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Default Dec 30, 2017 at 01:55 PM
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More on what those guys think about clients who don't submit
http://www.lianalowenstein.com/artic...ultClients.pdf
Holy Smokes. I don't even know what to say.
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Default Jan 16, 2018 at 01:26 AM
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this one is quite distressed that a client did not follow her "directives" but she is determined to beat him

https://www.psychotherapynetworker.o..._noonthrottled

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Default Jan 17, 2018 at 04:48 PM
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this one is quite distressed that a client did not follow her "directives" but she is determined to beat him

https://www.psychotherapynetworker.o..._noonthrottled
"When no one is paying you, the patient will listen to you, because he will feel obligated. To help Bob, I have to be more controlling than he is. So I will talk to him for free, on the condition that he follow my directives, until he's able to leave L.A. I know how difficult it is for him to pay his bills. My generosity will shock him. Is this out of compassion and empathy? No. I love the intellectual challenge of banishing a stubborn symptom, in spite of the patient's efforts to hang on to it."

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Default Jan 18, 2018 at 02:57 PM
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"When no one is paying you, the patient will listen to you, because he will feel obligated. To help Bob, I have to be more controlling than he is. So I will talk to him for free, on the condition that he follow my directives, until he's able to leave L.A. I know how difficult it is for him to pay his bills. My generosity will shock him. Is this out of compassion and empathy? No. I love the intellectual challenge of banishing a stubborn symptom, in spite of the patient's efforts to hang on to it."
At the beginning of the article she said that all therapy clients are "resistant," because they wouldn't "listen to the advice of friends and relatives," the theory being if they did they wouldn't need therapy. So I wonder why she thinks that once she no longer charges he'll "have" to listen to her free advice when he hasn't listened to the free advice of his friends. I think she's destined to "fail" again. Only now she's going to fail without getting paid.
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Default Jan 20, 2018 at 12:11 PM
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How those guys view mistakes or, as they are more apt to call them, learning opportunities (because we all know therapists are human and don't make real mistakes)
Why Practitioners Need to Talk About Mistakes

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Default Jan 20, 2018 at 01:24 PM
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"... I love the intellectual challenge of banishing a stubborn symptom, in spite of the patient's efforts to hang on to it."
I think this is where my t and i are. There is me, there is t, and there is the issue. Like in the Anonymous programs, dont they want you to "admit you are powerless against it"? The problem is something i am fighting, not something i am embracing. The twig was bent this way long ago.
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Default Jan 20, 2018 at 07:14 PM
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For me, they don't just get to banish stuff if I am not ready do it. The arrogance.

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Default Jan 20, 2018 at 07:26 PM
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I dont think thats how it works. Maybe it does on surface stuff, but not intractable stuff. Otherwise they COULD practically bottle it.
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Default Jan 20, 2018 at 10:40 PM
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I do think it is how it can work and it is the only way it would for me. Those people do not get to decide if, how, when, or what I do or change.

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The Truth About The Codes Of Ethics: Dispelling the Rumors that Dual Relationships are Unethical

Quite often on this forum the issue of friending your former therapist comes up and to the ethics of whether it is or isn’t proper and if it is, then when can a sequential relation begin. I’m no a fan of the author, Zur, but this article covers many of the major professional associations ethic codes in the US along with commentary by Zur. He also mentions Australian and Canadian ethic codes.

Dual Relationships - The Truth About Dual Relationships Codes Of Ethics and Dispelling the Rumors that Dual Relationships are Unethical, by Ofer Zur, Ph.D.

In the end it is really up to the therapist and I gather most covered by these codes don’t want it or are to afraid because we live in a litigious nation.

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Default Jan 27, 2018 at 08:36 PM
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So in the end, it makes sense to take clients as far as they want to go (and can afford to go) toward transformation, as long as we separate our hopes for our clients from their goals for themselves, and as long as we understand that we’re just one of many wisdom traditions (from religion to philosophy) that have their own beliefs about what human flourishing looks like, and as long as we’re willing to acknowledge and work on the blind spots in our tradition, including the tendency to explain human problems at the micro level and ignore larger social forces. As Winston Churchill liked to say, “We all suffer from the defects of our virtues.”

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This blog is excerpted from "Therapy and Transformation," by William Doherty. The full version is available in the January/February 2018 issue, Not Your Grandfather's Therapy: Meeting the Needs of Today's Clients.

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Default Feb 04, 2018 at 11:11 AM
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The last one of these struck me because of how defensive the therapist is rather than considering that her"interventions" were just completely wrong.
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article...a-psychologist

Things therapists are not direct about
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/10...3-07-26?page=1

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Psychotherapy?s Image Problem Pushes Some Therapists to Become ?Brands? - The New York Times

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https://www.unk.com/blog/psychothera...ore-receptive/

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Therapist who could not leave a bad therapist
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The Therapists Whose Side Gig Is Professional Cuddling

Therapists are becoming professional cuddlers. I wonder if they are safer at doing this job compared to their therapy jobs...

I'm glad my therapist was willing to this as a part of my treatment.

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Matching client attachment styles to therapist style
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Interesting project, and interesting author. Perhaps the world, and psychology, is not doomed to h**l in a handbasket forever? Too late for me, I think, but interesting nevertheless.
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Interesting, but I am not sure it works as a universal way to assess who fits with whom best. For example "avoidant clients should be matched with an attuned, following, warm, flexible "holding" type of therapy"... Just reading this forum, I am not sure that the people who self-admittedly have avoidant tendencies (including myself) desire that type of therapist. For me, a T who overly tried to connect with me emotionally mostly just provoked increased avoidance. Intelligent, well-informed and realistic with good boundaries is a much better match. Maybe for the ambivalent style the firm, consistent and boundaried is a good fit - again, just reading this forum.
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https://themorningnews.org/article/t...t-know-thyself

"It is a closely guarded secret among therapists that the outcome of The Work can be roughly divided into thirds. One third of clients improve, one third of clients stay the same, and one third of clients get worse."

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