[stopdog]

Do you think you care about the therapist - not does the therapist care about you - but the opposite.

[JustShakey]

Yes, I do. It sort of snuck up on me, the caring, but I've surprised myself a few times with the vehemence of it...

Yeah, he matters to me, but I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it. I would put him above acquaintance though.

[Petra5ed]

I care about my therapist. I love my therapist and even in an agape kind of way. Even though I have romantic feelings for him and can feel a twinge of jealousy if he mentions a girlfriend, I am also equally if not more happy for him, and I think I hope whoever he dates treats him right. I worry about him, and I worry if something were very wrong would he tell me. It irks me that because of our relationship I might not be asked or able to rescue him as a friend if he ever needed me. It makes me sad that he cannot vent his frustrations with me, I want things to be more mutual, more "normal" if you will as opposed to mostly focused on me. But... I don't think this is just because he's my therapist. I've actually had other therapists, and people who were nice to me if not nicer. I actually really like him as a person, I value him, I can see a bit of the devine in him. I wish him well, and the idea of him being happy makes me happy. So yeah, I think I care quite a lot!

[RedSun]

Yes, I do.

[velcro003]

i put other, because i am not sure how i can define how i feel about my T. i've only been going 7 months, so its still "early". i definitely feel more secure with her than my other T's. I generally don't worry about her thinking i am the most frustrating person alive, though i do worry about it a little. it is hard for me to hold on to the sense of her during the week, so i can't say i truly care about her in a deep way. I would feel bad for her if something bad happened to her or her family, but that is in a general human kind of feeling.

[feralkittymom]

I cared about him in a restrained sort of way during therapy until he developed a serious health issue that required surgery; at that point, in the last year of therapy, I became very concerned about him. But overall, I think my fondness for him has increased in the years since therapy (maybe as I have more emotional energy to give). The deepening of the connection over the years has been one of the nicest consequences of therapy.

[Pennster]

I care about him, but I feel like I don't have to take care of him. I appreciate the fact that I don't have to worry about him very much because it's not my role to do that.

I voted yes, like i do any other acquaintance but it's probably admittedly a little more than that. I care about a lot of people....

[AllHeart]

I absolutely do!

[Argonautomobile]

I'm not really sure how much the context of the relationship allows me to care about my therapist. If a friend, family member--somebody I really cared about--called to tell me about their miscarriage or that their dog got hit by a car, I'd be sad. I'd care. If my therapist called me to tell me about his dead dog or girlfriend's miscarriage, I'd think he'd lost his f*cking mind.

I mean, I'd certainly be sad he'd lost his mind. Very upset, even. Because I'm fond of him and wish him well and would like his professional integrity to remain intact. But I don't know how much I can really care about someone who is not ethically allowed to ask for my care.

[confusedbyself]

I do but wish you had given options regarding 'care' because that can be easily misunderstood

[spring2014]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Do you think you care about the therapist - not does the therapist care about you - but the opposite.

hi stopdog,
my therapist does care about me cuz im her client and she is doing her best to take care of me .I know cuz she told me on the phone one time that she said that she cares for me as her client .I care for her as my counselor who helping me to get better and to heal . also my therapist is an experienced registered nurse .


Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs daily for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night for insomnia with an additional 25 mgs=75 mgs when up past 1:00 in the morning

[atisketatasket]

I would be regretful if something happened to No. 2. The other two, I don't wish them harm, but I'm not really invested in them either in terms of caring.

[awkwardlyyours]

Other. The one time I randomly enquired about something (related to scheduling) that could be remotely construed as caring, I was not-so-gently asked to shove it (which I did respect and appreciate) and a multi-session exposition of how it's symptomatic of an unhealthy pattern from my childhood, family etc ensued (which I truly did not appreciate). So, other than being very wary all around, I'm honestly unsure how I feel about caring about someone who's so explicitly not cool with any hint of my caring!

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Yes, I care a lot about my therapist.

[growlycat]

I do care but part of that is out of sheer selfishness if I'm being honest with myself.

And for the part of me that genuinely cares, I don't really know him so it is hard to tell what is real

Certainly I care about my therapist.

[junkDNA]

it took me a long time, but yes i do care about him. a lot.

I care about her, yes. It's selfish of me in a way, because I want her to be well so she is effective and present for her clients.

[MobiusPsyche]

I definitely care about my therapist, beyond a "gee it would suck for me if something awful happened and she couldn't see me anymore" type of way. So I chose the first option.

I don't know if I could be as open and honest with a person that I didn't care relatively deeply about.

I don't want T to die or anything, but I wouldn't call it 'caring' either.

[clairelisbeth]

Yes. I care about my T and my pdoc a lot

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[Dolphanna]

Yes. I wish we met under different circumstances because she would definitely be a friend xxx

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

I care about her much like I do everyone else in the zone of my life, although different from my doctor or dentist or accountant or lawyer because I see them much less often. I hope that she is happy and healthy and fulfilled in her work and her life. Unlike my friends or family, I do not inquire about her health or happiness. Nor do I worry about taking care of her in session, although my concern for her (like everyone in my life) I do my best not to negatively impact her.

Perhaps more linguistically accurate, I care about our relationship. It doesn't mean I don't tell the truth or worry about how she's going to take something negative that I might say. I take care with our relationship in the way I try to with the other people in my life, not being reckless about my statements or my presumptions or my beliefs. I try to be curious and check things out with her when something unpleasant arises that seems to have to do with her, rather than go off on her. The difference with her and other people is that my concern is not for her personally, as in I might choose not to say something to someone else because it might hurt them, but for the connection between us. And, honestly, that is because of my own self interest-- I need a relationship where the T feels open with me as well as I feel open with her.