transference as violation

I think maybe this isn't 100% fair? To use another example, I hate Mother's Day. People on Facebook talking about how great their mothers are, wishing their mothers happy mother's day, knowing that if I go out to brunch or dinner there will be lots of celebrations with mothers at the center of them. It's all very painful to me because I lost my mother when I was young. Maybe I 'should be' happy for people who still have their mothers around well into middle age, but it's actually an extremely painful day for me, and all this mother/child happiness around me reminds me of a terrible loss and a pain that haunts me terribly.

So I could see how hearing about people's happy experiences with therapy, where therapy has proven to be an excellent experience that has been amazingly helpful and healing or whatever, could be a painful or disturbing experience to someone who had entered therapy in good faith hoping for a similar outcome and who is feeling wounded by an adverse experience.

That's why there is another forum for them. It's a private forum. If people who are betrayed by Ts and hate therapy want a place to vent, then that's the forum to go to. Not here.

Transference that occurs in therapy (or out of therapy, for that matter) is not always positive and, therefore, does not always engender feelings of love, desire, aspirations to be like the object of the transference feelings. My T works very hard to keep me from experiencing transference - I've not asked why - though it does seem to be a distraction to the process. Most of my transference has been negative. No love feelings, here.

You can disagree, but the forum is there for a reason.

People who post about ET, their posts get move over to that forum. Why? People who ask for support of a loved one on that specific disorder get moved to caregiver support forum.

People wanted their own forum for "Clients betrayed by Ts". Why then if they want their negativity here and complain about the positivity?

I cheerfully and without remorse generalize about therapy and therapists as a whole. It is fine with me that others don't agree with me. If it is working for you - go for it. How I (or anyone else except maybe the therapist hired) feels or thinks about it simply does not have any bearing on someone else's experience.

My therapist discourages transference as well. I think it's his orientation - he started out as a CBT person and it seems he has kept bits of that as his style of working has evolved.

That's why there is another forum for them. It's a private forum. If people who are betrayed by Ts and hate therapy want a place to vent, then that's the forum to go to. Not here.