[growlithing]

Hey guys,

If you caught my update post, I mentioned that I found a trauma T that might work for me. However, I might have to move in about 6 months. Well, technically, I'm moving to somewhere this week, but I haven't the slightest idea where yet. But at least I know I'm not going to move more than 10 or so miles away. I applied to a bunch of grad schools based on what I need musically, financially, and academically. All of them are at least a six hour drive away from where I live currently. The idea of moving far away makes me so nervous, I feel ill. I don't want to lose my weekly/bi weekly hugs from LCM and I'm scared of calling this T back after a few months, start EMDR, get attached, only to move in 6 months.

LCM says she thinks all of this is just an excuse because I'm terrified of actually confronting my trauma in a meaningful way. She's probably right. Is it worth it to start doing this now (after I figure out where the hell i'm going to live next week) and risk losing this new T in half a year?

[growlycat]

All such good news, really! Even though it may not seem like it.

You don't have to dive too deep with Trauma T knowing that you may move. But starting with someone really will help you with the next person. It can lay the groundwork.

I never thought I could do therapy with anyone except my long term T. But I do. And I get things from him that long term T wasn't great at. It's a good feeling to know that you can connect with lots of people, that there are plenty of new doors to be opened.

Hope this makes sense. Hope you continue the great direction you are going in!

Maybe it's possible to think of utilizing the next 6 months in trauma therapy and with LCM as a steppingstone to your next landing.

You have come so far, and I wish all the best for you.

[kecanoe]

I do EMDR with one of my t, and I have no where near the attachment with her that I do with other t. One of the great things about EMDR (for me) is that a session consists of finding a target memory-which can be something that happened the last week-and then just letting my mind wander. So I am not pushed to be vulnerable or dependent on t. And since I have dependent PD, it is pretty amazing that I am not dependent on her.

[AllHeart]

First, I'm really glad things are moving in a positive direction for you, Growlithing. Thanks for the updates. I've thought of you often.

Second, I think seeing the trauma t now might be a good idea because:
- it doesn't sound like you are 100% sure you are moving in 6 months. What if something changes and you don't move, or if you move in a year instead?
- this t could help you to better prepare mentally for that move when it happens, and ease the current anxiety you are experiencing around the move now
- you might not let yourself get attached having the notion in your head that you are moving in 6 months

There are a lot of "what if" factors in this for you so I understand your conflict with this, but, I am willing to bet you will benefit from seeing the trauma t now. Maybe you could call the trauma T and tell her your situation and see what she recommends as well.

[unlockingsanity]

If it was me, I would wait because I couldn't imagine opening myself up and being that vulnerable, only to have to change and start over with a new therapist who doesn't know me. I think starting and finishing the journey together is important - to me anyway.

[growlithing]

Originally Posted by growlycat

All such good news, really! Even though it may not seem like it.

You don't have to dive too deep with Trauma T knowing that you may move. But starting with someone really will help you with the next person. It can lay the groundwork.

I never thought I could do therapy with anyone except my long term T. But I do. And I get things from him that long term T wasn't great at. It's a good feeling to know that you can connect with lots of people, that there are plenty of new doors to be opened.

Hope this makes sense. Hope you continue the great direction you are going in!

It seems more like a train wreck than anything. I feel more secure in my relationships, but other than that, I have no clue where I'm gonna live next week or how I'll afford it or anything beyond that I feel safe in my relationship with LCM. She'll be there if I call her while shivering in my blankets on the streets

[InRealLife45]

Originally Posted by growlithing

Hey guys,

If you caught my update post, I mentioned that I found a trauma T that might work for me. However, I might have to move in about 6 months. Well, technically, I'm moving to somewhere this week, but I haven't the slightest idea where yet. But at least I know I'm not going to move more than 10 or so miles away. I applied to a bunch of grad schools based on what I need musically, financially, and academically. All of them are at least a six hour drive away from where I live currently. The idea of moving far away makes me so nervous, I feel ill. I don't want to lose my weekly/bi weekly hugs from LCM and I'm scared of calling this T back after a few months, start EMDR, get attached, only to move in 6 months.

LCM says she thinks all of this is just an excuse because I'm terrified of actually confronting my trauma in a meaningful way. She's probably right. Is it worth it to start doing this now (after I figure out where the hell i'm going to live next week) and risk losing this new T in half a year?

i think you can do a lot in 6 months. personally im going to see a T who is leaving in 7 months to canada- I think we can do meaningful work while also preventing a psychotic attachment like I had with my old T. less about relationship and more about the work.