from looking at their facial expression. But jealously is a more complicated emotion. I don't think I could say that someone was jealous just by looking at their face.

Is it possible you misread the situation?

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[A Red Panda]

Like the others, I wouldn't jump to "jealousy" because that's a really hard emotion to pick up from a brief facial expression.

She was seeing a new side of you, and listening to you share things with your past T. Chances are, she was busy trying to note as much as she could about the things you said and your behaviour, because it's a more honest you than what she sees in your short visits.

I think if she was feeling that close to you, enough to feel jealousy, that she probably wouldn't have invited your old T to come in for help as she would have used it as an opportunity to further your own bond.

[divine1966]

15 minutes a months? How much counseling could be done?

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