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From "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-.../dp/1492871842

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Thank you for sharing this!! I followed the link to Amazon and read the sneak peek. I had to order it!! The words were jumping off the screen at me and my brain couldn't keep up with what I was reading. Hope that makes sense.

I can't wait for it to come in.
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Thank you for sharing this!! I followed the link to Amazon and read the sneak peek. I had to order it!! The words were jumping off the screen at me and my brain couldn't keep up with what I was reading. Hope that makes sense.

I can't wait for it to come in.
I hope you find the book very educational. I definitely did!
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Old Mar 16, 2017, 10:50 PM
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The part about emotional flashback caught my breath. I've tried to explain to my counselor how it feels when my h unleashes his anger on me. There it was in black and white. It was a perfect narrative of it in words from someone else. I can not tell you the freedom and sadness I felt when I read it. Validation. Truth. It's real. It's what I know.
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The part about emotional flashback caught my breath. I've tried to explain to my counselor how it feels when my h unleashes his anger on me. There it was in black and white. It was a perfect narrative of it in words from someone else. I can not tell you the freedom and sadness I felt when I read it. Validation. Truth. It's real. It's what I know.
Forgive me if I'm rude: I truly do not think it's "just" an emotional flashback when your H lashes out at you, but also very real maltreatment from him in the present towards you.

I say this because I get emotional flashbacks when I detect even slight irritation in my partner's voice, so I feel you have that happening to you PLUS your H using harsh words, raging, taking anger out on you.
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Old Mar 24, 2017, 03:23 PM
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Found this paper on Pete Walker's web page. So much of me is described here. Wanted to share it.

http://www.pete-walker.com/pdf/emoti...omplexPTSD.pdf
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Old Mar 25, 2017, 07:10 AM
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A blog post about the necessity and usefulness of emotional dependence in depth psychotherapy:

Emotional Dependency in Psychotherapy
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Old Mar 25, 2017, 12:43 PM
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A blog post about the necessity and usefulness of emotional dependence in depth psychotherapy:

Emotional Dependency in Psychotherapy
Some of what he says is logically incoherent. Emotional dependency between child and parent is healthy. Some level of dependency between partners in a long term romantic relationship is healthy. Even between friends. But depending on a paid stranger in an artificial, clinical relationship should be considered risky and by default unhealthy, unless shown overwhelming evidence to the contrary. This is not a cynical view informed by cultural bias, it's a reality-based view.

Also his suggestion that resistance to dependency on the part of client indicates some emotional-psychological complex has necessarily been triggered, and that the client must be too blind or feeble to recognize this without the therapist's help, is both illogical and patronizing. The "resistance" might be entirely justified. The client might be backing away because they don't know a damn thing about the person on whom they are forming dependency, nor about the methods being used, nor about the risks or possible outcomes. And the disparity in terms of exposure and disclosure and power is enormous. And the therapist is motivated by money. And so on. The client might be sensing visceral cues that the situation is legitimately unsafe.

It's important to remember that articles like this are sales tools. He is selling a product -- therapy relationships. Best to be skeptical when someone is selling something.
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Old Mar 27, 2017, 12:39 AM
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Actually, I find this whole blog After Psychotherapy | Online Counseling with Joseph Burgo, PhD very useful, interesting and insightful. It seems that it is rarely updated these days but I read it a lot few years ago when I had just started therapy and was in the midst of the first intense transference turmoil.
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Old Mar 28, 2017, 04:41 AM
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Here is an article about thinking positively:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/27/w....nav=RecEngine

I had a therapist many years ago who had me do things like this, e.g. keep a gratitude journal. I found it so silly, I couldn't maintain it. I was so accustomed to psychodynamic therapy, I just couldn't take seriously anything cheerful.
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I found this today, and have read it several times.

https://healingfromcomplextraumaandp...gger-for-many/

I've struggled with feeling the hurt and abandonment, of people who are in my life that I have shared some things with. This completely validated my feelings.
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Old May 08, 2017, 12:45 PM
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Weird article. I find it largely incoherent. It's interesting watching therapists have these turf wars. I watched most of the talk that is the basis for the article that the above article is taking issue with. They seem to be feuding about whether a client's "transference" constitutes a distraction or is actually the thing to focus on.
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Thank you for posting this QM, certainly got my blood pumping anyway.
I have to disagree with a lot that this lady says. Firstly she calls herself healing Ireland( which is highly narcissistic) even though she is German and only moved here (Ireland) in 2012, she hasn't included details of any of her own training. She says she has a diploma in psychodynamic therapy but doesn't say from where or how long!
She is not registered with any accrediting body in Ireland which most likely means her training would not meet the requirements for accreditation.
I think she was threatened by dawn Devereaux as the author runs a similar therapy abuse centre herself ( which I have never heard of). It seems she seems to want to find fault in everything dawn says. I am finding it hard to take her seriously as I can't really find anything about her only self published blogposts and her linked in account. I don't know, maybe I am biased but I don't like anything this author says, I actually read this article in the BACP magazine Therapy today and quoted it in my research dissemination, it's like we read two different articles. I don't see dawn blaming the client anywhere.
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Thank you for posting this QM, certainly got my blood pumping anyway.
I have to disagree with a lot that this lady says. Firstly she calls herself healing Ireland( which is highly narcissistic) even though she is German and only moved here (Ireland) in 2012, she hasn't included details of any of her own training. She says she has a diploma in psychodynamic therapy but doesn't say from where or how long!
She is not registered with any accrediting body in Ireland which most likely means her training would not meet the requirements for accreditation.
I think she was threatened by dawn Devereaux as the author runs a similar therapy abuse centre herself ( which I have never heard of). It seems she seems to want to find fault in everything dawn says. I am finding it hard to take her seriously as I can't really find anything about her only self published blogposts and her linked in account. I don't know, maybe I am biased but I don't like anything this author says, I actually read this article in the BACP magazine Therapy today and quoted it in my research dissemination, it's like we read two different articles. I don't see dawn blaming the client anywhere.
I'll have to find Dawn's work. I was searching on mobile for Dawn's work and found this.
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Not sure what I think of this. I guess I'm questioning my own therapy - http://howtherapyworks.com/working-i...form=hootsuite
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Not sure what I think of this. I guess I'm questioning my own therapy - Working With the Inner Child
I found this about a week ago and to me it makes perfect sense. I think this is the way my therapy is working actually.
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I found this about a week ago and to me it makes perfect sense. I think this is the way my therapy is working actually.
That's great.

I think my inner child is going to give up with my current T's inability to see me once a fortnight as agreed for a year plus ongoing. :/
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How Cell Phones Changed the Therapist-Patient Relationship -- Science of Us

What fascinates me is the guy's arrogance.
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I commented on one of the Smith articles a few months ago. Went on a rant about attachment etc:
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http://www.theprofessionalpractition...-dawn-devereux
This is the link to watch dawn Devereaux talking about managing the erotic transference
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CPD Video - Managing the Erotic Transference: Preventing Escalation and Avoiding Harm ? Dawn Devereux
This is the link to watch dawn Devereaux talking about managing the erotic transference
I found it strange that she suggests sorting out people who might develop regressive transference so that they would not worked with in therapy at all? These are probably people with very early relational traumas and the group who really need therapy. I have gone through my own periods of very difficult regressive transferences and I can't imagine if my therapists would have said that no, I can't work with you because this is all so hopeless, you are too dangerous for therapists and therapy is too dangerous for you.
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I found it strange that she suggests sorting out people who might develop regressive transference so that they would not worked with in therapy at all? These are probably people with very early relational traumas and the group who really need therapy. I have gone through my own periods of very difficult regressive transferences and I can't imagine if my therapists would have said that no, I can't work with you because this is all so hopeless, you are too dangerous for therapists and therapy is too dangerous for you.


I get what she is saying that this is potentially dangerous for therapists and clients and I think her intention is to make both parties aware of the possibilities. I have had AIT with every therapist, only one wouldn't work with me but none of them were aware or made me aware of what was happening and I think it would have been a useful conversation to have.
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