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#26
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Because it was about her and you had to reassure her she hadn't failed. Something therapy shouldn't be.
Knowing how you've struggled and how your T crying would help then I think it could be a breakthrough. I see the flip side too that you might get worried about her feelings too much. |
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#27
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Sometimes therapy is helpful to me (no matter what T is saying or doing) because in those moments I am fully present and I recognize what happened and what I feel. Perhaps this is something that others don't have issues with, but as someone who used to be pretty dissociative it's rather like a revelation. So for me it would be "T cried, I felt more connected to her and that she understood me better." End of story. No right or wrong, "should" ing on it or not. Just this is what it was, I experienced it and I felt it, end of story, don't need the judgement attached to it. |
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#28
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I agree which is why I responded positively to this but OP asked for ideas as to why people wouldn't think this was good.
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Thanks to both responses. I understand both parts now and see why some would say it's proper and others wouldn't agree so much. I guess in the end it's how I felt and if it benefited me or not.
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#30
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I don't see it as being not right since people cannot control their emotions. But just speaking for my own experience, it may have signaled that my T was becoming too emotionally invested in things. And hence losing the ability to be objective.
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#31
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I haven't wanted to comment, partly because it's really hard to read these things from the outside, totally blind to the nuances and nature of your relationship. That said, I would want to make sure that your therapist's crying does not put a burden on you to care for her or to alter your own therapy as a way to manage her reactions. You already suffer from taking on burdens that aren't your own. In that light, it's regrettable that your therapist did that; however, if it leads you to open up more of your own emotion and frees you on some level, then it's not harmful. It's all in how this plays out for you--not her.
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#32
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There are definitely different views when it comes to this though for sure. |
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On the other hand, the question of whether or not we see T as a human with human feelings is much more controversial. For some, a cold mechanical T is ideal. For others, it destroys the attachment.
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