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#1
Nov 15, 2015, 05:10 PM
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I wish I hadn't let myself get so attached to my therapist. I wish I hadn't allowed this transference to develop. I could have stopped it if I had shut down my emotions. I wish I had nipped it in the bud before it got so out of hand. Because now I have to say goodbye, and it feels like someone is ripping my heart out. Do I dare to tell her this when I see her on Thursday? There's nothing she can do, and I am afraid if I tell you how much this hurts so close to the ending of therapy she will feel responsible. I am afraid she will feel like I am trying to manipulate her into giving me free therapy because I am in danger of harming myself badly when I stop seeing her. I am kind of feeling angry at her because it's not like she couldn't see this coming. I've been up front about my feelings for her right from the beginning and have told her many times that I am going to miss her. I was in tears over this in our last session.
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#2
Nov 15, 2015, 05:36 PM
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Please tell her what you can. And what's options do you have if you can't see her?
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#3
Nov 15, 2015, 05:44 PM
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Do I tell her that the thought of never seeing her again makes me feel suicidal? I would feel bad saying that so close to the end of therapy. We are done in December, and only have 3 more sessions because I can only see her twice a week.
I am waiting to get assessed by my town's local mental health association, but I don't think they offer individual therapy, just groups. And it's my therapist who I am going to miss so terribly. I don't think anyone else would understand me the way she does. I don't ever want to say goodbye to her. I ache for her to be a permanent person in my life. I'm heading out for a walk now because this is the last of the sun we're going to see for awhile. Quote:
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| LonesomeTonight
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#4
Nov 15, 2015, 06:50 PM
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I'm sorry Aurora. I hope you can tell her. I wish I had words of wisdom for you but I don't... just sending gentle hugs.
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| AuroraBorealis75
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Nov 15, 2015, 10:39 PM
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 I think it would help to tell her. Is there a way you can see her again in the future, like in a couple months? I'm not sure how things work in Canada with mental healthcare.
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Nov 15, 2015, 10:48 PM
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| Pennster, rainbow8
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Nov 16, 2015, 03:35 PM
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I know how hard it is to think when you are upset or emotional. Could you write her a letter about how much she means to you and give it to her and you can talk about during one of your last sessions? You deserve to get closure.
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#8
Nov 16, 2015, 10:18 PM
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She knows I'm going to miss her because I have told her. I was in tears over this in our last session. I have some money coming to me from the pension plan from my last job, but I don't know exactly how much, or when I am going to get it. My T is private practice, and has been charging me $105/hour including GST, but I noticed on her website that she has actually increased her fees to $110/hour plus GST.
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Nov 16, 2015, 10:25 PM
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I wish I could be a baby and be held and snuggled in my therapist's arms. I wish she could hold me and hold me until all the pain is gone. I wish I could be her little girl.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#10
Nov 17, 2015, 02:58 PM
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It's over a year since I started therapy, and I really don't know what it has accomplished. I still wake up every morning wishing I wasn't. Every morning I wake up wishing I was dead.
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| Ellahmae
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#11
Nov 17, 2015, 03:02 PM
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All I can say is thinking about leaving my T or saying goodbye sends me into an emotional mess, and we still have several years together. I don't know how I'm going to let go when the time comes. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and am sending you hugs and support.
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**the curiosity can kill the soul but leave the pain and every ounce of innocence is left inside her brain**
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Nov 17, 2015, 03:06 PM
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I wish I could have several more years with her.
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| Cinnamon_Stick, Ellahmae
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#13
Nov 17, 2015, 04:32 PM
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I don't have a T but today I seen my mental health nurse specialist for the last time. I've been seeing him for two years... He handed me over to another mental health nurse... She seems okay but I am angry because I trusted him. He didn't have a choice and not only is it a new person, it's in a new place, at a new time and everything is basically new :/ There is nothing much you can do except try to remember that not everyone stays in your life forever. Stay strong.
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Diagnosed with: Asperger's Syndrome, ADHD & Dyspraxia
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| Cinnamon_Stick
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