Because I want to revisited.

Well who'd funk that simple statement would have such an effect. I've struggled and struggled with this sentence from T last week just before the break and its leading me to really learn that others have needs, that there isn't just me in this world, and that as hard as I try to find a way to not trust T because of this parting statement, I can't.

It seems part of me very comfortable in not trusting. I dont have to be a real part of the relationship. I can hide behind my wall. But I keep battling T in my head and the just accepting T at her word, would it appear be the easier option for me, but it hasn't.

I've really done some emotional sumersaults trying to find a balance between who we both are, its been hard, but theres a sort of calmness now settling down.

Less panic, the fantasy that a T that cared would never have needs of her own, is going, and feels strangly safer to see someone else taking care of themselvs too.

I deeper level of belief in them because if they are being geniune with their own feelings, then they will be geniune to mine too.

Its good really

I really liked the, "strangely safer to see someone else taking care of themselves too," because it reminded me of how nice it is to have that "third" perspective and distance of the observer. If one's T can take care of themselves and we see that, we [em]know[/em] they can help take care of us whereas before, I always just "hoped" that was true and made it a fantasy of truth.

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Well who'd funk that simple statement would have such an effect. I've struggled and struggled with this sentence from T last week just before the break and its leading me to really learn that others have needs, that there isn't just me in this world, and that as hard as I try to find a way to not trust T because of this parting statement, I can't.

It seems part of me very comfortable in not trusting. I dont have to be a real part of the relationship. I can hide behind my wall. But I keep battling T in my head and the just accepting T at her word, would it appear be the easier option for me, but it hasn't.


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I'm thinking that if it isn't easier and comfortable to not trust, then you're moving on and growing. Leaving the familiar, the comfortable is a good measure of growth.

And when they take care of them then they'll be better able to take care of us!

I'm glad you're feeling good about it

ECHOES

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I deeper level of belief in them because if they are being geniune with their own feelings, then they will be geniune to mine too.

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Oooh Mouse, I really like this. Yes, we want to see the truth as well as the beauty in our T's, don't we! Well said.

Thanks.