Have you become more secure in your relationship with your T over time?

Not throwing up is good.

I'm glad to hear you have had such a leap with your secure feelings, I've read your posts about how hard therapy is.

After seven years I did become fairly secure in the relationship and then I was cruelly and unethically abandoned. So that will NEVER happen again. LOL. I will not put myself in a position to be hurt that way again. I hate seeing people trust so much in therapists. They have so much power to hurt us.

It's difficult, for me, to really feel secure. It's a temporary relationship, no matter how you look at it. It does take me some time to trust that I can tell my T things, and that trust does build up over time.

For the most part yes. It has taken a few years but I have gotten there.

I haven't really thought about this before.

With my private therapist, I've felt secure from the very first appointment. I know what our relationship is, and there is nothing about it that worries me. It's easy.

I was actually a bit scared of my university therapist/mentor for the first few sessions, because she was a different kind of person altogether. I didn't know how to relate to her at first, and she had such extreme reactions to the things I told her about, which I've never experienced before. I'm so glad I decided to give it a chance, though, because she has helped me so much in just a few months. However, I am still insecure about my relationship with her, because I am really attached to her and that really worries me. I'm scared of messing it up or something, which is irrational, but I can't help it. I guess I just feel vulnerable because of the uneven nature of the relationship, and also partly due to knowing that when I graduate I will lose her. I do feel like we have a connection, though. She is the first person who has ever truly listened to me and made me feel validated, like maybe not everything is my fault. Feeling understood makes all the difference, I think.

Just when I think yes, I feel secure with my T something will happen and then I don't feel so secure. I'm going on year 3...it may take another 3 years before I can really know the answer to that question

Yes, I have. After about a year I felt very secure. That's when I became attached to him.