[atisketatasket]

What a bad day. On a Sunday too. I hereby proclaim it Ice Cream for Dinner Day in my house!

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I got the pork steaks/pork chops bbq'd earlier... laundry's all done & put away, most of my therapy homework is done, there's a new crochet project I want to try it's a crochet mandala with butterflies, maybe I'll go attempt it.

[JustShakey]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

I guess it does look more like a cookie than a doorknob. Perhaps I should try again...

Although now I want to make cookies!

Gingerbread house doorknob! Yum!

[Squirrel1983]

Evening, couch.

Home from my full day between CVS and watching C.

Forgot it was Sunday, so Chick-Fil-A is closed, so no waffle fries for C today. We just sat at home and ate some snacks has he had a late lunch. 8 chicken nuggets is a snack to him, so it's not like it was junk food. Baked in the toaster oven, not fried. Lightly breaded in the package, not a thick crust. Still "processed" but relatively "healthy". Gives him protien.

He also had some veggie chips and gluten-free pretzels and grapes. As well as a powerbar. He must be going through a growth spurt because he ate like a champ tonight. :-P

No crazy people stories from CVS today, it was a relatively calm day. Long week at CVS this week. 36 hours. Then only 18 hours next week. Followed by 38 hours the week after that. That is as far as the schedule is posted so far. It's like every other week I have a long week and then the other weeks in between are short weeks. Hmmm... Oh well, it balances out. I am still getting time off.

Need to shower still before tomorrow, unless I decide to skip it tonight. Really, I had one last night, and missing one day isn't that bad. I really just want to take my meds and get to bed.

I think that is what I shall do. Night, couch.

[unaluna]

The potluck turned out good. Everything was tasty, including my dish. Some people didnt know what spaghetti squash was, other people already were big fans, so it was fun. We ate on the balcony, it was a beautiful afternoon. We have decided to start meeting thursday mornings in the apartment vegan restaurant coffee shop as a way to meet more non-students in the building, try to build up a community. Esp now that they have improved the bus schedules (extended more into the evenings and weekends), it is so much easier to get around.

[healed84]

Originally Posted by hankster

Aww! did he miss his little school mates? Maybe you can give yourself an easy year, volunteer at his school, go to school yourself?

Yeah, he realized that he doesn't have friends to play with at home and we were getting done with our lessons in less than an hour and he was bored at home. I am on the board for PTF at school, so I do have some stuff to do with that. I also put my name on the sub list at school. Maybe with all this time to myself I will finally start working out again

[RTS?]

I know it's horrible but When I read about something bad happening in the live of another PCer I felt bad for them and then the next thought was wow I'm so jealous...I wouldn't think of this event as being so horrible if it happened in my life.

[growlycat]

Up way too late. I got through some of the financial info to send my family member who is helping me sort the finances. At least got that bit of homework done.

I uploaded some more portfolio pics to my LinkedIn account but I don't have an updated resume and cover letter just yet. I may sleep for a few then get up early and work on it. The job has been posted for about a week but I don't want to wait too long to apply.

Ever have one of those weeks when you are trying to save money so you cook all the weird random stuff in the cuboards and freezer? Yeah, it's that kind of week for me. I just don't want to drop any more money than I have to.

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by growlycat

Up way too late. I got through some of the financial info to send my family member who is helping me sort the finances. At least got that bit of homework done.

I uploaded some more portfolio pics to my LinkedIn account but I don't have an updated resume and cover letter just yet. I may sleep for a few then get up early and work on it. The job has been posted for about a week but I don't want to wait too long to apply.

Ever have one of those weeks when you are trying to save money so you cook all the weird random stuff in the cuboards and freezer? Yeah, it's that kind of week for me. I just don't want to drop any more money than I have to.

This is us right now. I have a Tendency to go on ethnic food kicks ( indian, thai, etc) and I buy a lot of frozen ready made stuff because after 14 hour days I am not cooking. So the freezer is full and business is lighter than usual. It's that time. Last night I had falafal, coconut chutney and frozen rice noodles for dinner.....
Unfortunately our house has thin walls and is near a big wood. A look in the back of the grocery cupboard showed a need for deep cleaning and mouse traps....they invade every fall...but those are some old groceries I won't have to eat at least.

[Leah123]

Good morning couch. Had a lovely low-conflict weekend, but the morning is shaping up to remind me what I "missed." Ha.

Did get treated to a thrilling whale-watching cruise yesterday and witnessed a significant congrgation of two orca pods (perhaps 2-3 dozen) complete with babies breaching abd lots of surface activity for most of an hour before continuing on to see two humpbacks poke noses and tails above water to cap the day.

Amazing.

Wish I was still crusing!

But today's therapy and here's hoping for some progress. Am feeling at a bit of an impasse in my marriage and at a loss for enough time to do what I'd like as usual.

I was recently inspired to start work on my garden though. It's been sadly neglected during my studies, but as they're over... I'm hoping to beautify it now while I have a bit of calm weather to work with.

Ugh, there goes kiddo fighting back when told to get up. Sigh. Bye couchies.

[UnderRugSwept]

Ugh. UGH, UGH, UGH. I am calling 2 new perspective Ts for appts. I hate calling the first time the most...it's harder for me than the first appt. I have no issue making any other phone calls, so I don't know what the big deal is, but it's super anxiety-producing.

[stopdog]

I am one of those people who,went whale watching and thought -yea okay-big fishy looking mammal that we should leave alone.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I am one of those people who,went whale watching and thought -yea okay-big fishy looking mammal that we should leave alone.

Thats how i feel about a lot of stuff. Im like, can somebody explain to me why we are doing this? I thought it was a) cuz my family being immigrants didnt understand life here either so they couldnt teach me what they didnt know or b) maybe i was aspergerish.

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by hankster

Thats how i feel about a lot of stuff. Im like, can somebody explain to me why we are doing this? I thought it was a) cuz my family being immigrants didnt understand life here either so they couldnt teach me what they didnt know or b) maybe i was aspergerish.

I had that feeling when we went to Niagara Falls when I was 8 or so and we went a tour that required you to walk under the Bridal Veil Falls. Can you imagine the force of that water hitting a smallish 8-year-old? The adults had a great time but I didn't see the point.

Originally Posted by RTS?

I know it's horrible but When I read about something bad happening in the live of another PCer I felt bad for them and then the next thought was wow I'm so jealous...I wouldn't think of this event as being so horrible if it happened in my life.

I wasn't sure whether to hit 'thanks' or 'hugs'. I felt this exact same way, so I'm thankful you were willing to write it out, and at the same time, want to send a virtual hug because I know why it feels that way.

[Ellahmae]

I third all of this.

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

I wasn't sure whether to hit 'thanks' or 'hugs'. I felt this exact same way, so I'm thankful you were willing to write it out, and at the same time, want to send a virtual hug because I know why it feels that way.

Originally Posted by RTS?

I know it's horrible but When I read about something bad happening in the live of another PCer I felt bad for them and then the next thought was wow I'm so jealous...I wouldn't think of this event as being so horrible if it happened in my life.

[NowhereUSA]

Hi couch.

Just saying hi.

Hi.

Hiiiiiiii.

Hi.

[granite1]

so i have T tomorrow . i have not seen her in 2 weeks . i have been learning how to do book binding and i made this journal and just thought of her . i would so much like to be able to give it to her just because i thought of her when it was done .it cost me nothing to make and it is cute .but i dont think she would accept it and i would not do very well with the rejection thinking she would want nothing in her life to remind her i exsist outside of the T 45 min

[unaluna]

And you know thats exactly what you should tell her. Or date it and inscribe it. Then see how long it takes you to feel differently. Its your goal book.

[BayBrony]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I third all of this.

I'm not sure I understand the initial statement. What do you mean by "not bad if it happened in your life"??

Trigger warning for discussion of abuse*****************************


Well, BB, for me, its like this: a friend of a friend was griping at me about how I treat my mother. She said she had a traumatic childhood also and she still talked to her mother. I asked her what in her childhood was traumatic. Her mother spanked her and ridiculed her a couple of times. I asked her if her mother had ever chased her around the house with a knife. No? Asked if her mother ever put a gun to her head. No? Asked if her dad had ever had to tackle her mother to stop her from hitting and kicking her because he was afraid the mom was going to kill her? When she answered no to all of those, I told her to not use the word traumatic to me again and to shut the **** up about how I treat my mother.

[stopdog]

If someone finds something traumatic or upsetting, then I believe them that it is for them even if it would not be for me. I would not tell them their pain was not as big or bad as mine. But then again, for me, I would only find about 3 things really traumatic and two of those three would concern the pets.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by BayBrony

I'm not sure I understand the initial statement. What do you mean by "not bad if it happened in your life"??

I did not understand it either.

Originally Posted by stopdog

If someone finds something traumatic or upsetting, then I believe them that it is for them even if it would not be for me. I would not tell them their pain was not as good as mine.

I did not tell her that her pain was not as good as mine. I told her that her pain did not give her free rein to criticize my actions just because they are not the actions she would take. She cannot justify telling me how to treat my mother just because she also she experienced something she found upsetting from her mother. Does that make more sense?

On the other hand, I do think that words have particular meanings. When a word like "trauma" is used for quite minor things, I think it diminishes the word. If you find someone slamming a door very upsetting, I do not argue you should not feel that way. However, I also don't think you should say it was traumatic.

[stopdog]

But perhaps the underlying thing that makes a door slam upsetting could be.

I know, for me, that I find so little that I could label traumatic accurately in general, that I have no basis for determining how to use the word for others. I find overstatement runs amok everywhere. Of course, I only thought the parents were going to kill me a few times, and I so don't really consider to have been traumatic to me. I don't remember it being so. I am being serious. I am always surprised when someone (a therapist for example) gets all worked up about my experience.
I admit to being an alien in these sorts of matters.