[Miswimmy1]

I'm curious as to whether age plays a factor for you when choosing a therapist. How old is your current therapist?

[Raindropvampire]

I'm 40 and she's (I'm guessing) 50s maybe 60s hell could be upper 40s but look older. But I'm pretty sure mid 50s to early 60s.

I've gone to all ages my only requirements is no guys and no religion.

[Loco4]

I've only seen the one therapist, she's 38 and I'm 26. I like the fact that's she's older but not by too much. I thought she was younger, she sure looks it! Age hasn't been an issue.

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[justdesserts]

I put that my t is about the same age as me, and I like that, which I do. Our children are similar ages; we're in the same phase of life. But in reality, he is 6 years older than me, and is a little more experienced, although I have been married longer, etc. Because of his additional experience in life and as a therapist, he's helped me find perspective I'd been unable to see on my own.

[Waterbear]

Older. Mid fifties because I asked. I am early thirties. I needed her to be old enough to be my mother because I need a parent figure.

[divine1966]

Mid 60s, I am 50. I didn't need her to be older but wanted someone with adult children. Our children are actually same age even though I am much younger.

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[honeysalt]

Currently I'm in between therapists (long story) but my last long term one was probably early 30s while I am 19. I prefer older therapists (as in 40-50s) in theory, but for some reason it doesn't always seem to work out. I've been through a lot of therapists already in my life and I'm actually meeting with a new one in an hour and a half. I believe she is in her late thirties though I've never met her so I'm not positive.

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[retro_chic]

My T is in her early to mid 30's. I am 24 so the age difference isn't huge but I still have strong maternal transference towards her. For some reason I tend to gravitate towards female Ts of this age - my last two were of a similar age and female. Weird.

[Chummy2]

My current T 39, 13 years older than me. I didn't choose her, PrevT did. But I didn't want a T who's younger as me. I prefer a T older as 30. PrevT was only 3 years older. She was a good T, but there was a lot of envy from me.

I've seen T of all kind of ages. All T's before PrevT weren't good or weren't a good fit. I don't think age is a important factor for me, but I don't want a T who's younger as me.

[Out There]

Regular T is about 10 years older and I like that ( more life experience ) EMDR T is nine years younger but has those skills that I need.

[jeremiahgirl]

Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

I'm 40 and she's (I'm guessing) 50s maybe 60s hell could be upper 40s but look older. But I'm pretty sure mid 50s to early 60s.

I've gone to all ages my only requirements is no guys and no religion.

Hello, interesting post I personally was "afraid" of men therapist & doctors because of abuse issues. However, I discovered that though abusers were m/f I was not progressing in therapy. I needed a specialist in trauma treatment and that person was a male.
I was petrified of him (LOL) he knew it too! I actually sat at the farthest part of the couch away from him. With all my anxiety (prayer) and trust I was able to progress and get treatment with EMDR. It worked very well, I hope you great success your healing process. My therapist was 62 years old.

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[junkDNA]

im 29, hes 39

My t is 66, I am 54. I like that she is older, has more life experience, is 'a little further down the road' as she says.

[CyclingPsych]

I'm twenty and I think he's in his late 50's or 60's.

[therapyishelping777]

My T I'm guessing is about 10 years younger.. I didn't want a parental type figure so I guess I did choose someone younger partially because of that. Its definately working.

[WrkNPrgress]

I checked "same age" although my T is about 5 years older. I only know this because I googled her. When I first met her, she seemed older but as I came to know her and literally look at her more often I could see that she was about my age and in fact I guessed her age correctly before I ever found it online.

She's closer to my older siblings age. I still see her as 'older' in many ways, as an authority who has matured more than I have in some ways, due to her own experiences. Other times, rarely, I see her as equal or less mature than myself in certain areas. So I sometimes project "Older sister" onto her.

She's a good counselor so that's all that counts really.

[ilikecats]

My T is 56 and I'm 20. I like that she's older.

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[Bipolar Warrior]

Private therapist is mid-40s, university therapist mid-50s. I do like that they are older than me, because they have a lot more life experience than I do, and are both mothers and able to demonstrate to me what healthy parenting should look like. I also think I would hate having a therapist my own age (late 20s), because it would just be another reminder of how I have achieved basically nothing while this person sitting across from me has successfully established her own therapy practice.

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by Bipolar Warrior

Private therapist is mid-40s, university therapist mid-50s. I do like that they are older than me, because they have a lot more life experience than I do, and are both mothers and able to demonstrate to me what healthy parenting should look like. I also think I would hate having a therapist my own age (late 20s), because it would just be another reminder of how I have achieved basically nothing while this person sitting across from me has successfully established her own therapy practice.

I think there's always the temptation to compare yourself to others of a similar demographic--a comparison that's bound to be unflattering when it comes to therapists, as we don't typically see their less-than-ideal parts.

I wouldn't be too gung-ho about seeing a therapist my same age/gender for that reason. But who knows--maybe that's what would make it productive.

[hopeless2015]

I'm not positive but I would guess late 40's early 50's. I'm 45 and I like her a lot

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[precaryous]

I am 62. She is 69. I prefer T's around my age or older. I might revise my thinking for my next T. It's sad realizing T is about to retire.

[velcro003]

My T is only 7 years older than me, but has had more life experiences than me, so the age gap being smaller is okay w me. As a relatively young person, I definitely prefer older. I hope I'm done w therapy as an older person so I don't need to worry about it

[Bipolar Warrior]

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

I think there's always the temptation to compare yourself to others of a similar demographic--a comparison that's bound to be unflattering when it comes to therapists, as we don't typically see their less-than-ideal parts.

I wouldn't be too gung-ho about seeing a therapist my same age/gender for that reason. But who knows--maybe that's what would make it productive.

I get enough of those comparisons from my own family. I have two cousins who are the same age as me; one of them went to Juilliard and now works as a jazz musician in NYC (we're Norwegian), and the other one is a civil engineer in maths and physics with a PhD in statistics. Meanwhile, there's me, still struggling to finish my BA in music at the age of 27, after trying for six years.

I mean, I'm not sure I would have coped with the pressure of Juilliard the way my cousin did, as he is very talented and dedicated and plays both drums and piano professionally. And I absolutely hated science in school and shudder at the thought of a PhD in statistics so I can't say that I aspire to be anything like her. But ffs, they both have their sh!!!t together and I am not even close.

And sometimes it gets worse, like my best friend's American girlfriend who graduated from college when she was 20 (she is now 22). I see people like that and I just want to tell them to go away and stop existing.

Yikes, I have issues. Maybe it would be productive to have a therapist my own age!

[ejayy78]

My t is 7 years older than I am and it works out great. I knew I'd connect better with someone who was around the same age as my peers and not someone older so that's what I sought after when looking for my t. If I had a t younger than me, they may as well still be in high school lol

[Unrigged64072835]

My T is about 20 years older than me. It works out fine. I prefer my Ts to be older than me, but I'm getting up in years so that may not make a difference here soon.