[Coco3]

The first time I was in therapy with current T, I talked about many painful things, but there was one thing I never mentioned. I couldn’t. It was too hard. When I returned to therapy, I knew it was time to tell my T. I couldn’t ignore it any longer. I just wasn’t prepared for, nor expecting, the enormous waves of emotions that grabbed me by my feet and nearly drowned me. Guess now I knew why it took me so long to get ready for it. It’s been so rough lately, I’m having the hardest times. I know I have to work through it, but it’s very hard when everything I’ve worked so hard for the first time in therapy, almost gets knocked down and overruled.

The feelings that scare me the most, are the hurt and feeling unsafe. It’s terrible to feel so unsafe again and I don’t know what I can do to make me feel safe again. I’m going to talk to my T about it, but I was wondering what you do when you feel unsafe. Can you make yourself feel safer?

[itjustis]

Coco3 I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I remember telling my T something I'd never told anyone and I was terrified but she made me feel completely safe. She would tell me often that I was safe and nothing would harm me when I was with her. This is where the out of session contact started for me. I just needed to know she was still there and her replies would make me feel ok.
Could you send a brief text or email to T outlining what you're feeling right now?


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[Out There]

I can understand the feelings of being unsafe , it happened to me. I booked an earlier appointment with my T to talk about it , but I think it was a battle playing out within myself. Other than talking to your T , do you use any mindfulness techniques , grounding , safe place. Hopefully this should work out with your T and may strengthen the relationship , things of this nature are often paradoxical but positive. Wish you well.

[Coco3]

Originally Posted by itjustis

Coco3 I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I remember telling my T something I'd never told anyone and I was terrified but she made me feel completely safe. She would tell me often that I was safe and nothing would harm me when I was with her. This is where the out of session contact started for me. I just needed to know she was still there and her replies would make me feel ok.
Could you send a brief text or email to T outlining what you're feeling right now?

When I told my T, he made me feel safe too. He handled it very well and made it so much easier for me to talk about it.

Originally Posted by Out There

I can understand the feelings of being unsafe , it happened to me. I booked an earlier appointment with my T to talk about it , but I think it was a battle playing out within myself. Other than talking to your T , do you use any mindfulness techniques , grounding , safe place. Hopefully this should work out with your T and may strengthen the relationship , things of this nature are often paradoxical but positive. Wish you well.

I got to talk to my T about this soon after posting here, and I feel much better now. I think 'just' talking about it was the key. I opened up instead of slowly shutting down again, like I used to do all my life. I had to break through the old patterns. T encouraged me and made me feel safe.

The only thing that worries me, is that I can't lean on T my whole life. I don't want to. I have to find other ways to find safety within. What kind of grounding and mindfullness techniques do you use, Out There?

Originally Posted by Coco3

The first time I was in therapy with current T, I talked about many painful things, but there was one thing I never mentioned. I couldn’t. It was too hard. When I returned to therapy, I knew it was time to tell my T. I couldn’t ignore it any longer. I just wasn’t prepared for, nor expecting, the enormous waves of emotions that grabbed me by my feet and nearly drowned me. Guess now I knew why it took me so long to get ready for it. It’s been so rough lately, I’m having the hardest times. I know I have to work through it, but it’s very hard when everything I’ve worked so hard for the first time in therapy, almost gets knocked down and overruled.

The feelings that scare me the most, are the hurt and feeling unsafe. It’s terrible to feel so unsafe again and I don’t know what I can do to make me feel safe again. I’m going to talk to my T about it, but I was wondering what you do when you feel unsafe. Can you make yourself feel safer?

Once the feelings have been processed than I have even greater sense of feeling safe than I did before.

[Out There]

It is breaking through the old patterns. They somewhat define our reality sometimes. I am just exploring the story that appears in variations through time from the native Americans to Carl Jung. The " Gods " are trying to figure out where to hide the " secret / treasure " so humans don't misuse it. The Eagle says he'll fly it to the moon and hide it there. No , the humans will go to the moon and find it. The Whale says he'll take it to the depths of the ocean and hide it there. No , the humans will go there and find it. Then the wise mole says " Hide it inside people , it's the last place they will look ". We can find things inside ourselves , we have to look. For a safe place maybe create a beautiful forest , with animals , that's a favorite of mine. I find the mindfulness breathing techniques helpful ( not everyone does though - try the " my calm beat " app ). If we can get to I am that I am - the safety within. Hard work.