[rainbow8]

I feel better knowing that I'm grieving the loss of the relationship I had with my T for 6 years. I'm separating from her and that's growth but at the same time it's a loss. No wonder I'm upset!

Today I emailed her something happy. I wanted her to know before Tuesday. I don't regret the email at all. She answered me already and said we'll continue to discuss the grief I'm feeling. I'm still moving forward and know that separation from T is inevitable. Life is challenging but I'm coping pretty well.

[atisketatasket]

Would it help to think of it not so much as a loss but as a change in the relationship?

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Would it help to think of it not so much as a loss but as a change in the relationship?

I could try that. It is a change but the change involves loss! I'm too stubborn, I know!

[Waterbear]

Oh Rainbow I really feel for you. I am pretty sure that I will one day have to go through exactly the same thing as you are going through now and I am not looking forward to it one bit. I think you are dealing with it all really well and I hope I can do as good as you when I get there. Your T does seem very good and I am pleased for you she was there for you after your session the other day. I do wonder whether you starting to hold hands in session would help slightly. I am going to ask my T to hold my hand again next week, she has done it twice and it felt really nice, like I could feel a connection. I am sure it is there without it but I liked feeling it.

It is a loss, a big loss and one that, if you are not quite ready for it, will be so very tough for you. Just take it slowly, I am sure your T will work through this with you.

[brillskep]

I'm glad to hear you are doing well!

I'm also glad that your therapist is helping you process your grieving. That is important work. Any change involves loss as well, and I am glad you are working through it.