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Sep 26, 2015, 11:37 AM

It really doesn't sound like he is mad at all. Avoid the temptation to mind-read and decide how he is feeling for him. His reply is basically a "no problem, don't worry about it." Reply. That would be about what I'd expect if I got any kind of response at all. Like he said; these things do happen.

Salmon77 · Sep 26, 2015, 11:53 AM

I get a ton of emails in my line of work, many of which are just letting me know that so-and-so can't make it today. Giving even a brief reply to every one of them gets exhausting. So at this point, I reply only if I really need to. "Thanks for the info" and such are not really necessary, IMO, unless an answer is specifically requested.

So, OP, I don't think your T is upset or testing you. I think he just didn't see the reply as urgently needed and chose to do something else first.

timentimeagain · Sep 26, 2015, 11:57 AM

thanks everyone..that does sound reasonable and puts my mind at ease.

Gavinandnikki · Sep 26, 2015, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by timentimeagain

this was yesterday...so it has been more than 24 hours ...and i havent heard back anything.

just that when it was my session time, he must have been wondering where i am ...he had 50 mins. he must have checked his email...his laptop is always on.

just feel icky...that i got no acknowledgement and he could care less...i am sure he read the email..just chose not to respond at all...i wasnt looking for attention or doing something that i need to be discouraged from. it was strictly appt. related. so it just doesnt make sense to me..why he would do this.
and i didnt write just that i can not make it..i apologized a couple times..so a quick response its okay...see u next week ..would have been sufficient.

anyhow...i was left wondering all day...what happened...why didnt he reply..is he mad at me?
since its been 24 hours..i am not expecting a response now. so have stopped checking my email constantly.

Tel him that you feel this way. I think your feelings are totally valid and warrant discussion. - if you want to.

iheartjacques · Sep 27, 2015, 08:21 AM

I cancelled once because I was sick. Got charged.
I was late another time, got a text message ten minutes after session should've started to see if I was still coming in or not.
One time I turned up. He was more than 20 minutes late after asking me to come in half an hour early. I walked out. Ten minutes after that, I got a text saying he was ready to see me. I said he could get stuffed because I cancelled a coffee with a friend to fit him in earlier and he was late and I wasn't going to pay for half an hour instead of an hour if he had to leave early. I didn't get charged. Although I was upset for two weeks and didn't get a reply. And he didn't apologise until I told him I thought it was rude what he did.

divine1966 · Sep 27, 2015, 11:18 AM

My t called when i cancelled due to health Issue to see if I am ok. But wouldn't call if I cancel for other reasons. I cancelled more than once. Reasons being snow storm, work emergency, got sick, my mom had to be taken to the hospital, car accident. I was not charged. I wouldn't see t who charges for missed sessions especially in emergency

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AllHeart · Sep 27, 2015, 05:54 PM

Glad your T finally responded. I find it rude in any profession not to acknowledge an email, period!

Mike_J · Sep 28, 2015, 01:50 PM

I got caught up at work and was a no-show at my therapist's office. She called me right away (I had never missed an appointment in over 8 years at that point) the genuine concern in her voice was so touching. Her office is less than five minuets away, so I quickly drove over and made most of my appointment.

I would talk to your therapist about the reasons you weren't contacted, and let him know how you felt. I think that if you don't bring it up your resentment will start to build up, best to make it a topic on your next visit or sooner if that is possible in your case.

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