[evildouble102]

Had a huge long post; not anymore; will try to summarize. It's going to be my bday on sunday- 23. Living on my own for the first time and my family basically hasn't acknowledged it. I'm feeling pretty down and depressed about it. I know they didn't forget because they don't forget anyone else in the family or friends. So I don't really think that my emotions are justified but I feel them regardless. My parents are divorced so I have my dad and his family who are like 15 minutes away. And then my mom and twin sis are like 45 minutes away. My mom who I havent' had the best relationship with has suggested that I come over her house for dinner and what not. It's kind of complicated like my dad helps me out with rent but there are conditions of dealing with my mom and stuff so I dunno what to do. I'm just hoping things go okay and I don't make some more bad decisions about risk taking and substances.... any advice or whatever would be great; thanks.

Well Happy Birthday to you Sunday!

It sounds like dealing with your divorced parents is a tug-of-war sometimes and at times like birthdays it sounds complicated. I'm sorry it is like this for you. (( hugs ))

Where I used to work we celebrated birthdays by having a cake for the birthday person. Once, the birthday person wasn't too appreciative (cake was not her favorite flavor) so we decided from then on that the birthday person would bring something to share on their birthday! It worked great and was fun to share something of ourselves with the others on our birthday. I thought of that because I was wondering.... what if you made a cake/food/snacks and invited your family to come? If they can't be together at the same time, you could work it out or they could work it out to be there separately. What do you think?



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[MissCharlotte]

Happy Birthday!!

I hope you can allow yourself to do whatever YOU feel like.

I like Echoes idea because it puts you in the drivers seat. If not at your house, how about a trip to a restaurant? Or an activity together with Mom, like a movie or a visit to a park or something. Then maybe the tug won't be so strong at her house.

Echoes reminded me of my favorite birthday memory. Instead of waiting to be disappointed I took matters into my own hands and went out to the market, bought steak and birthday cake and goodies. I invited my husband and kids to my "party." We all had a wonderful time.

My second favorite birthday memory was just this year. We had a normal dinner and birthday cake and then we wrote poetry together at the kitchen table. (Not something the men in my family usually do but I was the birthday girl, so they had to comply!!)

So, I think the answer here is to get into the driver's seat.

Good luck & Happy Birthday.

[gostryter]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY (tomorrow)

i just had a b-day myself...ugh, there just not as fun as they were when we were kids, huh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my co-workers actually DID forget my b-day one year!!!! for our b-day they decorate our office and have a cake and they forgot mine!!!!!!! ouch!!! but then about a month later they realized it and gave me an Alice in Wonderland un-b-day celebration! ....sorry got side tracked....

i hope your family can realize that this day is about YOU!!!!! and what will make YOU happy!!! it's your BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Happy Birthday to YOU...Happy Birthday to YOU....Happy Birthday dear evildouble102....Happy Birthday to YOU!!!!!