Do Ts ever purposely orchestrate ruptures?

If i ever felt my T was doing this to me, I'd be pissed. In the 10 months I've been seeing her, I have never experienced her trying to create a rupture; if anything she is the one reassuring me that she doesn't hate me or is annoyed by me, or doesn't think i am hopeless..etc.

Even though my last T and I did not click at all, and i stayed way too long, i also never experienced her trying to create a rupture with me. In fact, she was asking a question about something I was avoiding intensely, and I changed the subject to a slightly sadder subject that i also was avoiding, but it was less intense than the one she brought up (i hope that makes sense).

Anyway, I started talking about the other subject and said "Well at leaset you got me to talk about this!," and she said "I hope you don't think I did that intentionally, because I did not."

Do you think the whole thing was planned from the beginning? Is she capable of that, or could it just be a mess up?

I cannot speak for anyone else's T. Mine doesn't. I may bring unconscious stuff with me that I need to work through. That comes out as something different and I end up accusing T of doing something. When is all worked through, I can see exactly what's happened.
Perhaps if a T isn't skilled in the unconscious side of things then it would become about 'them'. I don't know.

Naw...I don't think it was planned from the beginning at all, or even just a few months ahead of time. I think things happened, then she abruptly changed her behavior, but probably didn't expect I would react as badly as I did. My guess is, something made her change. Maybe a consult with another T or something.... or maybe she realized she was getting attached to me, and backed off. I dunno. But I don't think it was planned.

Well, my psychologist has asked me to talk about an extremely painful subject before, but I refused and he never asked again. I thin T's want us talk about things, and have those moments so it can be fixed, but only when we are ready. Sometimes we may need a little push. But I can't see my psychologist purposefully causing a rupture. He hasn't yet, at least...

I remember discussing this same question with my therapist when it came up before on this forum a few years back. She shook her head, and said it was a dumb idea on the therapist part to do purposely create ruptures.

Therapists, in my experience, do all sorts of dumb things.

She was certainly in agreement with that sentiment. And, now that I've spent time reading on MI forums I'm in agreement. Lots of therapist do lots of dumb things.

They could also do it subconsciously or something. They're not immune to stuff like that.

I have no information to disagree with you. We are definitely talking about consciously causing ruptures per the OP's thread title.

The subconscious has its own purposes.

I Don't disagree agree with you,because the subconscious is responsible for a lot of purposeful behavior. Yet, going back to the OP's title I don't believe ruptures are "orchestrated" on a subconscious , more like "springs" forth. Can we work on our subconscious to change future behaviors? For sure, but I can't explain it! I'll leave that to the highly educated to discourse, and I l'll stick to sharing the discussion I had previously with my ex therapist. No matter what we believe there are a lot of bad therapist out there. Her from being in the presence of her peers, and me from having seen a few rotten apples myself, but mostly from the readers on this board.

Can'tExplain, it's good to see you off the couch.

Sayonara,
wtr

Thanks! I think...

Truth. Years back you used to comment a lot more on threads, and I loved reading your responses. I miss that. You make us readers think. Also, as a male you manage to understand women very well. Not an easy feat for the dominate sex when it comes to emotional issues. You are always considerate in your responses.