[BigSurKay]

I was in therapy for about a year with a really wonderful therapist. We stopped therapy because the therapist felt like she was enabling me to continue my bad habits.

Now, 3 months after we parted ways, she has called me and stated that she wanted to say hello and let me know she cared about me and is thinking about me.

This has kind of weirded me out. What do you guys think? Do therapists call patients 3 months after they have stopped seeing each other?

[asylumgardens]

Well, I guess that depends. I have never seen one therapist very long, but if I did have one that I saw for an extended time and felt attachment to, I would be happy if they cared to call and see how I'm doing after we've parted ways. I think even therapists must get genuine emotions and attachments sometimes, even though it's their job. I don't know if ethically there is anything wrong with it because of her job, or if it's weird, but it seems nice to me.

my old therapist would forward me emails from time to time, but she was very open and stuff.

It sounds like she really hurt you by terminating you before, and you arent ready to let her in or see this as an attempt to come back into your life.. Its your decision if you want that.. Be sure to protect yourself.

It doesn't matter really what other therapists do. Yours is doing this, contacting you.

Can you say why you feel weirded out about it?

Would you like to see her again? For a session or more?

What kind of therapist and therapy? Perhaps she has had additional training and feels she can help you more now? Did you talk to her when she called? How did that go?

[tranquility]

I've never had a T contact me after termination - not sure what to make of it.

Tranquility

[sunrise]

I think it sounds OK. She is just remembering you and wanted to let you know. My guess is, it probably will not be a regular thing she does.

My husband went to see a therapist for 4 sessions, about 3 years ago. Then he stopped. A few months letter, he received a brief, handwritten letter from her saying she hoped he was doing well, everything was going OK for him, and she wished him the best. It seemed really nice and not intrusive. There was no further contact.

I guess an alternative possibility is that your T is hurting for clients now, and fishing a bit to see if you would want to resume seeing her. ???

[Direction]

I too think it is ok - unless you feel really uncomfortable.

[MissCharlotte]

I would probably be suspicious, but unfortunately, that is my nature! After thinking about it and reading other's posts, I think it's okay, but, agree with the sentiment that you should ask yourself and her some questions such as, why is she contacting you now? Did you agree with the termination? Did your habits change in the interim? Do you want to see her again, for therapy?

You know, we always worry that our T's will leave us. They always assure us that they never will. But then when they contact us and let us know they are still there, we are suspicious.....oh it's such a fencing match isn't it?

Good luck.

[lauren_helene]

I think it is just fine and I'm glad that she cared enough about you to make that call.

All that matters though is how you feel about it. How did the call end?