[PinkFlamingo99]

So I've had a lot of time to think about this in the hospital and I keep wondering about how to let go of the pain from sone things that really hurt me. One was toward an old boss and we talked, and that anger/obsessuve pain disappeared. I'm talking intense pain over things that happened close to two years ago.

The other thing that was really hurt me was getting iver being fired at my last job since I was set up. I recently filed a report with the govt labor board and it felt amazing.

The other thing causing me pain is my ex-therapist. So much went unsaid and it's hard to let it go. I keep getting the urge to email her and tell her exactly how much it messed me up (and I own the bad coping skills). It's been over a year and a half and I wonder if the time would help
Give me closure.

All these things unsald end up on my body, bleeding. The painful words said and the abandonment.

Possible trigger:

to the point where I'm in serious danger now

[LonesomeTonight]

The question is...would sending the e-mail be enough? Or would it only be enough if she responded? Because you unfortunately can't control that... Is it possible also to file a complaint against her, since you said that helped with the job that fired you? Hugs...

[junkDNA]

Sometimes we don't really get closure from things like this
I did file a complaint against my former T
They took his license away.
I sued him in civil court.
That was 4 years ago

I still lie awake at night and cry about it sometimes
But I want to survive and be functional. I don't want to let it break me forever

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[PinkFlamingo99]

I could easily have her lose her job. My therapist even wanted to peer report her after reading the emails. The sad thing is, this isn't what I want right now. I guess I'm scared and sad and I want to tell her that at times like thus, she's still the first person I want to reach out to and I miss her. I'm so pathetic.

[atisketatasket]

If filing a report about your firing made you feel better, maybe eventually complaining about your therapist will too? Just a thought. Taking action in whatever way - talking, filing a complaint, emailing - is you validating yourself and your right to be treated humanely.

If reporting her isn't what you want right now, that's okay. You are under no obligation to. But there may come a time when you feel ready to, and when it might help you, so it might be helpful to just put that idea on hold.
I had the exact same desire to send my first therapist a letter and I even posted an anonymised version on here and asked whether I should send it.
The advice I got was very good - I was invited to consider my therapist's response. How would I feel about no response? Or an argumentative response? (The latter could have drawn me into a dialogue with him which would have been bad)
The one line that sticks in my head from that thread is "it's not possible to disengage by engaging in this way" (feralkittymom) and ultimately she was right. I had to disengage and move forward, and I have, given time.
If I was able to report him, I am now at a place where I might consider it, however he was not a member of a professional body, and it's not a licenced profession in this country, so there's no one to complain to. It is worth holding on to the info you have in case you want to report in future.
Sorry things have been so terribly tough for you. Wishing you healing.

[divine1966]

Can you give a bad review on Yelp or something? It's not as drastic as complaint but it is still some type of action

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[PinkFlamingo99]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Can you give a bad review on Yelp or something? It's not as drastic as complaint but it is still some type of action

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She doesn't even have a yelp page and only has about 5 private clients anyway. She works out of the university counselling centre (scary).

I keeo writing "I miss you and I wonder what really went wrong that you didn't want to see me anymore." I got a different answer every time.

Then I remember it took her 3 months to answer my email saying goodbye. Clearly she stopped caring.

[BudFox]

If she is not on Yelp, any consumer can add her. I can tell you how if you'd like. Just takes a few extra minutes on top of writing the review itself.

[growlycat]

Do whatever you need to do to stay safe if you need to report please do so. Worried about you!!!