The Couch: 103 — The Non-Palindromic Couch

My H and I use "because physics" a lot. Like S will call and be mad we are not there to pick him up -- why aren't you here yet?? Because physics. D will ask why something is taking so long. Because physics. Really my favorite answer.

I like that! I was telling a neighbor here that my brother gives lousy instructions because hes not a computer programmer (like me), hes a psychologist. A programmer has to say exactly when something should happen. A therapist doesnt - they are not accountable to real life! "And then after the lawyer we'll go to the real estate" - that does not mean in the same day that i rented the car for, altho it sounds like it. It just means some undetermined time after we have seen the lawyer, and a hundred other things have happened. So mine is, because x is not a programmer. I NEVER thought i would see that as a positive. Hes driving me nuts. Im doing stuff in the lawyers office that i learned to do in my first 5 years of working almost 40 years ago ie knowing when to speak up. Yet he talks down to me every time he opens his mouth. I swear he talks louder like he thinks im french or something. I gotta buy a mensa nosering or stg.

Hi couch-

Had my interview yesterday now i'm home. I think I did well but I'm iffy on the job itself. Like I'd just be trading one heavy workload for another. Hiring manager was cagey and a bit hard to read! Didn't stay long enough to see if I'd even like the city itself. No word on even the $$ they'd offer. I'd like to get the job, even if it is just used as leverage to get a counter-offer. I don't know what I want.

Just see if you get it. You don't have to decide anything yet. In fact, you're sitting pretty between a possible new job offer to take or use for leverage, if you ask me.

ETA: Autocorrect renders goodluck as godlike...hmmm.

Hi, couch.

I am home and eating potato chips. Dill pickle ones.

Had a sub for one teacher today...the kids were crazy. 11 school days till winter vacation.

My t has been stuck on the same themes lately.. I am self sabotaging AND in some ways recreating my trauma (not the act itself).. Pretty heavy stuff to think about, admit to, and then change.. Has anybody else talks about these topics with their T's?

I also have a craving for chicken patty sand which..

Btw.. Hi couch!

*offers blanket*

Hugs if wanted!

Yes. Like how in perpetuating patterns that for into my core belief of "I'm worthless, disgusting and bad."

Constantly re-doing it to myself before someone did it to me. Well - thats why i went no contact with the family - the mother was constantly retraumatizing me, honestly i think on purpose. Its why i stopped doing anything - a bad decision was worse than no action at all. A bad decision would mean one step forward, two steps backward (two minimum!).

But change is like apples and oranges. You stop eating apples and you start eating oranges. You dont turn one into the other. You start singing instead of dancing. You dont try to dance differently - thats a trap. KWIM?

Morning (evening) couch! We picked up our rescue kitten last night. She is absolutely adorable!! However, our other 2 cats are not of the same opinion. One of them, isn't too bad I think they are going to make friends pretty quickly but the other one is FURIOUS and hisses and growls non-stop when they are in the same room. Not sure how this is gonna work... I'll have pics later!

Keep the kitten in a room by itself and then slowly introduce it to the rest of the house and the other cats. It's the way that's always worked best for me.

Here's the new kitten exploring a few minutes ago. She ran around the room we're keeping her in for now (til our other cats make friends with her) for awhile, snuggled up with me a bunch, walked across the keyboard a few times, jumped up the wall and knocked a picture down lol, ran across the windowsill a few times, and now she's hiding in the closet again. Precious lil thing. I love her so big already.

In non-kitten news, my stomach feels tied in knots this morning knowing I'm seeing t in a couple hours. That was such a weird phone call the other day when we rescheduled for today. I still don't get where she was coming from when she said that thing about "I want to see you Friday."

Art,

Jackson Galaxy is the man when it comes to everything cat...here is a link with info on cat intros:

http://jacksongalaxy.com/2010/10/01/...introductions/

Congrats on the new addition!

Thanks!! I'm checking it out now. My h just tried to bring the big cat in again and the cat growled so loud it scared h so he put him down and decided to forget about it for now. The baby wants to make friends - she keeps trying to approach him when he's in the same room. I would be terrified of that noise if I was little her!!

Seeing T today for day #5 this week. Don't feel well. New pup likes the 'first child' but the first child doesn't like the new pup. Finally put up Christmas. Just making it through each day, or trying to anyway.

I have always found it takes about a week to 10 days for my cats to settle in. I separate them (so kitten will be safe) when I am not around, but when I am around I let them have their spitting and hissing and hiding without interference. The old cats have always come around but it does take some personal fortitude to just let them hide and hiss until they decide to stop. I figure the old cats get to teach the kittens how to treat them ( I do not let kittens get actually hurt, but they do get whacked a few times)
I never let the kittens in bed with me (where old cats sleep) until after the old cats have calmed down.

Thanks. Old cats each have claimed a bedroom, so kitten is staying in the office when we're asleep or not home. She likes the bookshelf in there already.

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I have only once had two cats never accept each other. The one cat was almost grown and the other was older. I have tried all the suggested methods of introduction and reintroduction and nothing has ever worked to get the older cat to accept the younger. At some point, unfortunately, the younger cat became MUCH larger than the older cat and got sick of her hissing at him and hitting him and just started beating the holy living crap out of the older cat. We got him to stop doing that, but they still detest each other. Not to be a Debby Downer or anything. It probably isn't even relevant to your situation, Art, since it is a kitten. I am just babbling.

Mine have not always loved each other, but generally stopped continual fighting. I did once have a tiny female who ran the whole house like a demented dictator. She would launch herself off of furniture onto unwary sleeping other cats or the dogs who were on the dog beds if she wanted their warm spot in the sun, pushed the dogs out of the way to eat their food, and would bar the dog door by just sitting in front of it while the dogs whined until I came and rescued them. She totally ruled a giant male who could have easily knocked her across the room if he ever tried.

I had 7 cats in the house for awhile (we combined 2 households and got a kitten) - it all worked out. It was much tougher on us than on the cats - they just spit and hid - we worried.

I appreciate hearing the experiences! Our older cats are brothers, so they have grown up together and never had to go through the "introductions" stuff. I am in the office with the little one now, and she's at the door meowing pitifully, she wants to go out into the house with the other 2. She is currently attempting to smoosh herself under the door but not being successful.

This kitten wants out of this room in a huge way. How can such a big voice come out that tiny lil body? i have to leave for t soon so I can't let her out there right now, she's so FAST I'd never be able to catch her to get her back in this room before I have to leave!
How's that for an excuse to cancel therapy: "Sorry t, I can't catch my kitten I have to cancel." Nervous Nelly me wants to do exactly that.

Still thinking of names. Last night I was thinking Copernicus but she's a she, so this morning I'm thinking Penelope Pitstop. I don't know I've never been good at naming pets.