Don't we need to feel loved?

Hmmm… I would argue the opposite, that therapy has put Petra in a tricky position.

Therapy stirs up maternal/paternal longings, sexual longings, connection and attachment needs and all of this is closely associated with feelings of love. So the client naturally develops feelings that are much like love, but they don't know how or even if they should express them. And then if they do dare to express strong feelings, the T might decide that is inappropriate and pull back or even terminate, a response that might be experienced as punitive, shaming, and rejecting. And the client will be encouraged to take a bullet and accept this as normal.

I have been in this position. T said, in effect, tell me everything, you can trust me. I did, and then she said, oh now that you have done that it's a problem. Who's crazy now?

I know that feeling, and I empathize with you Petra. Sounds to me like your response is entirely natural.