The Couch - 109: CIX-Reintroduction

Love randy Travis

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I have a T-shirt that says "Do I Look Like a F****ing People Person?" (with the F****ing in bright, bold red) that I wore rather gleefully through my 20s. I cringe at the memory although I still have the t-shirt.

I should say though that I've been increasingly tempted to wear it to therapy -- sadly, given how spaced out my therapist generally is, I doubt she'll even notice it.

No Friday underyouknowwhatsies? Or is that Commando Day?

eta: at first I thought that might get an Ack from SD, but then I remembered she once advised me to wear a loincloth and not go commando under plate mail armor to avoid "some serious chafing."

I feel like a ***** mum a the moment. My youngest d isn't really settling into her new school after a year she still wants to go the school her friends go to but its 20kms out of town. This morning she was in teaars and I just couldn't get into the comforting mindset as we were running late and I had a whole list of appts today.I feel I have been dismissive of her distress and I have no idea how to rectify this.

Aha! Just testing you! see? Its awful, isnt it? That self-consciousness makes me feel dirty! It was a cheap shot. I do have SOME integrity as a comedian! I feel so ashamed

I am totally confused. What was the test? Did I pass or fail?

I just wanted an excuse to use the you got an 87 percent and its going on your permanent record.

(((Bunyip))) no way, okay?

I don't know? Do I do something special this afternoon and talk to her about it. But we have talked about it before she still doesn't get it that I can't home school her and can't afford to drive her to the other school. Maybe I'll channel my T and say that we need to have this conversation for as long as it takes... but its taking so long and she is 13 years old.

Hey all wrote an extensive letter to send NP about my reasons for going off meds and how to help myself while coming off and when off. T didnt text me back about dropping it off tomorrow to have her read first. Is there someone or a few someones I could send it to to read over and see what you think?

(((BunYip)))
It does take a while. The eight year old was very upset about leaving her old school when we went to the shelter. She hated her new school all last year, but this year she's fine.
Channeling your T sounds like a good idea. And yeah, that conversation will take a while:/
Hang in there BunYip, we don't have to be perfect parents, just good enough

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Boy, when I'm tired I sure don't handle **** well. Hubby's expensive meds, plus son blowing out a tire (nobody got hurt), plus something I need by Wednesday I ordered and accidentally shipped to our old address, plus trying to figure out how to get the tire fixed tomorrow, all stupid little inconsequential ****, and I'm a puddle of tears and can't handle any of it. Oh for F's sake.

(((Art)))

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Then she wil be in high school soon? It doesnt make up for these couple of years, but... anyway, just wanted to say, i meant by my post, no way are you a mean (or whatever!) mom - you are so present for them.

Ah gee thanks Unaluna I appreciate that and I will try to take that on board.

Thanks I know that I just need to be good enough but internal pressures make me think I am not a very good parent but that is a result I think of listening to the ex.
Anyway I didn't try to poison one of our daughters. I wonder if I should collect all this a s evidence for further down the track.

I get all the innuendo my T puts out there. I get his sarcasm, his writing style, his incessant need to control people. If he loses one victim, he'll move on to another. The more vulnerable the better. He can even convince others to join him in the control parade.

BY - you seem to be doing reasonably fine in the parenting department. I would even go so far as to say that while it appears to be a good idea to let children have their feelings and all - just because a child does not like something does not mean that they don't have to learn to deal with it - we all have to deal with things we do not like, and further that the adult does not have to keep revisiting it or justify all decisions to a 13 year old. And the adult need not feel guilty for it. I think that I would tell the child that I understand it does not make her happy and it can be tough when one is unhappy and leave it at that part of channeling a therapist. I don't think a parent need have a conversation with a 13 year old over and over just because she wants a different decision.

The combined wisdom of the couch! How do you bottle it?

Its a strange brew!

My adult just fell out

Just ruined my math test. Luckily my current grade is a 9.2 or something so my grade can handle it.

Hey couch whats up? Still waiting to hear back on my text to T to drop off a letter for her to read before I send to NP...probably this morning. Otherwise all is good. Gotta a dr's appointment this morning. Should be getting ready for that. Gotta go people. Be back later.

Strange yes but one I am so thankful to have found!! I appreciate y'all so much.

Couldn't agree more.