[annielovesbacon]

I see my T at my university and she's always super booked so even though I'm supposed to see her once every two weeks (which is already too long in my opinion), I really only see her about once a month. It's really hard emotionally to be away from her that long but also when I do finally see her it's hard to recount everything that's happened in the past month, even though I write it down.
Does anyone else experience this? How do you cope with it?

[Loco4]

Hey annielovesbacon,

I'm sorry to hear that you can't see t as frequently as you would like. I'm in a similar position where we aim to see each other every two weeks but due to her busy schedule and that I only get 10 sessions covered under Medicare a year (rest are out of pocket) we often have to push it out to a month between visits.

I am invited to call t between sessions when I need to and I do this a fair bit. Recently we recorded a message from her to me on my phone that I can listen to whenever I need. I find this to be really useful between sessions. It's great because I can hear her say all the things I really need to hear. This has helped me to get through the time between therapy.



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[Elkino]

I talk to my T every two weeks, but sometimes it's not possible and then it becomes every month. While I used to talk to T every week, this feels like way too much time in between sessions. But I also experienced that when we spoke every week, I was first talking to her, then thinking about how the session went, then started writing an e-mail, sent that e-mail and just waited for the next session. My weeks were just all about therapy. I'm not sure whether it was a good thing.
Therapy is there to make your life better, not to take over your life. Not saying that is the case with you of course. But for me, it created an opportunity to work on life in between sessions. I more and more focused my energy on getting things done before we'd speak again. I'd want to show progress by the next appointment.
Maybe trying to achieve this, putting your energy in 'a project in between' could be an option?
Does your T give you any homework to do? If not, maybe you can talk about that option too? It definitely worked for me.

Wishing you all the best.

[itjustis]

I'm in a similar situation. My T is super busy too but I still get to see her once a week in term time as she puts students on a waiting list if she can't fit them in.
I'm just coming to the end of a three week break and I've really struggled so i understand what you're going through.
I've written a lot of things down for my T, some I'll send in an email when she's back at work, others helped to just get it out.

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[annielovesbacon]

Originally Posted by Elkino

I talk to my T every two weeks, but sometimes it's not possible and then it becomes every month. While I used to talk to T every week, this feels like way too much time in between sessions. But I also experienced that when we spoke every week, I was first talking to her, then thinking about how the session went, then started writing an e-mail, sent that e-mail and just waited for the next session. My weeks were just all about therapy. I'm not sure whether it was a good thing.
Therapy is there to make your life better, not to take over your life. Not saying that is the case with you of course. But for me, it created an opportunity to work on life in between sessions. I more and more focused my energy on getting things done before we'd speak again. I'd want to show progress by the next appointment.
Maybe trying to achieve this, putting your energy in 'a project in between' could be an option?
Does your T give you any homework to do? If not, maybe you can talk about that option too? It definitely worked for me.

Wishing you all the best.

I like the idea of putting a "project" in between each session, although I am nervous of failure and disappointing my T at the next session

[eclogite]

I "graduated" from twice a week to every two weeks once upon a time, and it finally felt appropriate because I was no longer in constant crisis. We moved along to once a month, and it was a good pace for us.

If you're having to go a month in between meetings because of logistics, I'd try to find someone else. IMO you just spend so much time trying to catch up that it's hard to get back into the rhythm and make progress in 50 mins.

I get stoned a lot and numb out. Not great, I know. I'm going through a particularly rough patch right now and he can't get me in sooner than our already scheduled appointment next Friday. Trying not to text him like a freaking maniac asking if he has any cancellations.

[gayleggg]

I journal in between sessions. This helps me not to forget anything important that has happened.

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Originally Posted by Loco4

Hey annielovesbacon,

I'm sorry to hear that you can't see t as frequently as you would like. I'm in a similar position where we aim to see each other every two weeks but due to her busy schedule and that I only get 10 sessions covered under Medicare a year (rest are out of pocket) we often have to push it out to a month between visits.

I am invited to call t between sessions when I need to and I do this a fair bit. Recently we recorded a message from her to me on my phone that I can listen to whenever I need. I find this to be really useful between sessions. It's great because I can hear her say all the things I really need to hear. This has helped me to get through the time between therapy.



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Sorry to hijack but my T said we may get the 16 sessions back sometime. Fingers crossed.

I used to handle them badly as sometimes i used have 3 months between sessions. Much angsting and gnashing of teeth and lying on the bed just existing. Now i just get on with what I am doing, mostly.

[Loco4]

Originally Posted by BunYip

Sorry to hijack but my T said we may get the 16 sessions back sometime. Fingers crossed.

That would be amazing!

[annielovesbacon]

Originally Posted by eclogite

I "graduated" from twice a week to every two weeks once upon a time, and it finally felt appropriate because I was no longer in constant crisis. We moved along to once a month, and it was a good pace for us.

If you're having to go a month in between meetings because of logistics, I'd try to find someone else. IMO you just spend so much time trying to catch up that it's hard to get back into the rhythm and make progress in 50 mins.

Unfortunately my uni T is the only one I can afford. I also really love her and it would be hard for me to leave her

[Cinnamon_Stick]

It helped me to email my T between sessions and sometimes talk on the phone. I also journaled about therapy and tried to keep myself as busy as I could so I wouldn't think about it that much. My T also made recordings of her saying different things so I could hear her comforting words and voice whenever I needed.

[Argonautomobile]

I switched from weekly to monthly a few months ago. It's hard, I'd prefer to go more often, but I second what another poster said about monthly therapy giving one more time to implement changes, and how weekly therapy can make one's life revolve around that session. I'm not sure it was 100% healthy for me to go once a week, not after I was no longer in crisis.

In terms of session time being spent on catch-up...well, I don't. I just don't catch T up on my life. Not unless I want to spend the session chit-chatting (which is fine--sometimes I do). Otherwise I pick one, maybe two things that have been on my mind and talk about those.

I hope you find something that works for you.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by annielovesbacon

I see my T at my university and she's always super booked so even though I'm supposed to see her once every two weeks (which is already too long in my opinion), I really only see her about once a month. It's really hard emotionally to be away from her that long but also when I do finally see her it's hard to recount everything that's happened in the past month, even though I write it down.
Does anyone else experience this? How do you cope with it?

I've gone without seeing T for almost 3 months just recently. It was hard at first then it felt sort of "free". Just kept myself occupied with school and time flew.

[cheshiregrins]

I used to go super crazy and lose touch with reality, now, not so much. I can handle it a bit better. I'm going on the longest stretch without my pdoc right now- 6 weeks. Journaling helps.
I still have no support other than him, really, so I don't do so well when he's gone. :/