How did it take to form a connection with your T

This is all so strange to me. Having never developed a connection with any of my therapists I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

I connected with my therapist of 9 years probably after a year. I was referred to him by the hospital after I was dumped by the therapist I was seeing then. I felt like I was going to have to convince the new therapist that I wasn't as "difficult" as the hospital claimed I was. He told me that I didn't have to explain myself to him to earn his trust. He pointed out that my behavior was consistent with what he would expect from someone in a mixed state. I was anxious at first about telling him about some of my deep secrets. He was patient and I was able to share these things when I became more comfortable. Our relationship continues to grow stronger. Of course, I get angry with him sometimes or disagree, but he is hard to upset.

For me it was a gradual process that is still on going. I referred to it as 'letting the crazy out a bit at a time', like when you cautiously open a bottle of soda thats been dropped.

Thanks everyone!! Its been interesting to hear everyones experience.. I'm getting a connection with my T.. At first I had alot of walls up for sure, but he's proven safe and trustworthy, even though I didn't know about having a male T , he's been the best ever! and I feel like I'm really trusting him now.. You know when you've thought about filtering what you tell them because you are just not sure,, but then you get to the point where it just "comes out" because you feel that safe..

About 4 months (although it's still on-going). I have definitely felt a difference now. I'm more comfortable in that space, I'm less anxious and finding it easier to share. Although there is still a bit of uncertainty and definitely topics I can't yet discuss.

About a year, although I didn't tell him my deepest secret after two years. Some things I told quickly after we first met, because there was a click from the beginning. The relationship, our connection grew gradually.

I guess it kind of followed a sin wave pattern. It started growing after two or three months, peaked at about a year, plummeted at two years. I hope it is on the up again now.

I've been seeing my t for well over 10 years and still don't have a secure attachment to her. I think my attachment style is disorganized. Even though I've made great progress in other areas of my life, thanks to therapy, I've become more and more negative about my potential to ever heal from my trauma and attachment wounds. The last betrayal I suffered years ago was the straw that broke the camel's back. It destroyed any remaining threads of trust I had. My t is so caring and kind, which means that any step closer I take to her, or any small amount of soothing or care I allow myself to take in from her, it just fuels my most deep and terrifying fear of attaching to someone who will ultimately walk away from my life.

In my experience it is possible to make progress with a t that I don't feel a connection with. The t that I feel the strongest connection with is not experienced with my diagnosis and has not been super helpful in dealing with it. He has, however provided a safe base and support which I desperately needed and I still do. I feel less of a connection with T2 and T3. Probably largely because they are women. But each has been helpful in her own way.

I tend to make myself say things that I think are important to the process of healing even though I don't feel that connection. I think that has helped, along with me being determined to learn from them even though I don't feel all warm and fuzzy about them.

I have been with current T 1.5 years. I thought it was strange we are now just starting to get along a bit and work through the transference. By reading how long it has taken others to get a connection, I don't feel so bad. I'll be patient. This is the longest T relationship I have ever had, but in some ways it is the best. And the hardest.

I either connect with or dislike a T/pdoc right away, but even if I connect with someone it takes me a loooong time to trust them and be comfortable.
I disliked my old pdoc right away and did not and do not and will not ever trust him.
I connected with my old T right away but it took me nearly a year to even start trusting her... sadly she moved away before I was able to develop more trust in her.