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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:17 AM
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Last session my T and I spent a minute talking about our car names. it was nice.

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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:25 AM
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*racks brain*

Apparently I never had any.

Car names are fun, though.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:27 AM
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Definitely the discussion about how sheep spoon after sex. That was bizarre.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:33 AM
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Whenever the woman wants to lower the intensity, she talks about her dog or mine. It is deliberate not random. I thought it was random the first time, but it was not. I usually don't go along with it -when I am ready to lower intensity - I will do so.
I do not chat with the woman - it leads her to mistakingly think we are bonding - which is her nefarious purpose in the first place.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:42 AM
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We discussed bad movies we've seen recently at the end of my Friday session which was pretty intense. Just decompressing
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:02 AM
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We don't have that much random conversations. I would like it. Most is related to my therapy.
Sometimes she would say something random at the begining of the session. About her laptop being slow or that I'm hard to find in her computer because there are many clients who have a part of my lastname in their last name. A few weeks ago it was about apple pie. Some college had brought apple pie and they ate it during lunch time. Appearantly it's bought at a bakery in *** and it's known as the best apple pie in the country (though I disagree even though I've never tasted it. I make the best apple pie.).
I really like those random chats. Wish there would be more.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:07 AM
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we have tons of random conversations
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:15 AM
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We talk about art but that's not really random. Maybe when I explain some religious concepts that she doesn't know.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:46 AM
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Last session my T and I spent a minute talking about our car names. it was nice.
I tried to decompress the intensity of a session once by telling my T there were some good things in my life...music - specifically wanting to continue my violin lessons, which was random. That didn't fly.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 11:08 AM
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When he didn't know about the Freud action figure existing !
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 01:21 PM
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A few things.

Once we had a few minutes talking about chores around the house and if I do any or like to. Another time we talked about vacations, and Tv shows too. It sort of feels nice to get off topic once in a while to sort of relax I guess.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 02:25 PM
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Nail polish. My clothes (ive lost a lot of weight and started paying more attention to how I dress).
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 02:54 PM
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We discussed a book that I had read. It had been a while since I was able to concentrate long enough to read so my reading the book was a great feat.

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Old Jan 17, 2016, 03:06 PM
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We do all the time. Like about shopping or books or movies. Last time we talked food they serve in the restaurant that we had party at. She wanted to know if it's good place to go. We are very similar so conversation do get random at times

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Old Jan 17, 2016, 03:29 PM
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One of us will frequently switch to something totally random. When the discussion is intense and either of us notice I need to change the subject we will do that. Sometimes I will change to something totally off the wall (couldn't tell you what though) and one of us will say "wow where did that come from" but we will go with it because I obviously will need it.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 03:33 PM
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Flat adverbs. They make me awful grouchy.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 03:56 PM
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We never have random conversations...when I'm talking about something intense or heavy, the last thing I would want would be a diversion from the conversation. Therapy is the only place where I don't have to worry about someone changing the subject on me when the conversation gets intense. I'm also not very random in general so we always stay on topic.

I can see my T being random but she follows my lead so if I stay on topic, she will too.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 05:12 PM
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We have random conversations every time we talk.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 06:55 PM
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I think my T and I talk about random things somewhat often. Sometimes it's because I ask her questions, and other times things just come up. I can't think of anything specific though.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 07:14 PM
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The most recent was when he told me that his daughter took her bearded dragon to petsmart to get dressed up and photographed for Halloween. I have NO idea now it even got brought up unless it was in reference to me talking about my cat's Christmas pic.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 09:39 PM
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Oh my poor therapists! I am a terribly random person in general, and it does tend to set off in therapy as well.

My uni therapist told me she used to be a riding instructor before she trained to be a therapist in her 40s, so now we'll have random little chats about horses and riding and stuff as I used to compete in show jumping (and occasionally dressage) with my new forest pony. I then sold him as I moved away from home to go to school, but he has recently returned to our farm to retire at 26, so that has come up a few times. I also once ended up describing to her the time my mother was turning hay around with a pitchfork and saw a possum that she proceeded to impale with one perfectly aimed stab. My therapist was delightfully horrified at that. I also told her that we had a rat colony in our barn one winter (below the stable), and then she told me that they once had mice living in their walls and that her daughter, who was a small child at the time, thought they were her pets and would sit and talk to them.

I have lots of incredibly random conversations with my private therapist, but they are indeed so weird and random that I can't remember a single example right now. Though at the end of our last session we did talk about how children in Norway are happier than in the UK because they start school a year later, but that's not totally random because I am Norwegian! I wish I could remember some of the really strange rants she has had to listen to.
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Old Jan 17, 2016, 10:27 PM
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We have had a few random conversations. My favorite was during Halloween time. I was telling my T about I store I love to go to and it was nice to have a casual conversation besides the heavy stuff.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 12:55 AM
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My old T and I would discuss musicals especially Wicked. We both love Wicked.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 04:30 AM
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We have discussed random things like coffee, types of hardwood floor, our relationships with plants and animals, the weather, ... lots of stuff over the years. I don't particularly remember the random things, but most of the time even topics that may seem random (such as his cats or my crystals or anime) are actually very much related to my therapy. Even my constant complaints about the weather in winter and summer could be used very nicely to work in therapy - though my therapist doesn't bother to go deeper with that and it's not a priority for me.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 06:29 AM
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Not necessarily random, but we share the same favorite tv show, and I see her the day after the new episode airs, so we talk about that most sessions as I'm getting ready to leave. We also had a long conversation once about how gross it is when our dogs puke in the middle of the night, and how both of us have had the god awful experience of unknowingly stepping in said puke. That was a funny one. We both really like nail polish and have both admitted to spending way too much money on it. In fact one week she bet she had more bottles of nail polish than I did, so we agreed to count how many we had (she beat me by 20+ lol). We've talked about the best places in our city to get Greek food since I've been to Greece three times. She and I really enjoy tea (we agree that we're both tea snobs), so if one of us tried a new tea, we discuss it.

We have a lot of low-key, random conversations. It helps me remember that she's not just some like, robot or something, who sits and listens to my problems for an hour every two weeks. She's a real person, too. I will never know my t the way I know my friends, but having lighthearted conversations like we do help me feel connected to her on a human level, while still keeping appropriate boundaries.
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