[Sarmas]

I had a dream with my T which I thought was significant and I've been running into issues where I've been non-functional. She's also my dietitian but even as that she's not helped me out whatsoever. I've hit a wall with my eating and I've been frustrated plus I'm stressed with my divorce case which is finalizing. I emailed her once last week and texted her once today and she still is missing. I know that she will not respond. Now I know for sure that she will not answer me at all. She answers other people and I know that because when I see her she will mention that people text and email her and she will respond. People have called her and she's answered in front of me. This system doesn't work for me. I feel
Like what's the point of having a T if she isn't there when I need her. Maybe to her that's being dependent but then what's is acceptable and where's the fine line between being dependent and needing help or guidance? I'm just confused.

I'm sorry you are experiencing this! I'm surprised she takes calls in front of you during session and talks about other clients text priorities, etc. I don't know the precise ethical rules, but at the very least she's being unprofessional and insensitive doing that. That is your session with your T, your time, your dollar. It should be all about you. You have every right to be upset.

As for her not answering texts, does she have a policy on that? You said she answers some clients but not yours. That seems unfair and unprofessional.

As a dietician, she is not helping you. You deserve better.

If I were in your shoes, I'd ask for help. I'd ask for referrals for a new T and dietitian.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by rainyday107

I'm sorry you are experiencing this! I'm surprised she takes calls in front of you during session and talks about other clients text priorities, etc. I don't know the precise ethical rules, but at the very least she's being unprofessional and insensitive doing that. That is your session with your T, your time, your dollar. It should be all about you. You have every right to be upset.

As for her not answering texts, does she have a policy on that? You said she answers some clients but not yours. That seems unfair and unprofessional.

As a dietician, she is not helping you. You deserve better.

If I were in your shoes, I'd ask for help. I'd ask for referrals for a new T and dietitian.

She's always on her phone at the beginning of my session. I'll come into her room and she's either texting, calling, or receiving a call. Then as she's wrapping it up and I get up from her sofa she will do the same. Plus I've had her a s a professor prior to me seeing her and during our class she would talk about how she handles emails, texts, and calls. I knew how she functioned prior me seeing her. She spoke mostly about one client and she had her as a guest speaker towards the end of the semester. It was what she said and how she said that she functioned that made me seek her as a therapist after my class ended. Then I realized that the only person she spoke in a positive way was that particular client and everyone else fell below her. My expectations were that of a good practicing therapist but this was something that I didn't expect. I don't see any of what she said that she practiced in my sessions at all. That's not to say that she wasn't a fantastic therapist to her but I've been in the office and I've heard enough from her to know that she does play favoritism so not all rules apply to everyone. This is a rule for me. I'm just going to my last session tomorrow and quitting. I was going to cancel and call it quits then but it would've been too late to cancel.

Good for you. Thanks for the update, too.

I've read your posts on your T for a while, from before you had your months break from her. It has sounded to me that you are not getting good therapy from her. What you say today just confirms it - I think that is really inappropriate of her to have phone calls and do texting in front of you, and to talk abut other clients, and to just ignore yours. I know from experience how painful it is to walk away from a difficult therapy relationship. I feel for you. I hope you are able to keep hold of some of the positive things about your relationship.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by Sarmas

She's always on her phone at the beginning of my session. I'll come into her room and she's either texting, calling, or receiving a call. Then as she's wrapping it up and I get up from her sofa she will do the same. Plus I've had her a s a professor prior to me seeing her and during our class she would talk about how she handles emails, texts, and calls. I knew how she functioned prior me seeing her. She spoke mostly about one client and she had her as a guest speaker towards the end of the semester. It was what she said and how she said that she functioned that made me seek her as a therapist after my class ended. Then I realized that the only person she spoke in a positive way was that particular client and everyone else fell below her. My expectations were that of a good practicing therapist but this was something that I didn't expect. I don't see any of what she said that she practiced in my sessions at all. That's not to say that she wasn't a fantastic therapist to her but I've been in the office and I've heard enough from her to know that she does play favoritism so not all rules apply to everyone. This is a rule for me. I'm just going to my last session tomorrow and quitting. I was going to cancel and call it quits then but it would've been too late to cancel.

So wait, she'll be talking to or texting with another client at the start of and/or the end of your session? Like before you've left the room? Wow, that's really unprofessional, and it would definitely bother me. Does she even apologize? I would definitely mention that as part of your termination session tomorrow.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

So wait, she'll be talking to or texting with another client at the start of and/or the end of your session? Like before you've left the room? Wow, that's really unprofessional, and it would definitely bother me. Does she even apologize? I would definitely mention that as part of your termination session tomorrow.

Yes. She does it all of the time but I've noticed that for other people she doesn't. She will take them right in and close the door. With me she's about 15 min late average and then she will go to the bathroom. Then she calls me in while she's texting or she will receive a call and talk the whole time with the door open while I'm waiting for her to finish. I think one of the best times was the one time that she was already on the phone and her door was open. She called me in late. It was about 10 minutes after. Meanwhile she's on the phone walking her husband through the cancellation of an Amazon order. That took a total of 25 minutes of my time. Then after she got off the phone she proceeded to explain that her son saw some type of bear at Walmart that he wanted but they already placed an order with Amazon and that it was cheaper at Walmart. She said that she needed her husband to cancel the order and he didn't know how to. I was upset and said nothing. Normally she doesn't apologize. My kids also see a therapist there so I get to see how she interacts with other clients and it's definitely not the same. I think she picks and chooses who to do things with. Sometimes I think that she does it on purpose.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by Sarmas

Yes. She does it all of the time but I've noticed that for other people she doesn't. She will take them right in and close the door. With me she's about 15 min late average and then she will go to the bathroom. Then she calls me in while she's texting or she will receive a call and talk the whole time with the door open while I'm waiting for her to finish. I think one of the best times was the one time that she was already on the phone and her door was open. She called me in late. It was about 10 minutes after. Meanwhile she's on the phone walking her husband through the cancellation of an Amazon order. That took a total of 25 minutes of my time. Then after she got off the phone she proceeded to explain that her son saw some type of bear at Walmart that he wanted but they already placed an order with Amazon and that it was cheaper at Walmart. She said that she needed her husband to cancel the order and he didn't know how to. I was upset and said nothing. Normally she doesn't apologize. My kids also see a therapist there so I get to see how she interacts with other clients and it's definitely not the same. I think she picks and chooses who to do things with. Sometimes I think that she does it on purpose.

Wow, that's...I don't even know what to say to that. It's one thing if it's an emergency, but that very clearly wasn't! And then she doesn't make up the time?

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Wow, that's...I don't even know what to say to that. It's one thing if it's an emergency, but that very clearly wasn't! And then she doesn't make up the time?

Absolutely not because her other clients for the most part are back to back according to her. I think she considers her apology enough. She makes many exceptions for herself.