The Couch: 103 — The Non-Palindromic Couch

I'm not actually upset, or sad. Just annoyed at the fact that she has a whole bunch of boundaries listed in her contract (many about out-of-session contact), which I thought was great when I started, and still think is great...except she's violated most of them, the latest just last week.

I challenged her on it at our last appointment. Her attitude was basically "boundaries for thee, but not for me." I, of course, have observed the contract, because a) I signed it, and b) it's all stuff I don't need/wouldn't want to do anyway. It's just the hypocrisy that's irritating.

I don't like inconsistency/hypocrisy/say one thing, do another. Blah. I would have a big problem with that even though to some it might seem like a small thing.

I would take in a revised K with my requirements spelled out and listing the ones she violated as having a penalty.
I am super big on the therapist observing my boundaries.

I read a book by one of those guys - Wallin perhaps, who got all wadded up because a potential client came to see him and (he actually wrote this down) he felt like he was being interviewed for a job - like that is odd or that is not what is in reality happening. I ****ing hate those guys. I could so never see a man.

What kind of penalty?

A reduced or free appointment comes to mind.

Not sure if maleness is the issue or just therapists with a lack of humility. I've had arrogant male and female T's. Arrogance is not a quality I put up with in a therapist.

just got home from getting my flu shot. and started taking Airborne too so hopefully I won't get sick on the plane thursday. i got so sick last spring when i went on a plane, i do not want a repeat of that!!

The only male t I saw, for half an appointment, was an arrogant *** (yeah I inserted my own ***'s lol) and because of him I will never see a male t again.

I wish I knew how I will know when it's time to end therapy with current t. I'm feeling those stirrings again of wanting to talk about ending. Perhaps it's time for another break....

I'm a big fan of EMDR. Where regular trauma talk therapy has you diving into the ocean of memories and hoping your swimming skills are good enough, EMDR is like sitting at the beach, watching what floats to the surface. Much less chance of drowning.
Of course, that doesn't mean it's easy. And I'm still scared before sessions. But as far as trauma therapies go, I think it's pretty much as ideal as can be regarding dredging up ****** stuff.

Yah, that's how my T and I talk about it. I'm hopeful for when I get to the point that I can actually do it. Apparently I'm still too fragile for it right now.

I almost just put a glue stick on my lips instead of chapstick....

1. I shouldn't keep them in the same place.
2. I'm really out of it today.
3. Maybe it's a sign from the universe that I talk too much to my T as I have session soon...

I'm feeling so emotional and stressed.... My bff's daughter was born with some significant congenital issues but has always managed to struggle through ... They said she might not make it through delivery but she's 10 now. She is like the daughter I never had... She is having major health issues that the doctors can not fix... She won't get better they are just trying to make her comfortable.... No one knows how long she has....

It's so very hard to know how to support my friend.....when my own heart is breaking too.

RTS, my heart goes out to you and your friend. Sometimes just being there, even silently, is all you can do.

Argh! Why do I have to keep coming into this stupid place, working for this nit-picking perfectionist, and getting my *** handed to me at least 3 times a week?! Ever since she got promoted to assistant supervisor, she has been ripping me up one side while my supervisor praises me up the other side. WHAT?? I'm great but I suck at the same time?

I think I need to find a new pdoc.

How so, Ellahmae?

Oh, RTS, I'm so sorry to hear that. Hugs.

Non-responsive, doesn't understand me.

Is it the coming of the holidays like Christmas that makes the increase in threads like Does your T love you etc. It seems to me, based on my patchy memory that this is so. I might trawl through the threads this time last year and if it is.

(((Growly))) you are too funny!! You should try selling that advice to psych today or somewheres!

That's really good!

You're right. A contract binds both parties.

I wish I'd realised this earlier.

It's a curious thing.

Mr T and The Countess are fine and reliable therapists, but not in the least bit exciting. Madame T had many failings but we struck sparks off each other.

I understand what Hillary Clinton means when she says Bill is still the only man who makes her feel alive, in spite of all he's done.

The Pointy Haired Boss in Dilbert did that once.

Have you talked to your supervisor?