Changing Boundaries or Overthinking

Logical me would interpret it to mean next session, but the authentic me would send a short email or phone call right after the event starting with, " I'm emailing/calling because you wanted wanted me to let you know how...."

My T has said that to me before but I always wait until the next appointment, but that's my own preference and nothing to do with my T. I'm more likely to share with family or a friend so I haven't felt a need to tell her before the next session. If you feel a need to contact your T, however, I think it's totally fine. I'm with Stopdog in that it bothers me when Ts tell clients they aren't "allowed" to email or call. When any professional gives contact info to a client, I think it's expected that the client will use it. A t can specify that they don't do therapy over the phone or email and that they might not answer after hours or on weekends. Anyway, I think so long as you're ok with the possibility that he may not respond until your next session, I wouldn't over think it and just email, call or text him.

That's a really good perspective. Luckily, he responds quickly to e-mails and text. I will opt for e-mail with the good news.

That definitely would have been a more elegant introduction than what I wrote haha. I basically wrote, "T, [outcome of event] Looking forward to our session on Friday. Best, WanderingBark"

I was worried about making it a big deal versus 'playing it cool'. Gosh, it feels like an awful mix of talking to a high school crush and a doctor's appointment. At least I had good news to report!

Update Post: I sent T a very quick/short e-mail after. I wrote, "T, [outcome of event] Looking forward to our session on Friday. Best, WanderingBark"

I wrote the e-mail before checking this thread again and I wish I had opened with something like others' mentioned for example, "I know we don't usually use e-mail to discuss matters outside of the office, but at the end of last session you requested that I give you an update....etc."

But it seems to have worked out well. He replied, congratulating me on the outcome and said we will discuss it in more detail at next session.

I'm satisfied by his response, but I will ask him if I overstepped and I'll be sure to bring up the process I went through (emotionally and mentally) in writing the e-mail/giving him an update.

Congrats on the event, and from where i sit (emotionally on my ts lap!) congrats on being human!

I usually wait, but if it's something big...I'll Email her. Perhaps, just to ease your mind, you could ask your T if they meant to Email them and let them know, or let them know next session. I do try to wait....but sometimes...like today.... I fail at that!

Thank you very much