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Old Oct 28, 2015, 02:56 PM
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My ex T recently sent me an invite to connect on LinkedIn. I checked his profile and found out he started a Facebook page for his practice. After accepting his invite, I started following his Facebook page. Not immediately, I thought it over for a while. I was curious what he'd write and I wondered if it would be nice to see more of him. Or that it would be strange or even painful to have him back in my life like that (present but not connected). I'm still not sure about it, I go back and forth about it. Sometimes it's comforting, sometimes it's just inspiring, and sometimes it makes me a little sad.

It made me wonder: is your (ex) T on social media? Do you follow them? Do you like and comment?

And would you follow an ex T if you still miss him (a little)?
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:05 PM
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Nope. She's not on it at all in any form.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:21 PM
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I haven't the foggiest idea.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:25 PM
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Both of my T's on are social media. I've found both of their Facebook pages, but they're private besides a few pictures. T2 knows I've seen her profile, and she says she looked at mine afterwards.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:28 PM
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Ex-T had her private practice page on fb. Never joined it. My ex-T also had her own fb page, LinkedIn, twitter, instagram, etc.

I don't think current T does any of that. But I did find her blog she write about her baby.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:53 PM
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Yes she does, and we eventually became FB friends.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 03:57 PM
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yes, he has a facebook and accounts on other sites for his community wellness center that he is starting up. his wife is the one that updates it, though. i 'liked' it on FB and read and like or comment on some of the things she posts.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:05 PM
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Yes, for both his practice and himself personally.. He is also very active on Twitter. I like a lot of the articles he posts in his practice page.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:14 PM
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My T and pdoc are both on Facebook and LinkedIn. Their Facabook profile is private, so I can't see anything but their profile picture and friendlist.
I don't think either of them would accept a friend request from a client/patient. I'm almost certain T wouldn't. Not so sure about pdoc, but I think he also wouldn't.
I don't know if they would accept ex-clients on Facebook. I wouldn't dare to try, don't want a rejection.

I'm not really interesting in any ex-T. I once googled one and another one I looked up on LinkedIn because I was curious how long she was out of school when she became my T. Only a few months, no wonder she was useless to me. I don't miss any ex-T.

I think that if I would stop seeing my current T and pdoc, I probably would google them once in a while. Not sure how long I would do that. I don't know how long I would miss them. But to them this T-client relationship is totally different than it is to me. They won't miss me.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:17 PM
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My therapist is on Facebook, LinkedIn, a national network for mental health providers, perhaps more that I don't know of. He barely uses his network accounts though - he doesn't like the Internet much. I used to follow his updates but it was doing me more harm than good so these days I try to avoid this (which is a little challenging sometimes because we have many friends and connections in common).
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:20 PM
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I know she had a Facebook page but never tried to "friend" her, that would be crossing a line I'm sure.
I'm not really a "social media" person myself so don't know about other things and haven't looked.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:25 PM
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My T is on Facebook but not my pdoc, who seems to keep off most social media. I've seen my Ts page, which is mostly just pics of her daughter that she's showed me herself anyway. I would never friend request her, it would be inappropriate.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:27 PM
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I don't think T or marriage counselor are on any social media, but both have very common names (particularly MC), so would be more difficult to find if they don't make, say, photo and/or location public. (Of course, I did try searching at one point.)
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:40 PM
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Current T is only in LinkedIn and I'm not on there. My first T is on Twitter and after I stopped seeing him I followed him and he followed me back. There's been no direct communication though. I don't think about it much because neither of us are very active on there.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 04:52 PM
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T has a private Facebook page. I would never friend request her. She also has a linked in page. She sent me a request so we are connected there.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 05:36 PM
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My t invited me to her personal facebook page. We chat and send stuff to each other.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 05:47 PM
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Doesn't linkedin email people automatically? I thought it just emailed all your contacts so I would never take it as a personal invite. Ex-T had a professional and a personal facebook page.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 06:34 PM
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Doesn't linkedin email people automatically? I thought it just emailed all your contacts so I would never take it as a personal invite. Ex-T had a professional and a personal facebook page.
I think you can choose who you want it to contact.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 06:51 PM
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Ah I see, I tend to get linkedin invites from people and I think they've just selected all their contacts. Then the endless reminders. as such I tend to ignore them unless someone personally tells me they've sent me something.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 07:16 PM
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Mine is on facebook, but most everything is private. She never shares much of anything personal with me, which is fine because I want all the attention on me Me ME.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 08:50 PM
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My T has Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter. I do wish that my T would follow me on at least some of the platforms because then she will be able to see how really am outside of the office.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 09:00 PM
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No, mine is not. She actually DID put up a FB page for her company, but there's no information on it and she doesn't update it. She flat out told me she does not "do" facebook.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 09:48 PM
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One in her contract says she doesn't friend clients (even former ones) on Facebook or on LinkedIn, so she must have those. The other one, I don't know, never looked, no contract mentions it, but since she has kids in their late teens, I'm betting she has at least a FB account to keep an eye on them.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 10:13 PM
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I am not on social media so I don't know. I think the second one had some of it like facebook for her other career.
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Old Oct 28, 2015, 11:24 PM
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Mine is on Twitter and I found out when he followed me. I have my Twitter handle in my email signature so it's no big deal. We both use Twitter more or less professionally, so to me it's 100% public. I would never want to be friends with him on Facebook or on LinkedIn- that would feel like he was intruding on my privacy and in my space.
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