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I have always seen my T at her house – for three years. One time I had called her to reschedule and she said, “Oh, and don’t get a shock when you see the For Sale sign out the front of my house – I’m moving house but keeping the same practice, so nothing changes.” I felt weird about it but then okay, especially when at the next session she made a point of saying, “Nothing at all will change, only the room.”

Now, she is moving to some office which she shares with other psychologists. This was okay, but now I find out she’s pretty much only working 2 days, and not even full days, when before it was 4 days. I was in crisis yesterday and rang her and she said we should meet earlier than two weeks (which was when my next appointment was scheduled) but seemed kind of reluctant. She said her only appointment was on Monday at the crack of dawn. I was kind of scattered, so agreed before I realised. Then I was thinking, how is it going to go with her cramming all her clients into 2 not even full days? And obviously she will have to arrive earlier than she planned on Monday to meet me as her first appointment which I feel guilty about.

I am just worried about her not having much time anymore, and extremely angry that she lied to me, telling me nothing would change when in fact everything has changed. She didn’t even tell me she was moving to an office environment. I assumed her new office would be at her new house. I’m really not good with being shaken up and I don’t feel safe with this anymore. What should I do with these feelings? I doubt my social anxiety will allow me to tell her I feel betrayed.

[CantExplain]

Your concerns seem reasonable. If she is scaling back her practice, that makes her less flexible. And the environment has changed too.

What to do? Tell her how you feel.

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Your concerns seem reasonable. If she is scaling back her practice, that makes her less flexible. And the environment has changed too.

What to do? Tell her how you feel.

I'm confused about why she would be scaling back her practice though. I got no hint of this whatsoever. That seems kind of a major thing for clients.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by substancelessblue

I'm confused about why she would be scaling back her practice though. I got no hint of this whatsoever. That seems kind of a major thing for clients.

It's OK to ask her.

[Teddy:)]

I can understand your worries! although i have never seen a T at their house before my T has moved offices and it freaked the hell out of me. I was concerned that I no longer mattered and I was going to be tossed out on the kerb but to my relief my T remained the same and although it was a different environment i found that my connection to T still remained the same.
I won't lie though I did kick up a bit of a fuss and I tried to push my T away before she could, my first session in that new office was horrible- not because of my T being different or of the space but it was horrible because I made it that way! I went in with the view that this was the day that T was getting rid of me- I was going to be abandoned once again, I sat in silence for most of it and when T tried to help I just attacked everything she said- I left feeling the worst I had ever felt.
It wasn't until my session a couple of days later where I openly told T how the move felt for me and we were able to discuss my feelings that I was able to realize that I wasn't being abandoned.
Now I love that space and I think that the change although hard really helped me to grow. So my advice would be to be open and honest with your T, tell her how her saying "nothing will change" has made you feel, tell her everything that is bothering you regarding the move, cause the more open you are the more your T can understand and help you through it.

[stopdog]

If you can't tell her, could you print out what you wrote in the first post and give it to her?