[Depletion]

Has your T ever told you that they were seeking supervision regarding something that you brought up in therapy? If so, what was the context? Was it helpful, or unhelpful to know that they were seeking supervision?

Defintions, Supervision
Outside help from a colleague, who specializes in helping Ts with their cases--sometimes it is a group

[Luce]

Yes, my t told us she was seeking supervision because we have DID and she hadn't worked with anyone with DID before. She wanted experienced guidance so she could help us more effectively. In that context it was helpful.

My T seeks ongoing supervision so I'm sure it makes a difference to his practice that I don't even realise. He's a big advocate of career-long supervision so I'm sure he uses it in a thoughtful way.
There have been a couple of occasions when he has mentioned talking about me in supervision. One was during a rupture, and during a session he said he had supervision right after so would see what emerged. I emailed him later and I said I hoped supervision had been useful. He replied that there had been one or two useful insights that he'd be happy to share with me if I wanted to hear them. I never asked to hear them. I didn't think it was the best use of time in resolving the rupture. It's more about him than me. I'm glad he seeks it for himself and that he makes such good use of it.

[Waterbear]

Yes. My T had never used out if session contact before. It had never come up so she took it to supervsion and took some time to see if she felt that working in this way would be sustainable for her and beneficial to me.

She also asked if she could take one of my nightmares to supervision.

I don't really know if it has been useful to be honest, except to help her I suppose, which in turn helps me. It did bring up with me the fact that my T may never have worked so in depth with anyone before which does hinder ever so slightly sometimes when I doubt that either of us has got a clue what we are doing. Realistically though isn't that the nature of relationships? Learn and grow?

Interesting question though because it has been on my mind recently. I want to ask my T if she talks about me with her supervisor. I am very careful about which questions I ask because I don't want answers to some of the questions I have, for fear they won't be the answers I want. I don't think I am ready to know what it is that they discuss, if they do; just whether they do or not. I think I want to know because I want to feel like I matter enough to discuss.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T doesn't have a "supervisor", but she is part of a group of Ts who talk about their practice and get ideas/advice. My T told me that she talked to her group about my ex-T abandoning me. She said that they all agreed that what my ex-T did was wrong.

[itjustis]

My T said I have come up in supervision a few times. She didn't say what it was regarding but I think I can guess!

It doesn't bother me at all, I'm glad she has the help and guidance to help me further.

[Merecat]

Yes my T is also a strong believer in career long supervision, it's a condition of registration for Ts in the UK that they have regular supervision with someone who is independent from their line management structure. And yes, it's useful, I see it hold her very steady in our work.

Yes,

Ex T and current T have a peer group for consultation as well as supervisors. Ex T has brought my case up for peer consult and supervision several times.
Ex T - because I asked for hugs. Because I wanted a transitional object (it was decided no), because she had countertransference feelings of irritation and frustration and overwhelm, because she wasn't trained in Schema Therapy.

I don't know about current T.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by QuietMind

Yes,

Ex T and current T have a peer group for consultation as well as supervisors. Ex T has brought my case up for peer consult and supervision several times.
Ex T - because I asked for hugs. Because I wanted a transitional object (it was decided no), because she had countertransference feelings of irritation and frustration and overwhelm, because she wasn't trained in Schema Therapy.

I don't know about current T.

I don't mean to high jack this thread, but I'm just wondering why you weren't allowed a transitional object? My T gave me a scarf of hers which helped me over the long summer break.

Yes, my T has talked to her supervisor about me, and she also supervises other Ts. When I had an emergency last year and she was on holiday, she gave me her supervisor's contact details and that was very helpful. I know what they've discussed and continue to, and find it supportive.

Originally Posted by itjustis

I don't mean to high jack this thread, but I'm just wondering why you weren't allowed a transitional object? My T gave me a scarf of hers which helped me over the long summer break.

I'm not too sure. I think the reasoning (which I don't agree with) was that it'd foster dependency because I'd be using it to self soothe rather than rely on myself.

All of my therapists and my pdoc consulted with colleagues as a matter of regular practice. I always assumed I might come up as a topic from time to time, and I did on occasion because they told me about it later. It never particularly mattered to me one way or another I guess. Not really supervision though (they were actually more likely to be supervising other therapists/doctors because of their positions) but they had regular consultation meetings where they would bring up issues to discuss with their colleagues.

[LonesomeTonight]

When I told my T about my feelings for my marriage counselor, she told me she was going to talk to a couple other T's (anonymously) to see what they thought I should do--whether I should ask him if I could have an individual session to discuss, if T should tell him, if I should e-mail him, just deal with it in T, etc. I appreciated that she was doing this, since she was admitting she was unsure of what to do in that situation, even though she'd been in practice >30 years. Turned out they all agreed that I should ask him for an individual session (which I did, and it worked out).

[MobiusPsyche]

My T does not use regular supervision but she consults with colleagues when needed. (I'm in the US.) I don't know how many times she's sought consultation but she told me about one time. It was regarding whether having sessions twice a week was fostering dependence or making my existing feelings of dependency worse. (I think her colleagues said it was a bad idea to continue but her gut told her it was okay, from how she talked about it.)

I don't mind being talked about as "a client of mine" in that context. If T finds it helpful to consult, that's fine with me. I actually kind of liked the idea that she took the extra time and that I was special and important enough for that.

[BrazenApogee]

I don't really know for sure, but I assume so. He advocates for T's to have had their own therapy and for ongoing supervision during their careers. He does supervision for other T's and teaches other T's, so I would imagine he does what he preaches. He's very trustworthy and dependable as a T, the most dependable I have ever had. We have had a few rough patches, and he comes back with new ideas that work better. I just assume these new ideas come from his consultation with others. I'm good with that.

[junkDNA]

i am not sure. i know my T is a supervisor to other Ts. but i dont know if he seeks supervision. its never come up. I know he is in his own therapy

[Pennster]

Mine does peer supervision- he has told me a few things that have come up regarding me. I like that he does that- it feels healthy to me that he has a place to go to seek advice and work on questions.

[velcro003]

I knew my therapist was/is in therapy, but she recently talked about a meeting with her supervisor because she was changing some stuff within her practice, so she had to tell all her clients. I have no idea if she's talked about me or not.

[nottrustin]

T is in private practice and does not have supervision. I know she has a few therapist friends that she mentions however, I don't know if it is just friends who hang out. Or if they discuss cliemts

[Wikbit]

My x=T told me that he met with colleagues for consultation after I asked if he had a supervisor. If he discussed me with his group, then either there are a lot of sorry therapists out there or my x=t was pig-headed and did not listen to more knowledgeable experts in the field. BIG MISTAKE.

My x=t needed a supervisor but his ego did not allow it. A supervisor would have put a STOP to the endless torture that my x=t put me through.

I don't recommend t anymore for anyone. It's not what I believed it was. It's not to help the client but to make more money for the therapist.

[kecanoe]

T3 has said that she would ask her "group" about how to proceed with generational stuff with a person with DID. She has mentioned that group a couple of times, I believe it is a group of peers who discuss challenging situations with each other. I am fine with her seeking knowledge from the group and I trust that she will make a good decision about how to proceed.

T1 for sure does not have supervision (I think a supervisor would have intervened in my case) and I am pretty sure T2 doesn't