T said - I wonder why a massage? Your felt abandoned when I left you? You didn't feel you belonged any more.

Yeah, I felt abandoned.

T - a young baby begins to feel they belong when they are caressed/held by their mother.

Me - I feel I am shouting inside that I need you to take this seriously.

T - my silence feels like I am telling you that you don't belong?

Me

Me- Yeah, it does.

More was said. But felt 'fed' when I left.

This is why a T talking it on their own back to hug a client is for the benefit of the T's ego. It's not resolving any issues.

And that's a great example of talking through a person's needs and wants. You have a wonderful therapist. I don't think anyone would disagree with that. . although some people might not want to seek out a therapist who conducted therapy in this manner because they are looking for another way of exploring their wants and needs. Each person gets to make their own decision and as long as it isn't hurting the person, then none of us get to say the way things are being done is wrong or incorrect therapy.

I wouldn't have any problem with your therapist's techniques because I don't want my therapist to EVER (with the exception of a handshake on first meeting and when I finish with therapy), but my point on the other thread was to simply point out that not everyone agrees with how you and I might want to have our therapy conducted. I like psychoanalysis; that's why I'm in psychoanalysis. I realize you were angry with me pointing out that not everyone wants therapy to be conducted without touch, but they wanted to add to your thread about "closeness" and some might have been hurt by your comments putting down their therapists' techniques for being close to them. I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, Mouse; I apologize and wish that I had worded my post better. But I truly believe that none of us get to say OUR therapist's is the only one who is doing it right. I'm glad what your therapist is as skilled and helpful as she's been for you. I feel the same way about mine, but I won't say what goes on in my therapy is the only way therapy should be done. I've seen too many times a therapy that works for someone else, is ugly and unhelpful for me when I gave it a try. But again, I apologize for hurting your feelings or perhaps saying it in a way that made you feel put down.

Jaybird. I said clearly that what others describe is not what I was looking for. Why you seem to be judge and juror here in not sure.
I don't have much time for other therapies. People here will decide whether they click with me or not. I'm not here to enable. I'm here to discuss my experiences and terms to stay my own threads and not reply to those that are discussing therapies I have no time for.
That may feel uncomfortable for you. But that's me. Take it or leave it.

[ECHOES]

I think you are brave for being able to talk about your dream with your therapist. Not an easy thing to do sometimes. But exploring the dream often gives (me) insights and is connecting and soothing, too. I often leave those sessions feeling as if I actually dd have a massage - relaxed, at peace.