Starting over with a New T - tips please

Many of us decide to stay with T's who we feel may not be the best for us. But we keep on going back again and again.

My reasons are:

Its really not as bad as i think
i am being too sensitive over his xyz comments
hes human, i can not have a perfect ideal T
what if he is the best one in town, if i leave how will i come back again
how do you start over, this T knows so much about me, day to day life, key events, months and months of talking that came naturally...how do you start again from square 1 with a new T. tell everything 2nd time.

those who have started over with a new T...how was it for you..? was it different telling your history 2nd time around?
any tips to ease the fears ....so some of us can pick up the phone and test drive another T.

Thanks

I would suggest either taking a break from the first one - say for a month or two and check out news one to compare or slow the first one down and try out new ones on the off weeks. I have taken breaks before - no need to give the therapist the reason - and checked out new ones. I have never had a therapist say I could not come back after a break if I wanted to do so.
I like trying new ones out. It was very very interesting to me to see how differently they set up their offices, presented themselves, explained what they did etc.

hi acceptance,
my therapist that I'm seeing now is perfect for me . my old therapist was a jerk and he wasn't even qualified to be a counselor. he didn't have a license to practice counseling and only a bachelor's of arts degree in counseling. he didn't teach me any coping skills to work with in between sessions and never bothered to give me numbers when I'm in a crisis situation .he never showed me his treatment plans nor he never gave me his diagnosis whether or not I have anxiety and depression . over all he was an underqualifed wanna be counselor making a fast buck w the system and the psychiatrist I had too. the clinic is still in existence today but my old therapist got fired cuz the state board found out that he wasn't licensed by the state and he was stripped of his title as a counselor . my therapist now is licensed by the state of Ohio to practice counseling and she has a master's degree in community agency in counseling . she is also an experienced registered nurse with a bachelor of arts degree in psychology and a bachelor of science degree in nursing .







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I had a therapist and then moved away. After a few false starts with therapists that didn't work I have settled in with a great therapist. Starting over wasn't really that big a deal for me, in the sense that I had already done some work so it's not like you are starting from the beginning- I had new insights I didn't have the first time, and I knew more about how to be in therapy. I loved my first therapist, but my current therapist is much better for me. It did take awhile before he knew me well enough to be really helpful, but now he does and works in a way that is so much better for me - I wouldn't have done as well with the original therapist.

I think you should trust your gut, and try someone new if that's what you are thinking- starting over can be a very good thing!

It has been difficult. I can't help but compare sometimes, I think new T is nothing like ex T but then I think maybe that is a good thing. Ex T took me as far as she could, plus she wound up being very hurtful so maybe having someone gentler is a good plan. Things have also gone quicker with getting to the issues than they did before.

When I decided in college that it was time for me to start seeing someone because my occasional booster sessions with my regular T weren't enough, I just went to one of my school's therapists -- well, 2 actually. One I hated and because I knew I couldn't work with her I only saw her that one time (I left feeling worse than I did coming in, and not in that therapeutic way that sometimes happens after T). So then I requested to see someone else, and I liked her. I liked her enough that I saw her the rest of the time I was at school.

It was hard at first to try and sort out where to start and what to say because she was new to me and I didn't really know where it was going to go. So I basically gave her a brief history and told her why I was coming in now. I'm really glad I stuck with her too because she, along with my best friend at the time are the reason I got my butt to a psychiatrist and got diagnosed with bipolar II, and subsequently, put on medication. The other thing I did with her was sign a release so she could talk to my T from home and get a better picture of me.

When I started over with a new T, my old T had notes that he gave to the new T, but he wasn't interested in reading them really. He wanted to get to know me for me and not through someone else's filter.

You do have to spend the time rehashing things. It happens and I think it's pretty unavoidable. Also, if you're coming to a new T and you had issues with your last T (relational issues, forced termination, etc.) also expect to spend time on that.

Honestly, yes, it's challenging changing T's in terms of getting to know someone new all over again, but if you're not in a healthy relationship with your current T or you're struggling on you're own, seeing a T is better than struggling on your own.

I've had several T's, so I've started all over again for several times. It's not easy for me to start with a new T, even after so many times. At the intake they all ask the same kind of things. So my little story of why I need therapy, I can now just tell that easy. With current T I've shared a lot of things. The T's before her I didn't trust and they proved they weren't right, some even bad.

My T just told me she's pregnant, so I'll need a new T in 2 months. This scares me so much. My T is the oly one I really like and who has been able to help me.
It's so scary to go to a new T. I haven only just started to make a little bit of progress. A new T, I don't know how long it can take to find a good one. It can set me back.

I've stayed with T's longer than I should have stayed. So if you feel current T isn't right for you, go look for a new one. Try a few until it feels good. I've had the same kind of reasons why I stayed longer with a T than I should.

I'm not sure if I want a new T. Maybe I'll just quit therapy all together. It's probably not good for me, but bad T's have hurt me a lot too. I'm still not over some things.
If I would go to a new T, I won't tell my whole story. Just the things that bother me now and with what I want help for. My current T knows so much and understands me so good. But I've been with her for about 3 years in total, with a break of 1,5 years.

This aren't exactly tips. I don't really have them. I'm so scared to start over. I'm getting anxiety attacks about several times a day.