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When the patient first starts therapy, he is likely to be angry, scared and probably has some growing up to do. (Yes that's me.) So it is appropraite for the T relationship to emphasise boundaries and consistency.
But assuming the patient starts to improve, these constrainst become ... constraining. Should the T become more flexible and the relationship more equal? I think so, but what do you think? |
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I have never had a therapist who stressed those things. I have stressed those things to make sure the therapist knows to stay back and in their place. I can't say anything has grown - a few times the therapist has seemed to think it has but I have had to assure her it has not.
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I've never felt constrained by therapy so I'm not sure what you mean. What you describe sounds more like how friendships might evolve. Clients aren't less than equal to a T when they begin, it's just that they just go to therapists needing something from them. Once a client begins needing less from their T, visits becomes less frequent or the relationship often ends.
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I wasn't angry or scared. Yes i had growing to do in regards to my relationship with men and finances. That's why I started therapy. I know I showed growth over the year. My t says growth starts with awareness. I am very much aware why I had specific issues.
My t is flexible. She doesn't need to be more flexible. My relationship with her didn't change. I don't see how and why it would or why it has to. My therapy has nothing to do with boundaries and consistency. My therapy is about me discussing issues with my t and learning to stop attracting unavailable men and fixing my finances. She never emphasized any boundaries. It was never brought up. I am not sure what you mean by consistency. I am almost 50 year old professional woman, not a child, I can't imagine crossing any boundaries with my t. Like what? What could it be? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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I think if the needs brought to therapy are developmental, then the psychological boundaries do change to be better attuned to the stages of development. It's a parental model. But I don't really like the term "boundaries" as it implies control more than a way of meeting needs.
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I'm not sure what you mean by boundaries - do you mean in terms of out of session contact or sharing personal stuff? I wouldn't expect some boundaries to change, but I have kind of expected that my T might speak her own thoughts more and maybe say some personal stuff as time went on.
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I think that the notion that client and therapist aren't equal is a distortion to begin with. You're absolutely equal with your therapist anyway.
Now, in terms of boundaries, the only ones I can think of are ones around contact? If you're asking if therapists are likely to relax rules around phone, email, text, out of session contact, then no. But that's just a matter of logistics. If a therapist had 20 clients, all of whom wanted contact whenever they liked, that would be a nightmare. If you're talking about other boundaries, then I'm not sure what the answer is, but I suspect it is probably no. The therapeutic framework is there to keep the client in a safe place and give the therapist much needed breathing room outside of the therapy relationship. |
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