[stopdog]

Does the therapist you hire have a good memory?

[Waterbear]

This one seems good enough for me, but nowhere near as good as old T. Her memory was excellent, remembering things better than me sometimes! I do miss that because it made me feel heard. I have a terrible memory though so I can't expect much from others.

[BrazenApogee]

He is old, and I have found several times where he has forgotten important things. There was once he forgot he had promised he wouldn't bring up a certain subject again because it made me freak out, but he did a year later and I freaked again and we had a big fight. He realized his mistake and we healed the rupture. I like his age and experience though. I have some tough issues and this is the first T I have been able to really talk to. He knows his stuff and is smart. I've learned to forgive his memory lapses. They aren't very often and I can see it bothers him that his age is catching up to him.

I said excellent - she even remembers things I have forgotten that I told her! I really don't know how she does it.

[awkwardlyyours]

None of the options work for me and so, I selected 'Other' -- she has a pretty solid memory about most stuff except when I point out things that she said / did which were f-ed up.

In that case, her memory seems to be worse than a rotting sieve -- she can completely forget, miss the point, distort what she said etc even if it's just the previous session.

In other cases though (not related to where she f-ed up), she has turned out to have incredibly accurate memory even about stuff that happened months ago.

So......yeah.

[mostlylurking]

I put "other" because I try not to test my T's memory, but instead I just routinely include reminders. If, say, my uncle comes up in conversation, I'll say "my uncle so-and-so, the one who blah blah," and go on with what I was saying. Not to the point that it's irritating (I hope!!) but partly to make his job easier and partly to avoid possibly having my feelings hurt if he forgot something important to me.

Generally pretty good, particularly about the things that matter. Not perfect about names all the time, but I am horrid with names myself so that doesn't bother me.

Yeah it's good! I don't understand how he remembers it all as he doesn't take notes. Even after a 9 month break he remembered everything, including the name of my dog.

Y'know I think I need to change my answer but there's not really an option for this. She is excellent at remembering what I have said - but not always so good remembering what SHE has said. Although yesterday, she did clearly remember what she asked me 2 weeks ago, so that was good. Really the stuff she forgets saying, isn't anything earth-shattering for her to remember, it's been like "tapped on the head by a passing angel" kind of comments that have helped ME, but she can't remember saying. When I remind her, she'll be like "oh, good, I'm glad I said it then!" But when she asks me a question - she remembers. I told her once a long time ago that she asks good questions - and she said well that's because you give good answers. I do work hard to answer them and they're almost always very helpful for me.

[brillskep]

My therapist has an excellent memory for the most part. He even remembers things I don't remember having mentioned to him!

[granite1]

my T has a horrible memory but i could be because of her case load she has

[AllHeart]

Good enough for me. There have been a few important things my t has needed reminders about. For the most part though, she remembers most things.

[dizzydoo]

She remembers most of the important stuff, but has forgotten a few things I felt were important.

[Chummy2]

Current T has an ok memory. She sometimes doesn't remember things and sometimes doesn't remember that she asked me to do something for the next session.
Maybe it's because I've been seeing her for only a few months. Or because she hasn't always time between sessions.

Other T (she's on leave at the moment) has a very good memrory. She remembers things I told her months ago or even a few years ago.

Maybe because other T's memory is so good, I'm a little bit dissappointed that current T sometimes forgets things.
Current T takes notes during session, while other T write down notes after session.

[justdesserts]

My t memory. He forgets some things, but owns up to forgetting. Also, his memory is much better now than it was when I started working with him three years ago.

[atisketatasket]

No. 2, excellent memory.

No. 3, pretty good on the big stuff.

No. 1, eh, not good on the big stuff and yet will remember things I said offhandedly

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Very early on he forgot something very important to me and I was still in the phase of comparing him to T1 (who had excellent memory) so I wasn't happy with his memory then, but since then he's always remembered stuff, even stuff I expected him to forget, so definitely good enough for me.

[Out There]

Excellent memory - elephant like and remembers things I don't always.

My current therapist has excellent memory. Former T was really bad, often he did not even remember what he said or did. One thing that really annoyed me in the end is that he did not make an effort to compensate with taking notes, for example he routinely forgot my in advance cancellations and would call me at the time when the session was supposed to be and ask where I was. We had a big fight over this once on the phone, just before I ended it with him.

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by mostlylurking

I put "other" because I try not to test my T's memory, but instead I just routinely include reminders. If, say, my uncle comes up in conversation, I'll say "my uncle so-and-so, the one who blah blah," and go on with what I was saying. Not to the point that it's irritating (I hope!!) but partly to make his job easier and partly to avoid possibly having my feelings hurt if he forgot something important to me.

I do this, too. I don't actually expect my T to remember much.

[88Butterfly88]

Not good. She never remembers what she has me journal about.

[therapyishelping777]

I'm always amazed at my T's memory for not taking notes.

[stopdog]

The first one - the one like a bucket without a bottom - one time make some remark like "well my (her own) memory is not all that good" and then she looked at me like I was going to say "Oh your memory is fine" or some such nonsense - but I just said "indeed - I had noticed" - she gave a small snort and changed the subject

She takes notes - and gives me a copy

[divine1966]

Yes excellent. She remembers everything and she never takes notes. She is older too.

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