How open were you to t during the first session?

Just wondering how open you were to t the first session you met? I was completely open with my new t i got last July because she is a life story therapist and we went over my whole life story. Felt good just to get it out. I figured it was time. I had never been so open with a t before, seriously I told her everything. I guess I just got a good vibe from her, and I wanted to be better.

I start slowly and see how they react.
I give them a general over view but no specifics.

So I normally go for something crappy but in the present.
See how they do with that and then go up.

Current T I'm able to be very open with as she has been good at listening and challenging me on an intellectual level.

Previous T's not so much

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I generally give them a basic run down of my life, but usually leave out my belief system until I feel comfortable with them. Most of the time if I give them info on my past, or a general idea of it, I can tell whether they'll be willing to help me.

Honestly I've had one therapist outright say that they didn't think they'd be able to help me after giving them an idea of what I was going through. But that's only one out of a few therapists so I think I'm doing pretty well with how I say things.

My T said recently that when I first saw her, I was "very guarded" though I felt I was trying to be as open as I could. She was my third shrink.

I pretty much asked her on the first or second session what she thought about atheist ex Christians and LGBT people because I resolved to walk out if she'd judge me for being them.

It's been a year and I'm maybe 50% open. It takes me such a long time to trust someone so it's taking a while. Hopefully I can open up more though. Good that you were able to let it out ! That makes the process way more effective.

T 12yrs ago asked me on our first meeting, to tell her about myself.
I missed out my entire life lol. So not very.

I was very guarded during my first sessions with T. I needed to "test the waters" first. I am much more open now and try to tell T how I think and my thoughts. I was always afraid to share my thoughts before. I'm much better about that now.

I wasn't all that open in the first sessions with Nos. 1 and 2. I gave them a rather low-level therapy goal each time. On-trial No. 3 benefitted from that and got a whole earful about what I came to therapy for.

First T took a long time for me to open up, second T I just blah-ed my life story all over.

My openness fluctuates, but on the whole I would say nine months in I'm about 75% open with my T. During the first session I was pretty raw emotionally and mentally so although I didn't say much, the way I said it and how I said it probably spoke volumes. I was very open in the written history though.

I was direct about why I was there and the skepticism that therapy would be of any use with X (it has not been useful so my skepticism on that was not off base). The problem for me was I did not know what one was supposed to talk about that would help with why I went there in the first place. I said why I was there but beyond that I did not know what one was supposed to do with a therapist to help X not be a problem.

I didn't go in depth with most things as we only had a limited time. However I answered all her questions and gave good basic understanding of my history.

My t and I were casually talking one time recently and somehow the topic of my first session came up. The only thing I remember from that session is sitting on the very edge of the couch and that I was only in that room one time: for my first session with her. She said it looked like Iwould bolt at any time, so she didn't dig too deeply the first session. I don't think I said much at all lol.

I was always pretty open about why I was there (mentioned my abuse history, etc.) obviously not in much detail at first, but they knew from the very first session that what my history generally was.

Same as others. I was open, but there wasn't enough time for details. And it is still taking me awhile to get out the details.

It's just occurred to me that I don't actually remember the first session even though it was only a year ago. I was quite guarded with T2 for some time so I doubt I shared much.

Very open. Emotionally, anyway, not so much with content. I didn't mean to, but was in a bad place and sort of had a panic attack in session and ended up loosing a torrential stream of word-vomit all over T. He was very kind about it, but it's still sort of embarrassing to think about.

I was very shy and didn't want to open up to her. I told her the basics of my life but she had a hard time getting me to talk. It took a long time for me to really be open and talk to her. This was years ago and its amazing how far I have come from that first session.

I don't think I was super open. I answered her questions and stuff, but I'm not very open in general. I did really like her though, so I was probably more open than I would have been with someone else. I think my openness changes a fair amount, and on some days I'm pretty open, while other days I'm a bit more guarded. But generally I've been getting more and more open with her as time goes by. Though I usually still don't answer when she asks me what I'm thinking. Because sometimes when I get quiet, she asks me this, and she catches me off guard and I just don't answer.

hi mo,
im very opened to my therapist when I first met her back in 2014 . I was able to open up to her about my past and my present .

Same as you. I had so much to get off my chest, so I was very open. Then I became more cautious, cause I was like- what the hell did I do?

It took me a long time because I was very guarded and I couldn't remember much. It's been five years and I still haven't shared everything and new memories still keep coming.

I think I was mainly open because this is my 7th t, and I was tired of beating around the bush. When she asked me my life story it all just came spilling out. I never really worked on my traumas and since we have, life is so much better.

Thanks for your replies everyone.

I remember first session really well

. I was crying. I left my ex of 9 years and was in the process of moving out, he is an alcoholic and was devastated with me leaving so he binge drank and begged me to stay so he got so sick that he had a heart attack and subsequently needed immediate surgery, his kids weren't in town and I was in the hospital with him for a week even though we weren't together. He kept lying to the doctors about extend of his drinking every time I wasn't in the room he lied about something. I felt bad for him and at the same time was mad at him. Ugh

It was an awful time. Dang it, why did I even thought of it now. Yes I was very open in that session. I was a mess.

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I was very open. I was in trouble and needed immediate help.

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