How do your Ts help when you're really struggling?

I was in a similar situation earlier this year. My T is great, but not really with this. I as feeling so bad and I had so many SI thought and they were strong. I took me long to tell my T about it. And she was understanding. We talked about why I felt that and she told me who to call if I would do it or was really close to doing it. But she didn't told me how to deal with those thoughts. She can say things like it's the depression, it will get less, it's not the soulution to your problems, stuff like that. But I had no idea how to deal with those SI thoughts. I still don't know. They have only become less because of medication.

When I'm really struggling I think the best thing my therapist can do for me is to try to connect to me in my current state. If I can "feel felt" and not alone in whatever misery I'm in, somehow, amazingly, that is enough to improve things a lot.

If she is able to, my t will call me to check on me, text me, email me. She also tries to talk with me more. When we are in person, and not on other sides of the world, she takes me on walks and gives more hugs,

Wow, I can't even imagine a T calling and checking on me. That would be really helpful and supportive.

She helps me get down out of my head and get grounded. The shortened version of this process has become her saying simply "Find your feet." I can always call and ask for an earlier session or a long time ago for a short time we added a 2nd session per week and that was very helpful when we were into some deep stuff.

When I am really struggling the best thing my T does is to help ground me in my feelings and make me feel connected to her. She reminds me of the connection we have and that she cares about me very much. Knowing I am connected to her and how much she cares about me is a bigger help then I think she even knows.

If its something big, I can call her and she will give me her insight and remind me that she is here and she cares and I will get through it.

wow suraya ,
my therapist told me to use the coping skills that she gave me to help me to deal with my anxiety and depression . she also reinforces the therapy techniques that she taught me in counseling . she even calls me when im in a crisis situation and she checks up on me if I took my meds too. my therapist and I clicked on the first day that we met each other for the first time in counseling since I left my old therapist who didn't help me that much in counseling cuz he wasn't the right fit for me and my issues .





Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistaril 25 mgs 2x daily for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night for insomnia

It feels like my T only thinks of her clients as her paying customers and doesn't connect enough to go that extra bit to provide the needed support when really necessary.

I am sorry it is like that. You could always find another T who fits your needs. You are paying for this therapy.

Mine gave me a mountain climbing analogy - sometimes you have to descend to go around.

Not sure if it's helpful to you.

My therapist i have more than one and one ive never had a crisis with hope never to the other ive had many and shes kind of one of those cut the crap therapist i mention suicide i shut down she takes silence as my guilty plea and admits me immediately doesn't try to understand or anything. So i try and shut my big mouth before I open it. My last therapist was different always available tried to understand you didn't get admitted nearly as many times that makes me miss her even more amd its been years

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