Couch 114 - Take a Pew

I don't have erotic transference. In fact, I kind of find the naked human body extremely unattractive, except in the heat of passion. No doubt there's not enough fur.

So, basically, I am now repelled by her. I am actually thinking about writing her an email as the next session isn't till Friday.

No, thanks for asking. Our workload is so high in the spring and summer there is no way I could have the surgery before October. I'll have to do one shoulder then wait a year to do the other.

An excellent question. The answer is that I just don't notice coldness in men.

Also, I'm not sure "coldness" is the right word. It's more "legalism": holding to the letter of the law. I view the law as a tool, a means to an end, and not an end in itself.

(I am no doubt doing you an injustice by attributing to you views that you do not in fact hold. But there I go again: my view of women tends to be more black-and-white than my view of men.)

To me, quality time with W is walking together, watching TV together, talking, reading together, and sex.

Hi couch, hugs to those who need/want them!

I just got home from a magical evening with my drumming friends, went to a labyrinth walk, and I always find it so peaceful and calming walking the labyrinth while watching the sun set and the moon rise, and listening to the drums and the wooden flute one of our group plays. They have started laying strings of battery-powered lights along the ropes, so the whole thing is lit, and just absolutely breathtaking as it gets darker! Here's a pic I took just before we left:

didn't mean to leave you out when i said thanks! sorry about that!

No problem! I knew you appreciated it anyway, whether you say anything or not. It's not big deal, but thanks for coming back and thinking of me! I appreciate it.

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Wedding done.
Done.
Done.
Done.
Laying in bed trying to figure out how I'm going to make it this week without my sibling #1s support (honeymoon) and no t (out for health issues)....
Not going well.
Hopefully the week will go by quickly.

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I believe that the Nazca lines are something like a labyrinth walk.

Would my mid life crisis (an early one mind) become real if I went out and bought the pair of Rollerblades and the trampoline I have an inexplicable urge for?

Only if you plan to rollerblade and trampoline at the same time.

Seriously, if you want them, get them. It is not like they are the traditional mid-life crisis 40K+ sports car, and if they will give you pleasure I don't see why not.

Blah.. I have to go be an adult, drop dance costumes off, go grocery shopping, make sure kids have polos washed for school this week..and all I really want to do is be in bed all day!

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Running on 3 hours sleep, adrenaline and caffeine. If I take a nap today I'm doomed tonight. Have a great day couch!

Busy week again. This is concert week (Mahler's Das Klegende Lied), so orchestra rehearsal Monday and Wednesday. I'll be missing my son's voice recital on Wednesday unfortunately, but his Dad and brothers are going so the family will be well-represented. Friday night is the first concert. My husband is going to go and watch in the lobby (they have a video feed for free) because these concerts have been sold out for months. Well, not quite true, I could have gotten him a seat way up in the Grand Tier for $279. That's craziness! Nope, he can watch a video feed. LOL! But the reason he is going is that after the Friday night concert is our Gala banquet which is always very nice. Saturday night is the second and last performance and I'm a free woman from chorus until late August (assuming I passed my audition and he's taking me back -- I'm assuming I did but you never know).

Our oldest son announced last night that he and his fiancee are finally going to get married sometime in the next month. He works for the USPS and the government has finally agreed to give those in his position benefits (Thank you Obama), so they've decided to get married and go ahead and get her on his insurance during the open enrollment period. They'll do a formal ceremony and reception at some future date and time. I'm thrilled! They've been together a long time and have been trying to save for a wedding, but life keeps intervening. The latest problem was that she had to have surgery about two weeks ago and her lousy insurance paid next to nothing for it, leaving them footing a very large medical bill. I think that was the reality moment combined with my son finally being offered VERY good benefits in the near future that made them decide that waiting for the perfect moment and the dream wedding didn't continue to make sense (we've been telling them this for awhile). I've called her my daughter-in-law for several years now, so now it will finally be official. She's a great girl (a hard, hard worker) and they are a good influence on each other (very yinyang-ish). We had taken her in to live with us about 5 years ago when her parents stopped being parents and just kind of left her to fend on her own (stupid people). We've been her mom and dad ever since.

Hey couch, I just talked to my mother, she is sounding like her normal self which is good, she got a good night's sleep at my sister's house last night. My sister took her up to her house today so she could pack everything she'll need for her trip here, and she's gonna stay at my sisters who is a lot closer to the airport until she leaves Wednesday. Also she said she and my sister specifically asked the dr if she could fly on Wednesday and they said by all means yes, a vacation away from your stress is just what you need. So she had a bit of a scare there the other day, but all of her tests came back good and she feels fine. She just needs to relax.

I hope everyone is having a good Sunday!

My therapist is moving to an office with no waiting room, no buffer. Just two chairs in the hallway outside her office. The hallway is shared with businesses and an off campus school. She does not see this as a problem, but I am alarmed by it. I'm going to check it out to see if I can tolerate that. I typically show up close to my appt time, but I will still have to stand or sit there out in the open until she's ready. Does anyone else have a therapist with no waiting room?

My t works out of her home so doesn't have a waiting room. I assume she has other clients by now (since moving back here 9 months ago) because she said recently "everyone wants weekday evenings" when we were talking about scheduling and that I really like coming on Saturday mornings. I haven't seen another client yet, she must space out appt times a little to avoid that. I just sit in my car if I get there early. She said I could sit on the porch, but I haven't yet.

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Well . . . that wasn't what I was planning to do today. Our old Maytag washer finally died after 25 years of faithful service (average of 2 loads a day), so we ran out to the store to buy a new washer/dryer set to be delivered tomorrow. Loved our salesman; he was older like us so he spoke our language: best quality, large capacity, no extra bells and whistles that will just break down anyway. We were in and out of there in half an hour.

Look who came to visit me in my backyard a few minutes ago! He's a cutie, isn't he? He's a Sonoran Gopher snake. Don't worry, he's not venomous!

"Snake energy is of wholeness, cosmic consciousness, and signals a transition in your life, new opportunities, and changes. Brings spiritual transformation and heals through change."

YIKES!!!! Snakes have been on my agenda too!!

Wanted to share this. Getting a new week started.



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Yuck. Can't wait for the snake picture to move to a different page. Snakes are almost a phobia for me. If I had the option to hide that picture I would (I do that all the time on FB when my rancher family posts pictures of snakes they've come across). No worries; it will move off the front page soon enough.

I'm just posting to help move the snake off the page. I don't like them either - they feature often in my nightmares.

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I don't mind snakes much.


I go in to the therapist's building right on time or a minute after. I don't wait in the waiting room. I would not like a set up with plastic chairs right outside the office door.