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Old Nov 18, 2015, 06:00 PM
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Yeah. I wouldn't want to talk about certain subjects with someone of my mothers generation. Just sayin.
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Old Nov 18, 2015, 08:35 PM
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I stay away from older ladies with blonde bob haircuts or very short or perhaps curly dyed psuedo red hair (not bright enough to be vibrant, sort of dark and browny, it's like they wanted to be edgy, but didn't want to go all the way.)

Those are very specific looks, but I've found 9/10 times it's predictive of someone who is going to snap at me about something I'll find mystifying. My shoes will be tied incorrectly, or I'll be a few minutes too early for an appointment, or maybe I'll have accidentally driven over the planter box they thought would be a good idea for the parking lot. (It wasn't! If there's one thing we don't need when trying to park a Mitsubishi Behemoth it's more random obstacles designed to fit neatly into blind spots!)

I'm not great with older women in roles of any kind of power in general. I tend to bring out the worst in them and vice versa. I find men safer and more predictable in general.

Looks are not predicting. My mom always had very short hair cut she is very pretty and it looks nice on her, she also dyes it reddish burgundy tint. Overall she is a bit fashion forward. She had to go grey now as her oncologist doesn't recommend dying hair during chemo ( she lost some hair but not all). Bet when she is well I bet you she'll go to that hair color again. She never snapped at anyone in her life, lol the most peaceful person ever. Same is my aunt. Everyone loves her, also cuts her hair very short ( different color). You can't really judge people by hair style or color. Many people choose what suits their facial features and complexion. Simple as that

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Old Nov 18, 2015, 08:36 PM
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It may be narrow minded, but when looking for a new T I always judge them based on their picture (along with their experience obviously) Does anyone else do this?

Nope. Never judged anyone by their looks let alone their pictures. Some people are not photogenic and some don't even look like themselves on pics.

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Old Nov 18, 2015, 09:42 PM
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I was matched up with my T by my school, and he looks fine in person, but I don't think I'd have picked him if I'd been going by a photo.

They tried to match me up with someone else who had incorrect punctuation in her statement, and I just could not bring myself to call her. I am very detail-oriented and don't think I could work with someone who is publicly that careless.
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Old Nov 19, 2015, 01:32 PM
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Their picture always says so much more about them than the little blurb they write.

(Not just appearance. The way they take the pic, where they take it, what they wear, what face they make, etc.)
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Old Nov 19, 2015, 01:49 PM
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My T was recommended to me. I had no clue about qualifications /therapy orientation at that point in my life. So no.
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Old Nov 19, 2015, 03:10 PM
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I have never searched did at t. With this one my pcp knew I needed to see somebody but I was very resistant for fear of being judged. She took some time to really think of the perfect fit. She ended up referring me to somebody she had worked with at her previous job. T was outside of the medical system PcP worked in. She was supposed t to refer me to somebody in the sudden. But because I also worked in the mental health system where she worked. She didn't go with policy and any me there. She was a perfect choice as no she is very maternal and earn. I would never see a man or somebody younger than me. If I had to see a man they would have to be clean cut and NO facial hair
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Old Nov 19, 2015, 03:21 PM
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If I had seen T's online photo before actually having a session with her, I wouldn't have gone. She is not what her picture shows, completely opposite and different. I'm glad I had appointments with her before seeing her online photo.
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