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my dad is making me continue therapy because [and i mostly quote word-for-word] i "havent been doing my chores in a timely manner". not kidding. he thinks im "acting 'off'" because i supposedly havent been doing my chores. WHAAAT???

Therapy shouldn't be a "punishment" - it is an opportunity to heal, to make changes for the better. I don't know how old you are but if you have chores that are expected of you, then you should just get them done so you can do other things that you like.

I have two young boys and I have found that it helps them get chores done when the chores are clearly defined and there is a set time that they are done. For example, feed the dog. The dog gets fed upon arrival home from school. It is pretty much the same time every day except for the weekends. On the weekends I help them remember by reminding them it is time to feed the dog. I do that because the routine is different and they do not have a way to "remember".

Sometimes there are big chores like clean out the garage. That is something planned a few days in advance and it is expected to take x number of hour(s) on a given sat or sun. It is a planned event.

Perhaps if your chores are the kind that can be scheduled or have to be done on a regular basis you could ask your therapst to help you put a plan together that will help you stay on track.

I would think that your dad could work with you on that plan .. afterall, you dad is your parent.

good luck

that sounds like such a better system than we have! for me it's sort of like "hey, wash the dishes" just randomly.

Ask your therapst to help put a plan together with your parents to better manage chores. No one likes to have unexpected work thrown at them with the expectation to drop everything and get it done immediately. Chores are important - the work has to get done by someone - but it doesn't have to feel like slave labor. It sounds to me like you don't mind doing chores .. its just the delivery of the message.

Hang in there - I hope your therapst can help

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amazing is'nt it how the presures of others can set off your triggers. sittin down with ur t is the best way to work it thru..

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Perhaps he is wanting to encourage self-discipline, time management, responsibility, self-worthiness...so that you can master those things and will have a wonderful adult life...

peanuts- yes, you got it exactly right, it's the delivery!
the thing that irritates me most about this is that it's not supposed to be for punishment--it's that my dad thinks theres something going on in my life or my mind that is showing itself in the form of-*gasp*-getting irritated when im suddenly asked to drop everything to do chores that dont need to be done at that moment! oh the horror! i must be unbalanced and need more therapy!

i love it (sarcasm) when people like to see someone in therapy to fix what *they* think is wrong with you. i'm sorry sweetie. Try just licking all the dishes and see what he does then. On second thought, i'm not the best person to advise on anything parent-teen related. Work with your T on what is important to you.

hahaha (((((((((gerber))))))))). yeah, exactly, "people like to see someone in therapy to fix what *they* think is wrong with you" hate that.