[Loco4]

When did you decide it wasn't working?

T and I had a minor rupture and talked about it in yesterday's session. The rupture was due to me feeling abandoned, rejected, and unimportant.

Well t just kind of explained why she had said what she did. Her explanation further triggered the feelings above.

I left that session hysterically crying, my inner child was in total despair. I even self-harmed. Therapy to me should be where I feel safe, not where I leave more wounded, confused, and alone that when I started.

I'm over it.

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[itjustis]

I'm going through the same feelings right now. My next session is today, after feeling rejected and abandoned. I'm going to talk about it today and hopefully feel better not worse!

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[Lazarus16]

Originally Posted by Loco4

When did you decide it wasn't working?

T and I had a minor rupture and talked about it in yesterday's session. The rupture was due to me feeling abandoned, rejected, and unimportant.

Well t just kind of explained why she had said what she did. Her explanation further triggered the feelings above.

I left that session hysterically crying, my inner child was in total despair. I even self-harmed. Therapy to me should be where I feel safe, not where I leave more wounded, confused, and alone that when I started.

I'm over it.

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It might have been a bad match. We're not made to fit with everyone. Try a new therapist, who knows, it might mark the beginning of an extraordinary story.

[Yoda]

I have quit therapy because I have reached a point where my ptsd and bipolar no longer control my life. I am not perfect but I am better.

I went through similar feelings to you with T1. He would actually become defensive when I tried to talk to him about feeling abandoned and rejected and we ended up in a pattern of rupture and repair.
I left when I realised that the repeated pain I was going through was not therapeutic and any therapeutic value to the relationship was lost. I found it too hard just to leave though, so I took a 'break' for four months and consulted another (much better) therapist about my feelings toward T1 then after 4 months I realised I was making better progress with T2, so I contacted T1 to terminate.

My first therapy I left after 6months.
I had no idea what therapy should be. Had no idea of inner change, cause it sure never happened with that sharlatan. Plus my leaving was a test I think, to see if she would 'keep me'.
But since getting into reliable therapy, I've got to much from it to really consider leaving that.

[musinglizzy]

I wish I had the courage to quit with T1 because I'm going through a lot of the same feelings with her. Good luck to you....therapy really hurts sometimes. I think it might have been PuzzleBug who said therapy was re-traumatizing rather than healing. I feel the same way.

[Loco4]

Yeah for sure I'm feeling worse than when I started

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[PinkFlamingo99]

When I started leaving every session feeling unheard and like my heart was breaking. When I obsessed and cried until the next session. When her answers became inconsistent and I knew she was lying.

[Loco4]

Originally Posted by itjustis

I'm going through the same feelings right now. My next session is today, after feeling rejected and abandoned. I'm going to talk about it today and hopefully feel better not worse!

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How did it go?

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by Loco4

How did it go?

Really well thank you. I feel so much better for being able to talk about it. T was really calm and let me say what I needed to and responded appropriately. I'm happy I went to that session because I was in two minds about going!

[velcro003]

I left my previous therapy (wayyy longer than I should have) when I realized I was stuck, and nothing she was doing was helping.

[junkDNA]

ive thought about it

I ended my therapy, not because it wasn't working, but because it did work quite well for me and I was ready to go it on my own.

[Loco4]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

I ended my therapy, not because it wasn't working, but because it did work quite well for me and I was ready to go it on my own.

That's awesome hope I get there one day!

Every time I want to quit therapy, something bad happens that makes me come crawling back.

In fact, last week I was thinking about setting up a therapy appointment for 3 weeks out (instead of my normal 1.5 weeks), but my therapist was booked, so I chose to schedule it for today (since everything else was taken up). Turns out I made the right decision. I've been really anxious

Yes, with two different therapists. I wish I had ended it earlier with both of them. It was not until I started seeing my current T that I understood that therapy could actually be helpful.

[stopdog]

I quit and went back all the time for the first two years or so with the first one I see. Now I just take extended breaks.

I quit one that I tried about 15 years or so ago - I just said no to setting another appointment and walked out. That was it.

[Gavinandnikki]

Originally Posted by Echos Myron

I went through similar feelings to you with T1. He would actually become defensive when I tried to talk to him about feeling abandoned and rejected and we ended up in a pattern of rupture and repair.
I left when I realised that the repeated pain I was going through was not therapeutic and any therapeutic value to the relationship was lost. I found it too hard just to leave though, so I took a 'break' for four months and consulted another (much better) therapist about my feelings toward T1 then after 4 months I realised I was making better progress with T2, so I contacted T1 to terminate.

I terminated because of similar feelings after 5+ years, on the couch 3-4 times a week. I or we couldn't resolve my longings. But we left on good terms.

We stay in touch, occasionally, because my sister, Mom, and Dad all died within 7 months.

[gayleggg]

I quit therapy because of financial issues but felt I was in a good place anyway so it didn't affect me a lot.

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I've tried to quit several times but have never been able to successfully from current t. I am just too attached still or something and its coming up on 5 years...

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[Cinnamon_Stick]

I had a therapist that had the pet rock (that she thought was alive) and was always touching me when I asked her (and begged her) to stop. I couldn't take it anymore so I ended therapy with her. I should have done it after the first session.

I read an article earlier (I can't find the blog back again darn it) when I was googling how to say goodbye to your therapist and something resonated with me - it said something about how during therapy, the therapist has the power, when therapy is done, the client has the power. Or something like that. I need to explore this I think.

Originally Posted by stopdog

I quit and went back all the time for the first two years or so with the first one I see. Now I just take extended breaks.

I quit one that I tried about 15 years or so ago - I just said no to setting another appointment and walked out. That was it.

LOL sounds like me

I quit my current T every few weeks it seems.

The only other time was about 10 years ago. I just said no to setting another appointment - gave my reasons - and left.

[Luce]

I quit. After 10 years or so one day in session out of the blue I said I wouldn't be back again, and I wasn't.
Worst decision I made in my entire life.