Are you giving your t a gift?

Partless · Dec 22, 2015, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers

I have given my t a Christmas/end if year gift. This is the 3rd year I have.

Have, or will, you give t a gift or card? If so what did/will you give your t? What has been your experience in doing this?

See, I like to give my T a gift but current one has quite strict boundaries and I am afraid of it being rejected which then would, to me at least, feel like it damaging our rapport a bit. I'm super sensitive to my T rejecting me.

But deep inside I do like to give gifts, it's just in my nature. I think maybe I can find something that's simple and cheap, and counts more as a gesture of good will and my T will see it for what it is exactly. Cause I'm 100% sure she will reject expensive or fancy gifts, not that I could afford any lol.

Inner_Firefly · Dec 22, 2015, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick

This is the first year I gave my T a gift. I said it was for Christmas but it was really just a gift of appreciation. I bought my T a journal and inside it I listed all the ways that therapy has helped me and how she is a good therapist. At the end I wrote her a personal message. I wanted something that showed how thankful I am for everything she does and I wanted her to have something she could look at when she is having a bad day and know how good of a T she really is. She looked like she was going to cry while reading it and said it was very powerful and she loved it. I could tell she really genuinely loved it. Her expression after she read it was the best.

Hi Cinnamon Stick, this is so impressive. I love how you described your T's reaction. I admire that you actually took the time to put together this amazing journal.

I wish I could make T cry, too; your journal must be very powerful.

Similar to you, I meant to express my thanks with a handmade booklet, but I still haven't done it, ended up being too busy, and perfectionistic because there is "limited gift quota" so this is ONE CHANCE to get it perfect.

Dec 22, 2015, 10:19 PM

My t and i are big on gift giving

We give each other birthday gifts and christmas gifts. I gave her a painting i did for christmas and several other things.

Cinnamon_Stick · Dec 22, 2015, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly

Hi Cinnamon Stick, this is so impressive. I love how you described your T's reaction. I admire that you actually took the time to put together this amazing journal.

I wish I could make T cry, too; your journal must be very powerful.

Similar to you, I meant to express my thanks with a handmade booklet, but I still haven't done it, ended up being too busy, and perfectionistic because there is "limited gift quota" so this is ONE CHANCE to get it perfect.

Thank you so much. It took me 3 days to do the journal. It was worth it though to see the look on her face and to make her day better.

You could still make the booklet and give it to her. I bet she would love it!

Dec 23, 2015, 12:14 AM

My t cried once when i gave her a present. I felt terrible

But she explained it was just because she was so touched by it.

Willowleaf · Dec 23, 2015, 01:25 AM

This year I have made her a gift, but spent the last session discussing it as I always found it very difficult to give her even a card. Basically the small me wanted to make her something and so we have had plenty of discussion around this. I'm dreading next session when I will actually give her the gift as I will be terrified of being rejected even though I know she won't. I think for me gift giving when do I attempt it is a valuable part of my therapy and I look forward to one day reaping benefits from this in real life!

justdesserts · Dec 23, 2015, 02:02 AM

Yes, I'm giving him a very non-intimate book that reminds me of him.

Suraya · Dec 23, 2015, 06:54 AM

No. I don't think it's appropriate or that she'd find it appropriate. I don't give my other medical professionals whom I pay gifts.

nicoleflynn · Dec 23, 2015, 06:59 AM

I give him a gift every year.

Myrto · Dec 23, 2015, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick

This is the first year I gave my T a gift. I said it was for Christmas but it was really just a gift of appreciation. I bought my T a journal and inside it I listed all the ways that therapy has helped me and how she is a good therapist. At the end I wrote her a personal message. I wanted something that showed how thankful I am for everything she does and I wanted her to have something she could look at when she is having a bad day and know how good of a T she really is. She looked like she was going to cry while reading it and said it was very powerful and she loved it. I could tell she really genuinely loved it. Her expression after she read it was the best.

This is a very thoughtful gift. If I wasn't angry at my Therapist I might even consider doing the same thing for her.

gayleggg · Dec 23, 2015, 09:45 AM

No, I don't give mine anything.

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Dec 23, 2015, 03:30 PM

I gave him a small gift. Now Im freaking that he thinks its stupid and lame (a bit of me thinks it was *so* stupid) and Im scared he's laughing at me.

Dec 23, 2015, 04:35 PM

No. It wouldn't be weird. It's just that I am paying him to sit there and listen to me. I get nothing in return from that except for an open ear. Why would I waste more money.

Dec 23, 2015, 06:25 PM

I gave him a card thanking him for his support and patience and he thanked me.

Dec 23, 2015, 06:25 PM

Double post

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 23, 2015, 06:38 PM

I don't give gifts to my T for holidays. If I give her a gift, it will simply be because something reminds me of her and not because a certain date dictates so.

unaluna · Dec 23, 2015, 08:58 PM

Im in the nothing tangible sector. I told t about a post i answered here, about being with the person, which was an option i might never have understood without him. I then said, thats your present. He later said that wearing his shirt tucked in today was mine (otherwise the label on an unfortunate area draws attention to well you know!). I told him i appreciated that!

Dec 23, 2015, 09:22 PM

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Yes. My gift to T this year is no phone calls, no texts and no emails. If I need to vent I will do so with friends on PC but I'll try to keep even that to a minimum.

justdesserts · Dec 24, 2015, 09:31 AM

I gave my t a book. It was nothing sentimental, just about a shared interest we have. I gave him a book last year, too. I like giving gifts and this was a very small token. He seemed very appreciative and it wasn't weird at all.

junkDNA · Dec 24, 2015, 10:50 AM

gave my T a funny christmas card and a nice, personal note thanking him for his help and for accompanying me on my recovery path towards healing. he said it was very sweet and gave me a hug.

Dec 24, 2015, 11:06 AM

When I was in therapy I gave my therapist a gift at Christmas time. Now, we are friends and we give each other gifts. I don't feel a need or a desire to give her a gift to show how much I appreciate her. She did get a gift, sans card because I had bought her something in my travel overseas, done by an indigenous people. For personal reasons I did ask her not to hang them in her office.

lunatic soul · Dec 24, 2015, 01:24 PM

No.
It seems I never gave him Christmas gift but time ago I gave him birthday gifts or just gave him something when felt I want to.

AncientMelody · Dec 27, 2015, 11:37 PM

If I could find a signed copy of Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search For Meaning" I think it'd be a really neat gift to give her. Otherwise, I don't think so especially since I don't see her again til mid-january.

I did give her a gift last year; a CD by Philip Wesley, my favorite piano artist.

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