The Couch: 103 — The Non-Palindromic Couch

If i color my hair, i need the roots done at 3 weeks. Somehow my hair grows at the roots but never gets longer. I have shyte for hair. It looks like one of those earbands with a black and white spiky top. Esp when i wear an earband

I have gone through a ton of stylists since moving and have finally found one that is amazing. I guess the time and effort spent finding a hairapist is the same as an actual therapist.

I cut my own hair because I'm too scared to go to a hairdresser.

They always complain about my thick, wavy, frizzy and dry hair...and my terribly flakey dry scalp. :/

I'm disgusting.

Hugs from someone else with thick wavy frizzy dry hair. Its not as thick as is was though. I'm sure you are not disgusting

How did it get thinner for you?

I've considered thinning it myself as I've one of those scissors meant for that, plus anxiety is making strands of hair fall out whenever I run my hands through my hair.

But the way hairdressers react to my hair is as though it's disgusting, but I really can't help the texture or the extremely dry scalp

A guy recently touched my hair (ugh) and said it was "like horse hair, so stiff!"

I was put on epilim when I was first diagnosed and my hair fell out in handfuls. I later found out this was the junior doctors fault as my dose was too high. I was switched to lithium and it is slowly growing back just not as thick as before.
I am sorry the guy was rude. There better people than that.

I have thick wavy hair, argan oil is the best for mine!
I don't go the hairdressers though. I haven't been for thirty years! I cut my own. It makes me feel sick if people touch my hair

Wow, I started a hair discussion.

I am up and waiting to leave for school job. Just need shoes on. And still have 35 minutes.

I woke up with one eye bloodshot, I hope it isn't pink eye. I haven't checked it in a hour...maybe it's just irritation from rubbing it in my sleep or something and looks better now. Though I did look up information on pink eye online and found several ophthalmic pages that said it doesn't always need antibiotics and usually clears up on it's own if it is the viral type. The bacterial type needs antibiotic drops, but it has a think yellow-green discharge from the eye, which I do not have. Hmmm....

Maybe my eye doctor is open on Wednesday and I can get in if it is still red then to have it looked at.

My friend cuts my hair because I don't trust hairdressers. They all pretend like they know more about my hair, ignore what I say, and then it get it wrong. I live with it 365 days a year, I think I've got this!

My hair is really thick, coarse and dry. It used to be curly in the back when I have it short, but after menopause all the natural wave/curl is gone and it's absolutely straight and flat now. I do not like it. That's why I started the curling thing. It's not quite as coarse if I stay away from the super-cheap shampoo I used to always use. I get it thinned every time I get it cut. I used to color mine, but the color never really fully 'took' on the gray hairs, so I decided I'm not going to color it anymore... I'm taking a lead from my t on this one and calling the gray "silver" and letting it take over naturally. I remember when she came to visit in May and we hadn't seen each other in over 2 years, she made a comment about how much gray/silver I have now. Well, at least I still have some golden strands in there too so it really sparkles in the sunlight. I don't know why but my t keeps talking about when my hair was longer. I like it shorter, it's so much easier to take care of. I think it's been almost 4 months since I got it cut last, it's feeling like time again.

I'm off to work couchies, have a good day/night! I took tomorrow thru Friday off work, I keep trying to talk myself into working tomorrow at least so I can use that 8 hrs in December, but I don't want to. I need to have some time by myself psyching up to spend 2.5 days with my mother. Ugh. I am so seriously starting my drinking on the plane.

Don't you hate it when they are like that? I had one this one time, she was remarking about the curly/wavy my hair used to be, it was really curly/wavy when it was wet and then as it dried the curl would come out and just be a little wavy. I told her that and she didn't believe me she said no, I'll show you, and gets her blow drier out. I even said that - "I think I know my hair, it's mine after all," and she scoffed at me and blow dried it and then went "Oh." when the curl went away as I knew it would and left behind just a little wavy in the back as I had told her would happen. Ha!

I feel less like a freak now! The beauty standard in my country is long, straight and sleek hair.

Yes!!! It's the worst. I have super curly hair mostly but some straight bits underneath so you HAVE to cut those shorter, but everyone insist on leaving everything the same length and I end up with awesome curls on top and horrible straight bits underneath that look like some weird do.

Just trust me on this one.

feeling so down because i find that when my son come home to this area he never comes to see he he spends ia time with his girls family . i hate him right now . i have basically lost my best friend my family and now him . yes i have people i scrapbook with and craft with but they are not good friends . it sucks to know that your family is so horrible that your own son wont even come around yet .i feel he hates me now .that i dont know what to do to make him even want to be around me . i feel so lonely and i hae no one to talk to . he is not even coming home for thanksgiving . i feel like a failure as a friend ,mother ,daughter ,and wife . i tried to tell my T how i was feeling about my son and all she said was that my son still needs me and i need to go to his girlfriends mothers house . god i just feel more and more like a horrible person . and my T doesnt seem to understand how bad it is . oh well

also any idea what to bring as a gift for having us to dinner

I tend to stick to the basics as gifts in situations like that - a bottle of wine, flowers or a box of good chocolate.

I wore long hair until my daughter was a tot.. She liked to pull and tangle my hair with her gummed and slobbery little hands...

i asked the mother what kind of wine she drinks so i can supply the wine .i was also thinking of bringing one of those edible fruit arrangements. i hate holidays even more then ever now

i cant believe me and my family suck so bad i need to go to a family i dont even know to see my son

Granite -for what it is worth -I don't think it is about you personally necessarily - it could be about making his girlfriend happy and it may feel more freeing to be with her family than his own at his age.
I remember my mother having the response you are having when I would go home and want to spend more time with my friends or my lover or be with my lover's family more than with my mother - frankly I was baffled at her (she was my mother - of course I loved and needed her for certain things and all of that - wasn't it obvious but I need my space and my life etc? was my internal thought process) and all her reaction did was drive me away more or lead me to not telling her if I was in town so I didn't have to deal with all the emotional stuff from my mother. I liked (and trusted) that my parents were there (as an idea - not literally) and it made it safer for me indirectly. As I grew older, I went back to wanting to spend more time with her (say in my middle 30s). When she would go out with me and my friends (and if she could refrain from criticizing me - she liked my friends so they were not a concern) - we could have fun and people would tell me what a great mother I had. It is the sort of let the bird fly back to you rather than trying to clasp it tightly in your hands sort of idea.
This may not be making sense.

i didnt think i was being all that emotional to him but i probably am . god i hate who i am .i dont want to do any of this i kind of want to even tell him to go to hell like i have most everyone else in my life at this point .

I did not mean that you necessarily were - but just that it might not be at much at you as that his attention is elsewhere right now in his life. I hear students (usually in their mid-to late 20s) bemoaning having to go home to see their families for the holidays all the time - and how much they profess being happy at being back at school (not in school but back at it) when the holidays are over. Some are trying to figure out how to tell their families they aren't coming home or that they want to do something new and so forth - and they struggle with how to tell their parents and how to deal with their parents' disappointment etc. Some parents make it easier for them and the students are often (sometimes to a degree that surprises them) grateful (and they need their parents) when the parents are able to help them make those transitions rather than the parents resenting it.
I am sorry I am not being more articulate on this to explain myself better.

My daughter has similar issues and has researched how to deal with her hair. She uses a shampoo with no sulfates, and doesn't shampoo more than three or four times a week. Tea tree oil on her scalp. She uses a conditioner without silicons. She shops in the "ethnic" area of the hair product aisle.

Try, try, try to think about it as a good opportunity to meet these folks who may be part of your family in the future. My in-laws have been SUCH an improvement over my actual family of origin. You might find they treat you much, much better than your mother and father.

Again, please don't do anything that you might regret later. I think that stopdog is correct that this is nothing personal and has nothing to do with who you are as a person.

I always feel special when stopdog 'thanks' a post of mine.

Thanks. That is much better than having one become concerned.