[colorsofthewind12]

How do you cope when your T goes away?

I am thinking of going for a massage during my usual therapy time. Other then that, any other good coping strategies?

I miss my T already don't know how the hell I got so attached.

[justdesserts]

I think going for a massage is a great idea. When my t goes away I try to fill that time with other self-soothing activities like lunch with a friend, or an exercise class or something I'm looking forward to. I also make an effort to make more connections with people, even if they're just casual acquaintances, while he's gone. Good luck.

[ThingWithFeathers]

It is hard. I also try to make connections with friends more during that time. I just try to live life as 'normally' as possible, though I don't always succeed. It's hard, but I remind myself that I can get through and I will get through.

[colorsofthewind12]

Those are good ideas, thanks! I am very busy in general it's just that getting my session fix holds me together.

[Myrto]

I record all of my sessions so when my therapist is on vacation, I tend to listen to those recordings more. It helps hearing her voice and reminds me there is a connection even if I can't always perceive it well.
Maybe you can do the same?

[AnxiousGirl]

The longest I went without seeing my T was a month, and I see T weekly so it was tough.

The first week was the hardest for sure but after it was over, the remaining 3 were actually quite enjoyable. What I did was spend time with friends more, I went out, watched movies, took mini trips and the next thing you knew, I had a session the next day.

Another time my T was on vacation for 2 weeks and I had exams so it was 3 weeks without a session. Exams distracted me from missing my T and when it was time to go back I actually cancelled because I didn't want to go !

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Talking to people helped me, reaching out to people on here. I also record my sessions and it really helps to hear my T's voice and to feel our connection in sessions. I also felt comfort in holding the gemstone she gave me. Staying busy really helps keep my mind busy.

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[spring2014]

Originally Posted by colorsofthewind12

How do you cope when your T goes away?

I am thinking of going for a massage during my usual therapy time. Other then that, any other good coping strategies?

I miss my T already don't know how the hell I got so attached.

hi color ,
for me when my therapist went on her vacation ,she tells me ahead of time when she will be out of the office . here is a list of coping skills that my therapist and I worked in counseling.
For High Anxiety
1) Physical activity
2) Deep breathing
3) Mindfulness box
4) Guided imagery
5) Progressive muscle relaxation exercises
6) Diversions and distractions
7) Counteracting thoughts
a . think positive
8) Relaxation techniques
9) Journaling
10) Mindfulness
11) STOP technique for impulses and negative thoughts
always have a safety plan in place too .



Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs daily for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night for insomnia with an additional 25 mgs=75 mgs when up past 1:00 in the morning

My t had to move to the other side of the world for a family emergency. She has been gone four years. She will still come home, but its a very bad situation going on.
I get to see her in person maybe once a year, if that.
I read a lot. My job keeps me extremely busy. I take naps. I email her, write her letters, call her, text her. We talk when we can fit it in our schedules. I go to church. I hang out with my husband. I do a lot of work related activities,i try to distract myself.

[colorsofthewind12]

Thanks for your ideas. Surprisingly, I am finding that I can hold myself together Plus, I am enjoying the freedom that I may not even want to go back.

[substancelessblue]

The first few days are the hardest, so maybe if you get through those it'll get easier. Distraction helps me, being with people who make me feel safe. If you have anything that connects you to the sessions or your T that may help. I obsess a lot over what we've talked about in the past, but that isn't helpful, especially now as my T is away and I have no idea when she'll be back! I hope you have more certainty and find something to pass the time.

[junkDNA]

my t is going away but not for long. i get worried he will die when he goes away. i will see him next tuesday. we met today. we usually meet 2x a week so ill miss a session + a group. he knows allllllllllll about my fear of him dying. he reassured me through text that it will be ok. im not sure what ill do on saturday (the day we meet)... i dont think it will be too bad cause he wont be gone for that long though