Have you ever walked out of a therapy session?

I'm so afraid to express anger too because I worry that they'll think I'm not a nice person. But it's normal to feel anger and express it and I see so many people I know do it when the time is right but even when I feel extremely angry and filled with rage I only let it out when im alone because what if I say something I dont mean and ruin a bond? I dont know, it's tough. Thats why I asked this question in the first place, I think walking out will help me avoid getting upset in the room.

I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I want to bring this up to my T too! The fact that I'm 20 and never experienced any type of relationship ever. I wish I had a boyfriend but I feel like that won't be a topic "important" enough to discuss. It's so confusing

Therapy is ALL about relationships! Plus, if YOU feel it is important to talk about, then that is all that matters. Seriously. I am the opposite, in that I avoid talking about my lack of romantic relationships, and she knows it and I am sure probably would love to delve into it with me, but respects my boundaries and is waiting for me to talk about it.

I have a ton of rage inside, directed at me, and i find it hard to express anger to others unless i am 1,000% positive it won't ruin our bond. Like, my friend for over 16 years, whom i lived with for 7, i know that i can express anger at her and she won't end our friendship. But it took a long time for me to feel secure enough to do that.

It is hard, but I think maybe you can go in and ask that if you ever felt like you needed a breather, would she mind if you walked outside for a minute? If you do it when you are calmer, it migh tmake you feel better when the moment hits where you can just be like "Gotta go out for a minute," and she'll know what you mean. On the other hand, if you never "asked" (because permission really isn't needed), and you are feeling overhwhelmed, I think your T would say "Ok, come back when you are ready."

Just jumping in here...I don't think that would be an unimportant topic at all! Lots of people go to T's specifically for relationship issues, advice, insecurity, etc. Relationships are enormously important in life (which is NOT to say that it's enormously important that you have a relationship, just that it's a big part of life that's messy, difficult to negotiate, and can bring people a lot of grief) If it bothers you, talk about it!

PS: Have TOTALLY wanted to walk out of session before. Though, technically, I suppose it was the T who walked out first when he left me, lol. But it all turned out okay in the end.

I think I'll get into that topic once I finish other major topics. It took me almost 2 years to go into session and admit something was bother me. I think it caught my T off guard as much as it did with me too!

Very true. It's hard to get angry or upset without ruining a relationship unless the person knows that you're not a rude person naturally (if that made sense). I usually like to ask permission with anything, it's weird I know. I just hope that if I do ask to leave for a minute my T doesnt suggest we try breathing exercises or anything of that sort because it just makes me a billion times more anxious !

Well, if she does you can say just the idea makes you more anxious, and hopefully she won't push it further.

Yeah you're right. I have to tell myself that I have a right to speak my mind ! For some reason I dont.

I haven't read all the replies, but yes, I have walked out on a therapy session. Twice in almost two years.

How does your T react?

I'm a few years older and also new had a close relationship. It's so lonely. I haven't really discuss the boyfriend topic. Only mentioned that I feel lonely.
I understand the feeling of thinking that a topic won't be important enough. In my years of therapy I've had that feeling so many times. Almost everything wasn't ''important'' to discuss in therapy. With my current T I've started to tell more, just things that are bothering me. I don't often think topic isn't worth talking about in therapy.

I'm so afraid to ruin things. Therapist should have learn to deal with all kind of feelings from their clients. They should be able to deal with anger from a client. But still, I'm so afraid for her reaction and what she could think of me. My T would probably respond the way a T should respond, but then I would still wonder what she REALLY thinks.

I've been googling about angry at your therapist and everything says that you should talk to your T about this, she/he could help you with it.
I came across this article about feelings to have about your therapist: 5 feelings that are perfectly normal to have about your therapist | Mark Ettensohn, Psy.D.

I think the reason I dont want to come off rude is because my T has called me an "ideal client, student, and child" and i'm afraid that if I happen to say something mean it'll change the entire view. I dont know, it's the whole people pleaser trait I carry.

I get it and I think it's irresponsible for her to even say that to you because of that. You can't be perfect all the time, no one can and that's something to focus on helping you with.

You know, I agree that there's something potentially not-so-fantastic about receiving these compliments from a T. I remember thinking this the first time I read that your T had said these things to you, but not being able to put the issue in words.

I'm sure your T meant the best. Some people respond really well to compliments like these (I'm one of them!) and some people are very free about offering these type of compliments, too. I think it's important to take the thing in its spirit rather than it's letter. The spirit of the compliment is that you're awesome! And that's awesome! And your awesomeness is so transcendentally awesome you don't have to worry about any "imperfections" tainting it.

You're right! I guess I felt as if it was sort of a "label" or a "status" and I should live up to that. But I never thought of it in this way! Thanks

Never. But I've wanted to...but instead of doing that, I just shut down completely.

That's exactly what happens to me. I feel like I'm not even there and it's like I'm asleep with my eyes open. I hate that feeling though and would much rather gather myself outside the room and go back.

Now that i'm thinking about it, i DID walk out of a therapy session once. Not with my current T, but I remember that I was having a terrible day at work, and was so stressed about missing work for this hour, and I was not really talking anyway, that halfway through, I said "All i am doing is stressing about work. I'd feel better if I just went back." She was completely fine with it, and said I needed to do what I needed to do to feel better. Wasn't a big deal at all.

Oh wow! Yeah I think I'm just making a big deal of it. If I feel like I should go out for air then I should have the right to ask for sure.

exactly!

I walked out twice with last t. It was much like you described anxious girl. I left 30 mins in and 15 mins left.
T wasn't helping me and I had dissociated and found it hard to stay with her, I wanted to be alone and she kept saying the wrong things.
She was really trying to push me and out of frustration I left. I paid before I left.

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Yes, I walked out on my T when she started to call the police on me to get me hospitalized. I didn't go back to her that night, but I am going back tomorrow.